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Sunday Confessional: Wife Confronted Him About His Weight

We're scouring the juicy (but anonymous!) secrets posted on Truu Confessions and letting you weigh in. This week a male confessor tells us that his wife has a problem with his weight.

"Last night she flat out told me my weight is a problem. That hurt me real bad. I actually cried myself to sleep. I haven't done that in a while."

Do you think this is a big deal?

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NurseKimberly NurseKimberly 7 years
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 7 years
My boyfriend and I have both stacked on the weight a bit, he commented on my weight a few weeks ago and I decided to get my butt into gear, so I started to watch what I ate abd started to excersize. However I think my boy's a little tubby, so I suggested we join a gym together. Why didn't this guys wife do that? How about instead of "You're fat!" why didn't she suggest doing exercise together?
bchicgrl bchicgrl 7 years
I think she could have gone about it differently, she could showed concerned that his weight gain would cause health problems and the she wanted him to be around for a long time and that should consider a diet and exercise plan to get healthy. I wish my husband would take better care of himself, I cook healthy food at home but when he goes for lunch at work it's always fast food. I think I have more issues with him not going to the Dr. for a simple check up especially since we have insurance and he doesn't have the excuse of it costing too much.
Spiderlove Spiderlove 7 years
I just flat out told my fiance the other day, "We're fat. Let's not be this way anymore". (reality, I'm a size 5/6 and could lose like 10lbs, he on the other hand could stand to lose about 20). I don't think I hurt his feelings.
lemamike lemamike 7 years
Weight does play a big role in relationships. Not to say one needs to be skinny but diet, exercise and maintaing a consistent weight is good for your heart, muscles, lungs, confidence. Putting on a lot of weight can be detrimental to one's health. I think part of the reponsibility of being married or having kids is taking care of oneself as well. Gotta keep the attraction alive - it's not about being shallow its about being sexually attracted to your spouse. A big weight gain can really hurt the sex life in turn hurting a lot of other parts of the relationship.
ella1978 ella1978 7 years
Okay, my fiance has put on some weight as well, but I didn't have to tell him about it. When he puts on his pants and they are tight, he KNOWS he has gained weight. It's the same with women, they know if they are gaining weight, no need to tell them. They'll deal with it when they are ready too. I think it was rude and hurtful for her to approach him this way. There are much more tactful ways. Have him go on a walk with you, ask him if he wants to join the gym with you, but only after he has mentioned to you that he has put on a few. And most importantly, let him know that it isn't his weight that matters, you love him regardless. You just want him to be happy with himself.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
"Why are we assuming that she was heartless ?" Because we're left with nothing than what the confession infers. That's what I hate about these confessions they're so vague and lacking any details that would help us help the confessor. It's like there's a burgler in the house you have a gun with bullets but no lights so you're shooting in the dark and hope you hit them.
PontNeuf PontNeuf 7 years
Why are we assuming that she was heartless ? I know what its like to be the only one in the relationship who thinks that I should take care of myself so that my partner doesn't have to try and get themselves in the mood for someone whose completely let themselves go. Taking care of yourself is being considerate and loving, plain and simple. No-one wants to tell their partner that they've gained weight, but if it's causing you to be unattacted to them or to worry about their health, I'm glad she cared enough to speak up.
jth jth 7 years
But if you say something in a hurtful way to someone trying to loose weight it rarely it rarely motivates them to get healthy. It just tends to make them feel worse about themselves which tends to lead to more weight gain.
janneth janneth 7 years
So according to him, this is not the first time he has cried himself to sleep over something. Mr. Sensitive, which is ok. But we can't assume she was heartless when she brought up his weight. She said it was a problem, and it is, healthwise. And it is attraction-wise too, so shape up! I know that sounds harsh, but it would be a shame if he focused on his hurt feelings, and not his weight issues.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Well I'll have to gather from his reaction that she did it in a harsh and insensitive way. That right there points out deeper more destructive issues than his weight. There is no reason she couldn't have approached him sportively and included her self in saying we should eat healthier.... start exercising together lets get a gym membership or something along those lines whatever. It's hard to suggest anything really not knowing more specifics.
poptart-princess poptart-princess 7 years
yeah, she could have been nicer, but what it takes to get a man is what it takes to keep them, and men need to remember that bit with their women as well.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 7 years
i agree that there is a way to bring up this topic, from the way he reacted it seems she did it the wrong way.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
They are ways of telling your partner that he has put on some weight. You don't have to be rude in order to make your point across, but this however, seems as if it was done the wrong way. I know I wouldn't like it if my significant other would tell me that I'm a fat cow and he does not feel any desire to touch me.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Ditto on the comment above me.
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