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Sunday Confessional: Taken FWB

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My friends with benefits has a very long distance girlfriend (we're on west coast, she's on east coast). I like to believe they have some sort of understanding so I don't feel guilty about hooking up.

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GregS GregS 7 years
I wouldn't say a FWB is always a bad idea. Like most things in life, it depends upon circumstances. Assume for a moment that they actually DID have the convo (not likely, but stranger things have happened). Or what would happen if they were dating but maybe not exclusively or seriously. And if hooking up is "EEWWWWW", I know who's not getting any. :)
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
^ LMAO. Good one, GregS
GregS GregS 7 years
Of course the convo with the gf never took place...
GregS GregS 7 years
Wow, this is interesting hearing the woman's perspective on this! I'm taking notes... I'll tell you the guy's thought process. Little head is thinking of nice warm, wet environment, tells big head to lie through his teeth. "Yes, absolutely," big head says with a straight face and thoughts of sex running through his gray matter, "we discussed this and we both agreed that while we were away from eachother we could have sex with others. It's just sex and won't affect the love we have for eachother."
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Well said Weffie!
weffie weffie 7 years
If you are just in it for fun, then there'd be nothing wrong with what you're doing (since he's the one cheating, I'd blame him). However, the fact that you'd confess it does indicate some degree of guilt, like jazzytummy pointed out. While I don't wish that someone will fuck your boyfriend, I hope you don't expect this guy to become your boyfriend. He is clearly not worth it... As long as there are no feelings involved have fun, but if you actually like him I'd walk away before you get too attached since he'll inevitably let you down like he's doing with his current gf.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
Take a step back and ask yourself what you're really getting out of this arrangement. It sounds very self-destructive to me.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
If you don't feel guilty, why are you on a confessional? Hopefully, someday you'll have a long distance relationship, and whatever girl is fucking your boyfriend will accept your "understanding" as well.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Stupid anonymous comment #7. If the baby offers you the candy, then you are not stealing it.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
Not your problem this is why you limit your situation with him to meaningless sex also, suspect really no long distance sweetie this is his way of telling you: sex only, nothing more
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
Well. When you play around with dogs, you'll inevitably get fleas.
Skeptic52 Skeptic52 7 years
I'm with mix tape on this one...perfectly said
snowysakurasky snowysakurasky 7 years
why do you even bother with this guy
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 7 years
For some reason this just strikes me as boring. It could be worse, and at least you know what's up.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
Finally, a juicy confession!
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Hey, whatever helps you sleep at night.
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
You're not only hurting the girlfriend, but yourself. You might not see this now, but go ahead and laugh... this will come back to bit you in the ass. Enjoy it while you've still brainwashed yourself to believe everything is fantastic.
elramos elramos 7 years
You like to believe they have some sort of understanding? Well newsflash, if he hasn't told you about any understanding, then there isn't any. What an asshole he is for stringing a girl from across the country along while he spends his time with you. Hopefully that girl realizes and you're stuck with him, you sound perfect for each other.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Ask him. He's been honest about having a girlfriend, he might be honest about that too. Like juice said, the damage is done, so you may as well keep fucking him either way. I does take two to tango, I really don't blame you at all or think you're sleazy. He's the one who is (potentially) being unfaithful. All you're doing is looking out for your own pleasure.
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
"I like to believe they have some sort of understanding" His girlfriends "understanding" is most likely that he will be faithful, regardless of distance. Yes, there are long distance relationships that remain open to sex, but it's not as common. Most people in relationships trust their partner not to do something like that. You two have been hooking up, so the damage is done. I just hope his long distance gf realizes he's a douche and dumps him.
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
I'm all for friends with benefits and whatnot, but I don't dig aiding and abetting an emotional criminal. You might wanna 'believe' they have an understanding, but c'mon....unless you KNOW, and he/she/they've TOLD you....
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