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This or That: Tiny Pad or Parents' Place?

This or That: Tiny Pad or Parents' Place?

Financially speaking, times are tough for you and your fiancé. He was recently laid off and your job doesn’t pay well to begin with. Unfortunately, he’s been having a difficult time getting a new job, and now that your lease is up, you guys need to downgrade in order to make ends meet. Your apartment hunt has hit a few snags, but you desperately need to get out of your current place before drowning in credit card debt. Would it be worse if . . .

This: You get stuck with the only affordable apartment around, which is a 200-ft. studio that doesn’t even have a closet? The neighborhood is nice, but still, you'll literally be stepping all over each other.


That: You end up back in his old bedroom at his parents' house, who only asks that you’re home for dinner every night, and breakfast on Sunday mornings? It's spacious and cheap, but they're completely demanding!


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3JPoet 3JPoet 9 years
tiny apartment. use this time to build your relationship to higher grounds.
refinnej refinnej 9 years
would rather have my own space. though we'd def have to find the money to store everything. =)
rpenner rpenner 9 years
much much rather have our own space, even if it's small
stefsprl stefsprl 9 years
I think these things are worded in a confusing seems like Dear is asking people which is worse, and people are picking the one that they would prefer when they discuss things in their comments... That being said, I would much rather have my own tiny space than live with either my parents or my in-laws. You can go to a coffee shop or bookstore or something if you need space from your s/o and your little apartment, but I can't imagine being accountable to parents when I haven't lived at home for 8 years.
Marci Marci 9 years
Living with his parents would be alot worse than 200 sq. feet.
Indigo4320 Indigo4320 9 years
Small place for sure! We don't live together, I'm not opposed to it or anything but we haven't made that leap yet. I'd be ready for it soon I think but he moves quite a bit slower than I do.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
i think living with his parents would be worse. I love his parents, and we get along great...but he lived with them when we got together..and I pretty much lived there too...I dont think we could ever go back to that. then we lived in a decent sized apartment, but had two other roommated (2 of his freinds) so we pretty much just stayed in our bedroom all the time, that sucked pretty bad too, but atleast we didnt have any rules that we had to abide by.
javsmav javsmav 9 years
I voted "that" because there is no way I would ever live with my future in-laws (or my parents). i just don't think it's good for a relationship. In a small apartment you may not have much space, but you can still go out to a coffee shop or something for alone time (or make your fiance go out if you don't want to be around people at all).
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I'd probably move in my either set of our parents. It would be temporary and we could save money. We both love both sets of parents though so it wouldn't be much of an issue!
Martini-Rossi Martini-Rossi 9 years
Ima go for number 1.
rosey_y rosey_y 9 years
I've actually been in both exact situations with the same guy when I was younger. Option 1 hands down!!
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
It's a tough decision but I think I would go with the small own space over living with the demanding parents in this scenario. If the parents were cooler, not demanding we were home for dinner every night etc then i might consider it. My ex lived with his parents while he was finishing uni, and once I got used to it, it didn't bother me since he had his own space and everything.
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
believe me i love my parents and my future in laws but i do not think that after living on my own for over a year and 1/2 i could possibly go back to living with parents again.
ayanaphil ayanaphil 9 years
I watch A LOT of HGTV and I could probably make that small space work.
em113 em113 9 years
i think they need to figure out a better way to word these. Most people are commenting "this" and saying they'd prefer to live in a smaller place, but the question is "which would be worse" so if you choose "this" you're saying it would be worse to live alone in a smaller place... I chose that. who needs demanding parents..
retrodiva retrodiva 9 years
No way would I live with my parents, no matter how cool they are. It's still their house, and as long as you're living under someone else's roof, you are not completely free to run your own life. I'd take a studio apartment with the bathtub in the kitchen over the freedom to do as I please.
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
This - my boyfriend and I have experienced living together in a tiny dorm room and we were totally fine. Any apartment would be luxurious in comparison.
julieulie julieulie 9 years
Oh I would absolutely rather have our own tiny place rather than move in with either of our parents'. I can't imagine how much a 200 square foot place would suck (we live in a 700 square foot condo now) but I personally ever said that if I had to move back home after college, I would consider myself a failure, just based on my own personal goals and priorities (no offense to anyone else -- not everyone sets the same goals as me!!). That said, my fiance is moving back in with his mother after we are married, since he did not match here and will be doing his residency back in his home town. I personally would never do it, but he is willing to do so, and truthfully we can't really afford to pay the mortgage on our condo in DC where I will continue to live until I get my Ph.D. AND pay for him to rent a place in Center City Philadelphia, especially when he has $200K in medical school loans to pay off....
iamangiepooh iamangiepooh 9 years
This. I wouldn't mind being cramped up with my boyfriend<3 :)
bellaressa bellaressa 9 years
1st. I think it would be hard for me to move back in with my parents I would feel weird. My parents would love it but I think I would like my own space.
JennyJake JennyJake 9 years
The parents start "helping" a little to much after a while. They want you to have your own place, so get one, no matter how small. If anything it will bring the two of you closer and you will get to know what living together is really like.
ptotheenguin ptotheenguin 9 years
In this situation, a tiny space. However, if it were just me, single as I am, definitely my parents' house.
almost-famous almost-famous 9 years
Yep the first one!!!
Merlin713 Merlin713 9 years
Moving back in with the parents wouldn't be bad. Both of our parents are awesome and we see family all the time so it wouldn't be bad. Plus, having more than one bathroom is pretty much essential(I have ulcerative colitis). That's the selling point on this one. Unfortunately.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
Option #1 for sure...
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