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Sunday Confessional: It Was Really Me That Seduced Him

Dear Sugar

I am lucky enough to work at my grandpa's company. It's a family business that's been around for 46 years. My entire family still works there including my grandparents, parents and brother. I started about six months ago.

Everyone in the company is really tight and we only hire close friends that we really trust. Well, there is this one guy that I've always felt close to and I can't help it, but I just think that he's so cute, smart and strong. I know it's wrong. I am 20 and he's 43, but I really like him. I get the fuzzies whenever he passes by me.

The other night, we were closing up and I pulled out a bottle of wine. We drank it and talked for what seemed like hours. I was feeling really close to him and something just came over me. I walked right over to him and began to kiss him. Unfortunately, right as things were getting good, my grandpa walked in. He had forgotten a stack of checks and wanted to cash them first thing in the morning.

When he saw us, he freaked! My Grandpa called him a pedophile and fired him on the spot. I didn't say a word. I know that I am horrible for letting him get fired, but the alternative was to tell my grandfather that I got an older man drunk and then aggressively began making out with him. He can't know that, I'd never be able to look at him again!

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SUGAR-addict-x SUGAR-addict-x 10 years
i agree with reeeeka. this just shows your bad judgement and how you are selfish. you didnt think of what could happen to the man and how this would affect him.
reeeeka reeeeka 10 years
This is where your age comes into play and it shows exactly how immature & selfish you are. You let him take the blame and lose his job because you didn't want your grandfather mad at YOU. That right there would tell you exactly how long this relationship would work...not very long! You need to tell your grandfather, allthough I doubt it would change anything.
Cheena Cheena 10 years
i think that you need to tell your grandfather the truth, just explain what happened and explain your feeling. who knows whether you were the one seducing or he was interested also, but i do think an apology is in order to both your grandfather and the 43 year old that was fired. not for the getting fired, because it wasn't you intention but for the fact that you didn't fess up. really in any other company i don't think that fraternizing with co workers on company grounds is really looked highly on anyway... maybe you two can get to know each other out of work if it was anything... he hasn't contacted you at all, maybe he is upset for that fact, who knows, but yes, the truth is always the best bet when it comes to this situation...
Daisy6264 Daisy6264 10 years
I hope this is a bad joke. You are too young for him.
JK-Boogie JK-Boogie 10 years
forgive..come on what reaction were you expecting from him...??? He is your grandpa he is there to protect you.
Adriana42 Adriana42 10 years
this always fascinates a woman is always looked upon as innocent and the guy always pays the price no matter what might look like an innocent one here to your grandfather and he didnt call u a hoe instead he jumped to conclusions and called the guy a pedophile and fired him.. you're 20 years old which does not make him a pedophile but perhaps you behave like a child and thats what ur grandfather perceives u to be... u should take responsibility for ur dumb mistake and tell the truth if u have a bone of integrity in ur body.
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
The forty-ish guy has quite a bit of fault too, but this gal needs to take this like a woman, especially since she did the seducing.
lilxmissxmolly lilxmissxmolly 10 years
If anything, this girl needs to call the guy she kissed and apoligize. Then she needs to tell her grandfather that they were drinking a glass of wine and both a little tipsy, and that she started it. The grandfather was doing what any good grandfather would do. The older man was doing what any older, drunk man would do. And the girl was doing what a two-year-old who got caught with her hand in the cookie jar would do.
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
I with neural and wow :JAWDROP:
lovelygirl lovelygirl 10 years
Always say the truth
cubadog cubadog 10 years
You both need to grow up! First what were you thinking at work of all places. You screwed up and now you have to take like a woman! Not that he is any better; but you need to take half the fall for this one!
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 10 years
I'm with you Neural. He's old enough to know better. People need to grow up.
Neural Neural 10 years
I'm gonna take an unpopular stance and say Forgive. For one, it's hard for me, as a therapist, to say (or even think!) things like, "I don't forgive". It's just kinda not my nature. But besides that, everyone involved is an adult. It's grandpa's company to run and he can hire & fire at will, according to his powers. The 40 year old is an adult, too. I don't think he was some innocent victim in all of this. He made his choices (not wisely) and now he has to deal with the consequences. As for the young'un who "seduced" him, well, Karma's a bizatch.
Nicadema Nicadema 10 years
NOT. You are spoiled selfish and immature. Great that you are so concerned about saving your own skin and what your Grandfather thinks of you--but what about this man that you supposedly care about who gives you "fuzzies"? How is he going to pay his bills--and GODDESS forbid what if he has a family? I hope he isn't married because that is a whole different rant--and then he would be as stupid and selfish as you are. Tell your Grandfather the truth. Accusing this man of being a pedophile is rather extreme when you are 20 years old--but perhaps in his eyes you have yet to show him that you are "grown up". You probably still act like a child, and your reaction to this situation YOU CAUSED and not taking responsibility for your own actions proves that you still are a CHILD. Be a woman and take responsibility for what you have done and caused.
frenchunion frenchunion 10 years
My answer?not forgive...i'm sorry but u gotta tell ur grandpa what happened..if u feel sthg for this guy & as u said it if he was working in the society it means that ur family kinda trust his judgement so u gotta go for it...Don't act like a child ,& hide urself behind excuses,u may have ruined his life & ur friendship..that's sad for him & certainly for u..So think about it... ----------------------------------------------------------------- 'I wanna know God's thoughts,the rest r details..'
lickety-split lickety-split 10 years
ya gotta come clean, but unfortunately i doubt gramps will believe it since he clearly still thinks of you as a child. the sooner the better, you don't want gramps telling everyone what a horrible guy he is and then have to go back and tell them what really happened. good luck with this one, man you got a tough one here.
jennifer76 jennifer76 10 years
LOL J!!! Bye! I'm going with not forgive. Obviously, your gramps is not going to like this - being that he still thinks of you as a child. I can't imagine calling someone who is attracted to a 20 year old a pedophile. However, I don't know what this man's position in the company is. But this is his CAREER. His livelihood. Especially if a lot of his experience is at your grandfather's company, he will have a very difficult time getting an equivalent job. He's an adult, and he should have thought of all of this before he let you seduce him. Because of that, I'm not going to be too hard on you. BUT, you're sacrificing this man's career to save your PRETEND image with your gramps. Not cool.
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
haha, oh well..
ohsuri ohsuri 10 years
Yeah... opps...
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
LoL! Oh I would just DIE if that really was her in the pic
ohsuri ohsuri 10 years
Chao!! See you later JennaV
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
bye Jenna! :wave:
ohsuri ohsuri 10 years
Ewwwwww..LaylaCams.. grandpappy checks..LOL. That guy lookslike he could be her GrandPappy.
JennaV JennaV 10 years
LOL!!!!! Okay, I am outty before I say something else rude. Later girlies :)
ohsuri ohsuri 10 years
Hahaha great minds JennaV
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