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Dear Sugar
I told a little white lie to a cute guy that I met last week. He told me that he was leaving the country, so I thought that I'd never be found out.

But after talking with him for hours, he's made plans to come back to see me in a month. I am so excited, but now I am scared that when he finds out, he's never going to trust me again.

The lie was that I was a virgin ... but I am really not. What should I do? Deflowered Dee

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Dear Deflowered Dee
I guess after one conversation you are ready to sleep with him, huh. Don't play too hard to get now, ya hear?

Well, looks like you've learned your lesson about telling lies, but unless this guy is ultra religious, I don't think that this one is going to be too hard to recover from. So what was the point of the lie? Are you ashamed that you are not a virgin or are you just using the lure of virginity to attract men?

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lifer_refil lifer_refil 11 years
There's a lot that wasn't explained, so we're all left to assume. She could be a teen and offered up the info on her own. In this case, stop lying. If he asked, he's weird and again, stop lying.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 11 years
yayita, as i don't know any women who lie about this or volunteer such information at random, i wouldn't know. the only people i knew who did this were in high school. if an adult woman is lying about this, she's got issues. not normal person issues.
yayita yayita 11 years
Why do we assume he asked her if she was a virgin? Sometimes girls lie on their own about this. I personally think she volunteered that lie to him thinking he would like to hear that. I'd like to know how this conversation arose between them. Still, I hope he's not coming back just to bang her.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 11 years
Maybe he's a Muslim or something, they are promised something like 60 virgins when they reach heaven if they do a suicide bombing. I say you allert Homeland Security and hookup with a local guy who will be excited that you are willing and have breasts.
ethiopian_princess ethiopian_princess 11 years
um, what cali and bobskeetes said. i say run. you met him ONCE and he is coming back to the country to see you? where does he live? sausageland? it seems a bit...crazy of him and if the virgin thing drew him in, all the more reason to run.
bobskeetes bobskeetes 11 years
i don't think he'll mind. a guy who requires you to be a virgin is creepy on creepcakes and probably not someone you want to fuck anyways.
caligirl1201 caligirl1201 11 years
Read my first time share blog. He will probably be so excited he won't notice or he asked because he's a prick. Either way I wouldn't sleep with him after this question and there's no need to feel bad about yourself.
oxmomoxo oxmomoxo 11 years
angelbaby angelbaby 11 years
don't think you have to worry-its none of his business unless it happens and then he can be pleasantly surprised
MoSsAdDiCtEd MoSsAdDiCtEd 11 years
Most guys I know would find been a virgin a turn off not turn on
nicachica nicachica 11 years
what's up with this guy asking if you're a virgin or not? that's so rude! i used to have guys ask me that all the time when i was 17/18/19 years old and it really bugged me cuz it was none of their business. if you said "that's none of your business", their reply was always ' you aren't one!' and then snicker. and i'd be like 'ummm...go away' and feel really ticked off that someone felt they had the right to ask something so personal. sorry to rant. this cute guy you're talking to didn't have a right to ask you that and frankly, i kind of question a guy that says he's "leaving" the country and then magically comes back after a month. i get the feeling you weren't the only one telling the white lie, know what i mean? BE VERY WARY OF HIM!
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