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Take Yourself on a Date

4 Ways to Date Yourself and Why It's Important

Plenty of folks who see someone out alone have a reaction of sadness and pity. And while there are certainly people out there who could use another friend, I have a lofty theory on these "loners" that manages to blow my friends' minds more often than not: maybe that girl is choosing to hang out by herself.

Those of us who relish "me-time" will agree that in order to really know yourself, it's integral to spend time alone. Before you can be a great member of a group, or a solid counterpart in a relationship, you've got to know who you are, what you like, and be confident with both. Taking yourself out on a date doesn't make you lame or weird, it means you're an independent lady confident in your own company. And I know you'd be hard pressed to find something sexier, or healthier, than that. Not sure where to begin on this one? Here are four fun ideas for taking yourself on a good old-fashioned date.

  1. Catch a flick. There's something pretty awesome about the collective movie experience, but instead of dragging your man to a film he's not into, or bringing a close girlfriend along for the ride, consider going all by yourself. It's a really interesting experience. One of the best parts? You don't have to share your large tub of theater popcorn and you can put on as much butter as you like.
  2. Grab dinner by yourself. This is one of the hardest ones for people to do since going out for food is typically associated as being a social activity. But don't knock it until you've tried it. Sitting by yourself at a nice meal can be really relaxing and enjoyable. Be sure not to cop out by being attached to your cell! I know sometimes I grab it to look like I'm doing something or I have someplace important to be. Fight the urge. The feelings and thoughts we try to hide from when we constantly engage with others are exactly what we're trying to bring to the surface here. Chow down on good food and good old-fashioned solitude.
  3. Hang at home purposefully. Hanging on your own next Friday night should not be your last resort for plans. Maybe you've had a rough week at work or you could use a little TLC. Instead of heading out to a crowded bar and looking for attention and affection, shower yourself in love. Relinquish the hassle of running around, catch up on your TiVo, drink some vino, and order in from your very favorite take-out spot. Sounds like a perfect night to me.
  4. Picnic it up. Pack your favorite grub, bring your iPod, and enjoy the great outdoors. Instead of looking around or worrying what people are thinking about your solo excursion, plan ahead for activities you love but unfortunately don't make time for. It sounds like you have a great day in store!

Are you a fan of taking yourself on a good old-fashioned date? Add your solo date ideas in the comments below!

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kittymarieweed kittymarieweed 6 years
prepare a home cooked meal enjoy it by candle light with soft music then enjoy a nice hot bubble bath and a good book with or without music ur choice. but it was the best date i ever had... hahaha.
Brittney-Stephens Brittney-Stephens 6 years
These are awesome tips. Full disclosure: I totally relish spending Friday nights in by myself. It gives me a chance to catch up on my blogs, magazines, and DVR, and it actually makes me feel more energized to go out on Saturdays. I started going to movies by myself purely because I hated trying to find someone to go with me! When I decide I want to see a movie, it's sometimes easier to just go than to find someone to join me. And @Pistil and @Annie, going shopping alone is one of the best things ever. Even when I *do* go with a friend, I like to cut away on my own so I can really focus :)
testadura67 testadura67 6 years
I love going to Barnes & Noble, grabbing an iced coffee at the Starbucks there, and flipping through the trashy magazines I don't want to spend money on :)
I-am-woman I-am-woman 6 years
How about a light lunch then browse through art galleries-works for me every time
Lizzie-Fuhr Lizzie-Fuhr 6 years
Agreed @poudeez! Nothing better than that for a little R&R!
poudeez poudeez 6 years
How about a solo spa date? That should be #1.
neonbee neonbee 6 years
I love going to the pictures and shopping on my own. I only go with one of my friends shopping because she's not as opinionated as some of my other friends.
Annie-Gabillet Annie-Gabillet 6 years
OMG, Pistill. I only like shopping by myself. I find it stressful to do it with other people. :)
Pistil Pistil 6 years
I like to spend time shopping on my own, which tends to elicit an "Aw, didn't you have anyone to go with you?" response from everyone.
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