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Thinking About Becoming an Escort

Sunday Confessional: I'm Thinking About Becoming an Escort

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I am thinking about being an escort. Independent, choosing my own clients. I love sex, why not get paid for it?

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boybull boybull 5 years
Lady, please think about what your about to do to your self I know meny ladys of the night and the one thing they all have in common is that they hate their lifes and sex becomes dirty its not something they enjoy at all. and after you have had 2 or 300 nasty men putting their hands all over your wonderful body or their dicks in your mouth you won't enjoy it any more. Please think about this its not something youd want your friends or family to know. and you think it would never happen but one wrong move on your part and your name will be in the mourning paper asying you were put in jailed for prostitution what about your kids if you have any or your mom and dad . how meny lifes would this hurt ? Please think about what your saying Good luck young lady.
InDePenDant InDePenDant 6 years
I have red so many of these comments and until you have been an Escort you do not know what you are talking about!! I have been a Private Fetish Escort 4 ((11 Years)) & I LOOVVVEE it....I'm very Private , I have had alot of fun in the 11yrs....Never any problems, always treated very good....My clients pay me Very well and they love to visit me , every week-every month --whatever the case may be....You just need to be very safe , don't see just any1 for the money , pick who you want to see .....If I don't like you ,I don't have to book an appointment with you......I'm not desperate 4 Money I just love spending it....& It's my call I never have & never will do anything I don't want too!!!!& not all escorts have sex with clients & if they do Use Protection....That's just Smart & safe .......Always Protect yourself no matter how long you have none your client, I never Trust any1 2 much!!!! :))
SeriouslyThough SeriouslyThough 6 years
I can't believe I'm the first to say this: This is not what God wants for your life. Prostitution hardens your soul. Find a good loving husband if your passions burn so strongly and please don't poison your mind and body with prostitution. God loves you, you are His child.
88BrockU88 88BrockU88 6 years
If you really think you can stomache it then go ahead... but remember u r not having sex with ppl that u want to be having sex with... not to mention the millions of STD's that are floating around.... just saying... i am not for this at all but it is your life so you do watever makes you happy
KatieGeorge KatieGeorge 6 years
I thought about being an "escort" not the sex kind, just the one that escorts men to dinner parties and work functions, then sex is negotiable. I was in a desperate financial situation and it seemed like a good idea. BUT I got a job at a strip club instead. I would suggest trying this first. The money is GREAT, you get in good shape, and don't work all that hard. Its very fun and the men aren't allowed to touch you. Plus, you are always getting offers to do private parties (which I WOULDN'T suggest unless you have a body guard to accompany you and wait outside).
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 7 years
The first thing I would think about is the high risk of STDs. The second thing I would think about is how being a prostitute would jeopardize your chances of being in a relationship. I don't know many guys who would be comfortable with dating a prostitute. Maybe it's not a concern for you right now but think about your future. Also, like the others said, potential risk of getting caught. I think this "career" choice could really mess up your future and you should reconsider it. And I'm not only talking about you, I'm against prostitution for everyone, women like men. I feel like selling your body is degrading and something that could hurt you psychologically as well. Doing a "job" that you are not proud of telling people around you for example doesn't seem rewarding to me. But that's just my opinion.
GregS GregS 7 years
I've used escorts before and I wouldn't consider myself an old man at the time. In fact, I was fairly young. I don't think I"m particularly unattractive, either, then or now. The thing is that most escorts (my experience) offer the basics. Most men are fine with that. Kinky stuff goes premium, and the girl dictates how much or whether she'll do it. The risk of being forced into something is probably there, but there are a lot of safeguards, too. First, go to a client at a hotel. They'll have a registry so if you are robbed, beaten, raped, whatever, you have names, addresses and credit card info at the hotel. The bottom line is, why are you thinking of it? If I were you, I think I"d find an agency that at least does referrals for you. You could do it part time and when you felt like it.
Janine22 Janine22 7 years
