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Tech Dating 101: Canceling Plans Via Text

Welcome back to this week's installment of Tech Dating 101, where geeksugar
and I team up to help you out with the issues that arise when technology and dating meet. We've covered the Internet, but this week it's textual — Enjoy!

Is it OK to decline a date or cancel plans via text?

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Like I said last week in regards to making announcements over the Internet, I prefer face to face or voice to voice contact over text messaging or e-mail, but if you're looking for the easy way out, sending a text is definitely the way to go!

Since there are no rules set in stone, take each scenario into consideration. If you're canceling on a good friend, especially last minute, I'm sure she/he would appreciate hearing your voice and your reason for canceling, but if you're bagging out on someone who is easy going, not too sensitive or on someone you don't plan on seeing again (a bad date for instance), I think sending a text is perfectly fine. With that said, it definitely gives off the impression that you don't care enough to pick up the phone and tell him/her in person so take that into consideration.

I know that some people's main mode of communication is text or instant messaging, so if you don't think the other person would be offended by it, by all means keep your mode of communication status quo, but ask yourself how you'd feel if that person texted you instead of calling and use your answer as your gage.

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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Thank God for texting. Makes it so easy to save time. Who wants to explain for a half hour over the phone? We all know that feeling. If someone canceled on me by text I'd be OK with it. My issue is the timing. As long as the message is sent in a timely manner than I am satisfied.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
As long as it was a plan made by text. I'd rather have a phone call though.
bluebird bluebird 8 years
If the plans were made via text, or not set in stone, I don't see the problem with it. My main mode of communication is text, and when I get a text saying "Hey, are we still on for tonight?" I have no issue with replying "Crap, I forgot, school caught me off guard. Tomorrow?"
Louie Louie 8 years
Inappropriate and rude. Cancelling plans for a date needs to be verbal, not textual.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Mind you if it was my boyfriend canceling an actual date than yes I would want a call but as far as plans with my sister, or friends a text is fine by me-I've done it and they've done it.
GScott86 GScott86 8 years
Sounds like a text message breakup to me.
yaliyah yaliyah 8 years
As tacky as I think cancelling and breaking up over email and text is... I'd much rather hear something than nothing. As a girl who has spent many hours waiting by phones and refreshing email when a guy couldn't be bothered to show me the common decency of keeping me in the loop, I appreciate the cold text over no communication.
anneface anneface 8 years
Unless they're REALLY casual plans, or the person is in a situation where they can't get away to call I say it's a no-no. I'm with dm8bri, it's like saying that you're not worth the effort of voice-on-voice contact.
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
I'm with bella and ski - cancelling plans via text or email is tacky. It shows that the other person wasn't worth enough to initiate voice-on-voice contact. If that's true - why make plans with them in the first place?
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i think it's pretty rude in almost all circumstances i text a LOT and use it as a main mode of communication but i can't think of one time where i woulnd't just call the person to takes less time to just call
Beauty Beauty 8 years
Huh. I would be SUPER miffed if someone canceled a date via text. Like "I will never go on another date with you again" miffed. I just think texts are so tacky in relationships (beyond quick messages like "I'm running late" or "thinking of you").
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 8 years
i don't mind people canceling via text unless its last minute. i have to remind people that when i am in class or at work it takes longer for me to get a text so if you want to cancel last minute, call me.
pippins_halfling pippins_halfling 8 years
I don't think it's a big deal either.
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I don't think it's that big of a deal if it was just casual plans-I've been can canceled on via text and had to cancel myself. If it was a big "to do" as far as plans I think a phone call is better though...
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