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If You Were a Sex-Free Teen, Why'd You Hold Off?

A comprehensive study on teen sex came out by the National Center for Health Statistics, and it shows that more teens are holding off on sexual experiences. Out of those age 15-19, the study found 45 percent of girls and 41 percent of boys reported no sexual contact (including oral sex), compared to 36 percent of girls and 35 percent of boys in 2002. (So apparently Skins isn't as realistic as we all thought.) Experts took some guesses at why this was the case, from "fear of physical consequences" (i.e. pregnancy and STDs) to waiting for a more quality experience that comes with maturity. But I'm wondering, if you waited until later in life to do the deed (or maybe you didn't), what was your motivation?

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leadevan leadevan 5 years
it was for two reasons... im 17 and i have never had sex because my mother got pregnant at 17 and my father was 18... i have grown up with out my parents... i have been living with my grandmother since i was 2 years old... my mother left and my dad was a fall down drunk... i never want to bring a baby into this world to the same situation my parents brought me into
blacksaphier blacksaphier 6 years
Just wanted to make a quick remark about the Skins reference. While it is most certainly exaggerated, Skins is originally a British show. And in the UK the average teenager has had about three sexual partners by the time they reach 16, so you can't directly compare it to the US.
Venus1 Venus1 6 years
I chose not to wait. 15th birthday! It helped me become sexually confident, knowing what I want and my own body's needs. I am now in my 30s and no regrets at all. To this day I have never had sex with anyone who has not given me oral first. It's only polite!
Tabloid Tabloid 6 years
Other -- I didn't dated throughout high school because I'm more focusing on achieve my goal in school than paying attention to boys. Although, I do have some crush on some guys but that was it. I believe virginity is something to take pride in.
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 6 years
I didn't wait, I was 16 and would have had sex sooner but I went through a seriously awkward ugly-duckling phase in my early teens. I started taking care of myself in 5th grade so I was always very eager to start having sex.
looseseal looseseal 6 years
You are far from the only one who's still a virgin at 24, larisa5656. Don't have sex with some random stranger just to "get it over with" by some arbitrary age, though. It's a bad idea for so many reasons. Sex isn't a jug of milk that will expire if you don't use it by a certain time. And it's not like you have to be totally sex-less until you have sex with someone. Masturbation is free.
bellamonkey2002 bellamonkey2002 6 years
I'm 17 and celibate simply because I don't have the time to deal with the drama associated with sex when a teenager. I have the rest of my life to worry about that stuff.
danakscully64 danakscully64 6 years
I didn't wait, but I was almost 19, in college, and with someone I ended up having a 5 1/2 year relationship with. I originally had planned to wait until marriage, but I fell in love. I abstained in high school because I couldn't emotionally handle the consequences of sex (STD's and pregnancy).
larisa5656 larisa5656 6 years
I'll be honest; I'm 24 and still a virgin. Part of this is because I've been really focused on my education and career since high school, but also because I just haven't met the right guy. While part of my would love to just get the whole thing over with (a friend has offered to set me up with a male escort if I don't lose my virginity by the time I'm 30), another part of me believes that sex is an incredibly intimate act that I couldn't do with just anyone.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 6 years
I didn't wait, but the two girls I know who were virgins throughout high school ended up losing it to a semi-random guy, one drunk at a party and the other to a friend. I think they just got sick of being virgins. I lost my virginity to my super hot, dumb as a sack of bricks high school boyfriend when I was 17 the summer before my senior year. For me it was a part of the high school experience and young love and all that, and I'm really happy I got to experience that.
hex913 hex913 6 years
"Other": Fear that my mother might find out and skin me alive. My mom had very strong moral feelings (not related to religion) about waiting until marriage. Guilt kept me in line.
Natalie-Love Natalie-Love 6 years
Did not wait at all! Got my first boyfriend at 13, and were busy at it at 14. I'm the one who initiated. I ended up dating the guy until I was 17, when I broke things off, just not really seeing a future together. Overall it was really fun, and it didn't stop me from being a straight A student, volunteering in the library, etc. Thanks to contraception there was never pregnancy or anything... I don't regret it at the slightest!
looseseal looseseal 6 years
I'm not sure it counts as holding off when the opportunity never came up. As much as TV likes to present teenage as the sexiest age ever, the reality is... maybe not so much with all the awkward puberty hair and other weird stuff happening to our bodies. I don't recall really wanting to have sex at the time. Even wanting a boyfriend as a teenage girl was just because the idea of it was romantic. The sex ed I got was really focused on pregnancy and STDs, and yes, there were definitely some body image issues happening at the same time. But ultimately, I wouldn't say those were the deciding factors. It wasn't religion, either. As for waiting for the right guy... it's not like I was sexually frustrated because "the right guy" never came along in high school. I think the most important reason is that I simply didn't have fully developed libido until later. I'm not sure I would have held off for any reason if I really wanted to have sex as a teenager. Impulse control wasn't a strong suit back then. Hee.
Pistil Pistil 6 years
Lack of interest and opportunity, I guess. I didn't date in high school either. A few of my friends were virgins, too. And the ones that were sexually active didn't gab about it, so it it wasn't like there was a stigma.
Wild-Magelet Wild-Magelet 6 years
Truthfully, a combination of body issues, low confidence and lack of opportunities. And now in my mid-twenties, it's happened as a result of several years of chronic illness. Really, universe, I'm not a horrible person: I'm sure I should be getting some good sex karma by now. :D
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 6 years
Uh other... no one wanted me :/ Had I had my way, I probably would have had sex by age 14, even though no one else I knew was. It was just something I was thinking about a lot, and something I was very interested in. I did finally lose my virginity when I was 18, and it was to someone I didn't know that well, but he seemed nice enough. So I can't honestly say I was waiting for the right guy.
Lenay Lenay 6 years
I am and always have been a very, VERY private person. For me to be that intimate with another person, I have to trust them not to hurt me (whether deliberately or unintentionally). The thought of being sized up and compared to other women when I'm naked would drain all of the pleasure from the experience. So I waited until I found someone I that I could trust not to do that. I thought there wouldn't be a comparison because he told me that it was his first time too. He lied.
amber512 amber512 6 years
Other reason: Because I wanted to wait for marriage. Not just the right guy, but the man whom I married. Not for my religion, for me.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 6 years
The reason I didn't have sex in my teens was a combination of waiting for the right guy and not wanting to get pregnant. When I was 15 I thought I met the right guy and I did do everything from making out to oral sex but not intercourse. My mom had my brother when she was 17 and while she has managed to create a great life for herself and us I know it was a struggle. From a young age my mom was very honest with us about how difficult it was to raise us, work and go to school even with the support of my dad and their families. Her experience had a huge influence on my decision to wait to have sex.
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