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Not Sure If I Should Contact Him

"Will I Scare Him Off If I Reach Out?"

This question is from a Group Therapy post in our TrèsSugar Community. Add your advice in the comments!

I met a guy four months ago. We were very keen on each other, but I screwed it up by being aloof. He had asked me for my number earlier in the night, but like a fool I was distracted by something and said I'd give it to him later — I hadn't counted on us splitting up. I was talking to my friend about this guy earlier today and we joked that he was "the one that got away." After she left, I decided to Facebook stalk him and found him quite easily. As it turns out, we have a mutual friend, although I don't know the friend particularly well as she is the roommate of a close friend from high school. I am about 90% sure it's him: it looks like him and the degree that's listed is the same one he told me about.

I have not contacted him yet and I'm not sure if I should. He may not remember me, or may not want to speak to me. We lost each other because I'm awkward and because I didn't act as girly as most girls in my situation would have acted. His friend declared that I clearly was not into him — but I was. He sadly kissed me goodbye after that and said he'd leave me alone, but I was too shocked and I didn't want to look desperate, so I didn't do anything at the time.

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Do you think it's weird if I contact him? I stalked him after we first met in an attempt to explain myself but I couldn't find him. Ironically, I met our mutual friend only a few weeks after the fact. That said, I don't want him to message our mutual friend and ask about me. Should I reach out?

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