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Tips For Being on Top

When it comes to sex, there are many fun positions to try out, but if you like to be more intimate, you'll probably prefer being face-to-face. If the woman is on top, the beautiful thing is that she's the one in control, so check out these tips on how to make it even more exciting.

  • Since you're the one doing most of the moving, try varying your speed.
  • Don't just move up and down; try moving your hips in circles for a different sensation.

Want to know what else you can do on top? Then

  • If your man is quick to orgasm, tease him by moving slowly. Not only will this keep him from getting too excited too quickly, but it'll also be pleasurable for you.
  • Try different positions — it's fun to mix things up!
  • If you need clitoral stimulation, sit up and lean back so he can use his hands to pleasure you.
  • If you want your torsos touching, try using a vibrating ring — they're small yet powerful.


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SugaPuff93 SugaPuff93 7 years
this position does NOTHING for me :S it feels great nd all but when im in that moment i get confused on what to do, and end up fussing if he's enjoying it or not.
jrocket101 jrocket101 8 years
Woman on top is just ok. many better ones.
samyal8r samyal8r 8 years
yea i feel so nervous being on top. it was a backwards process for me. the first time me and my boyfriend had sex together i was really condifent and he really seemed to enjoy it. now, im very concious of myself to the point that i can barely enjoy it or get into it. i just feel like he's not liking it and that makes me een worse you know? i need a psychological cure cause i think i have what it takes ;)
xoxoxx xoxoxx 9 years
SAINTS, ALL OF YOU. Thanks for this. I always feel awkward on top, so I tell Beau to guide me, so to speak. After that I get into the rhythm of things, but it takes a while. I prefer being on the bottom because I get to relax, and he prefers me on top because when HE'S on top, he comes very quickly. We are at a crossroads...haha.
lady-T lady-T 9 years
i LOVE being on top! its the only way i can orgasm!
majic-nik majic-nik 9 years
If you feel uncomfortable perhaps you should be reconsidering your relationship. Sex of all kinds, top or bottom, lights on or off should be with someone you trust completely. Your partner should be someone you know loves you for every stretch mark, or extra pound. If you fear his reaction to your body, your 'sex faces' or anything else, it's time to re-evaluate. But first and foremost you MUST be comfortable with your own body,,,,love yourself first, good sex will follow.
chikie chikie 9 years
if you feel a little strange being on top try taking his hands and moving them across your body where you dont worry as much. like your outer thighs and breasts. it will guide it eyes to look there as well. and after a while you wont really care where he is looking.
Isista Isista 9 years
Thanks for these tips! Since we tried it, I'm very uncomfortable on top. Some of these tips might make me feel a little more comfortable :)
kathynyc kathynyc 9 years
I feel the same way. I also feel like whatever i do, I'm not doing it correctly. I feel wayyy to conscious about my technique. I wish i could just let go and have fun with it, but i don't think i can.
jazzybelle jazzybelle 9 years
i always feel like i don't know how to do it on top! it just never seems to work right. : ( more tips, anyone?
smoochiez smoochiez 9 years
i love being on top! it feels great for me, but doesnt last long even when i do move slow ( moving slower gets him to orgasm even faster!)
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
fireannach: it really is different with different penises... one guy did absolutely nothing for me on top, another one it would be a matter of seconds. the size and positioning of their equipment matters just as much as ours :) For all the girls saying they are self-conscious, trust me, the last thing the guy is looking at is your belly. To a guy, girl-on-top means BOOBS. I think I read in Cosmo (so it must be true) that just before a guy orgasms, he thinks you're the most attractive thing on the planet!
tweet-hotpants tweet-hotpants 9 years
i like being on top- but only with the lights OFF! i'm way too self conscious
jessie jessie 9 years
i hate being on top....
rumpel2 rumpel2 9 years
I prefer being on the bottom as well, but I'm looking forward to trying out the tips from dear and tidalwave ;)
minaminamina minaminamina 9 years
I don't feel self conscious about me or my body when I'm on top, but about my technique. I feel like I'm doing it wrong and I feel weird up there! I don't come vaginally at all, just through clitoral stimulation, so it's nice to be on top since it's easier access for me and him down there, but I just really prefer being on the bottom.
bellydancinmary bellydancinmary 9 years
Woman on top does absolutely nothing for me.
fireannach fireannach 9 years
i can't actually be on top? i have always wanted to but there is just no way we can make it physically work. my gyno said that the angle of my vaginal canal (haha, wayyy tmi) is what makes it so difficult. oh well!
MissMeow MissMeow 9 years
Mmm, I was just on top last night, and he couldn't stop talking about how sexy it looked. I've always been a natural at being on top - I already knew all these tips. Makes me want to go do it again now.
sb123 sb123 9 years
thanks for the tips...i just may have to "practice" tonight!
bengalspice bengalspice 9 years
indielove indielove 9 years
"Why do i feel like i am always doing it wrong in girl on top? I am usually pretty comfortable with my partner, but I can't help but feel self-consious in that position." I don't think most guys care, they love the visual of girl-on-top. I really understand why you'd be self conscious though.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
i love being in control couldnt have it any other way, well sometimes i let him, i love being on top so fun and the orgasms are magical, damn tidalwave thanks for the tips, i have a job to do tonight
TidalWave TidalWave 9 years
Wow, the only way I orgasm is from being on top or doggy style. Missionary does absolutely nothing for me. I love being on top because it feels soooo deep. He enjoys the view too ;) A great way to tease him is to slowly lift your hips up as if you want his penis out, then plunge back down on it. The sensation and tease of him almost leaving you will make him just want you more! I also like to change up whether I am leaning back (with my hands either on his chest or his thighs) or if we are chest-to-chest which is really intimate and lets us kiss.
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