A few things about this. First of all, I would imagine that there are not many independent escorts that have not already been in the business awhile. How are you going to be certain that you will be physically safe and not suffer abuse, rape, or be murdered etc... if you do not have a pimp or madam to protect you? How are you going to recruit safe, high quality, discreet clients if you have never been in the business before? And lastly, I would think that the sex is very unlikely to be enjoyable for you most of the time. Most of the clients will be old or unattractive men and men that women in the real world would not want to have sex with for whatever reason. Does not sound like a turn on to me. In addition to that, your pleasure during the act will not be something that they care about, as they are paying you for their own selfish reasons and will probably just use and abuse you. I feel sad for you that you would even consider this for yourself but I would have to assume that you are either really desperate for income or have a very unrealistic perception of what it will actually be like, or have suffered sexual abuse or some other type of abuse and are able to completely emotionally disconnect from your body. If you have suffered abuse please consider getting counseling to deal with it. If you are determined to do this then consider ways that you can protect yourself and be very selective about the clients. I am scared for you!
RoaringSilence RoaringSilence 7 years
I think about this the same way I think about most things I do for fun (like cooking, or, well, having sex): I know that if did them as a job, I wouldn't enjoy them at all any more after some time. I hope it doesn't happen to you if you do end up doing that. Read up on Annie Sprinkle for some insight.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 7 years
Enjoying sex isn't a good reason to become an "escort". I have taken several classes about sexuality and have had the chance to meet/interview many prostitutes. The majority of them admitted that they don't enjoy the sex. Being independent might allow you pick your own clients but if you want to make a decent living you are going to need to have several clients. Lets face it the majority of men who go to prostitutes aren't handsome men.
Studio16 Studio16 7 years
While I think prostitution should be legal, I certainly do not approve. I also think it's silly when they call themselves "sex workers" or "escorts" to make themselves sound classier. At the end of the day, they are selling their bodies for sex and that's not classy. I say go for it if you really want to do it. Just make sure it's what you want to do. My concerns would be legal matters AND clientele. At least when you're at a bar, you can say, "No no no, you're a morbidly obese man who smells like pork rinds, no thanks." If he comes up to you and says, "I want to have sex and I have the money," I don't think you can very well deny him. That said, I haven't boned up on the business of prostitution in awhile.
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
Lol at "remain classy"^^ By all means!
lickety-split lickety-split 7 years
Well first off you can't even own it. You'd be a whore, not an escort. Likely exposed to STDs. Loving sex is great for relationships, but you'll just be fucking. No emotion, no love, no affection. And once they get off; game over. Don't think they'll care about your pleasure. If you must be paid for sex: How about a sugar daddy? Pays better and there's just the one partner who wants you to be happy :)
jazzytummy jazzytummy 7 years
I love how people use euphemisms like "escort" to describe prostitution, as if calling yourself that makes you a "higher class" of hooker, and different from all of the poor women standing on street corners waiting for drive-ups. I think sex work should be legal as well, but call it what it fuck for money, you are a prostitute. You need to decide if you want this on your "resume" when you think about your future, either personal or professional.
lilegwene lilegwene 7 years
There are so many risks involved. You really need to be with a legal organization in Nevada or at least have some safety procedures set up with another person who can get help if your client decides to rob you, rape you, or worse.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
If that's what you like, it is your life. But think about the downs. Sure, you like having sex, but it is not the same thing having sex on your terms than on your clients' terms. It's not the same visiting a hotel and working in a hotel. Prostitutes usually have to comply to their clients' wishes and do things that are very unpleasant: getting beat, freaky things, etc. Also, you risk being imprison.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 7 years
One of the things I'd be concerned about is the legal prosecution because it's not legal (unless in Nevada? I'm referring to the Bunny ranch). And it is high-risk (for STIs and possibly your safety depending on the clients, not to mention potentially other type of jobs you may want to get in the future--if you're caught), but it's your life, your body and your choice.
postmodernsleaze postmodernsleaze 7 years
^ I agree with both of those comments. I strongly believe sex work should be legalized, but think about all possible repercussions and also think about the freedom of choice in clientele. It won't be a buffet of sexy men all the time!
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
If you really think you can handle it... go for it. But please don't think it's all going to be roses right from the begining. As far as picking your own clients... I'm no expert, but until you've established yourself you're not going to be making the big $$$$$ and sleeping with only mega-babes. Like any job, you need to earn a reputation for being good before you're in demand. If that's not something you're willing to work for, you may want to put your focus elsewhere.
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