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True Confession — Can I Lie and Tell Her He Has an STI?

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"I found out my boyfriend cheated on me. I know the girl's phone number and email address, so would I be forgiven if I were to tell her he has an STI, even though it's not true? I just want her to feel some sort of consequence, even if it's just until she gets tested."


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lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
I would tell her if she didnt know.. him, just dump the loser.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
it totally depends. if the girl knew ure guy was taken, then u can totally do it. cheaters need to be served. that bitch ought to go down. so does ure bastard bf.
Kat-E Kat-E 8 years
I was totally "the other woman" without knowing it and the girl before me pulled that crap. They weren't even dating, just having a "friends with benefits" relationship, but she was always hoping for more. When he told her he couldn't sleep with her anymore because he wanted to date me, she got pissed and lied about having the clap. I got tested ASAP and everything was clear, thank God. I hate that stupid girl, I should have sent her a bill for my doctor's appointment.
AlexE70 AlexE70 8 years
Why even bother with revenge? And why focus on HER? It's simply not worth the time or energy. Besides, you don't want the karma pendulum to swing back your way. If you want to be angry and are still hurt, focus it where it belongs, on HIM.
yeahidid yeahidid 8 years
Do it while you're still pissed, be smart about it, be sure he gets a bigger shit sandwich to eat than she does, plan your exit strategy before you execute your revenge
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
I agree with mommaof2. If she knew, go to town, tell her it's HPV, say its the clap, go as far as you like. If she didn't know, tell her he was taken and leave it at that.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
Well, I agree with karlotta, b/c if she knew that he had a gf, she totally deserves something for being such a horrible person. Buuut, looseseal is right I think. Even though karlotta's answer and similar answers would probably make you feel better, and the girl totally deserves some revenge if she knew what was going don't want to hurt yourself in the process. And yeah, the STD thing would probably come back on you and everyone would just think you were a crazy liar. And I agree that you need to remember your douche bf. Why aren't you angry at him? He is just as much at fault as the girl. Get rid of him and just move on.
Shadowdamage Shadowdamage 8 years
I would say don't do it. Once the truth comes out you will look silly - and right now, you don't, right now you're just the person who got burned. Take the high road, and dump both of these tramps from your life, starting with the useless wanker of a boyfriend! :P
AlexE70 AlexE70 8 years
Well said, chatondeneige. :-D
butifulparty butifulparty 8 years
i'd tell her. i might be a little harsh, but i assume she knew she was the other girl and because thats the case, what right does she have to intervene in someone elses relationship? i have no respect for that, no matter how much at fault the bf is, she should have left well enough alone. so tell her, and feel good about it. if she comes back later and says you lied, who cares. maybe you did and maybe she just didnt get it yet ;)
xopiperxo xopiperxo 8 years
big the bigger person and move on.
98769876 98769876 8 years
My husband says "That's being nice! It's cooler than slashing her tires." I concur. Dump him and email the be-yotch.
HelloAnia HelloAnia 8 years
Karma: She actually gave him an STI and he passed it to you already. Zing... This is the dumbest thing ever, like it's been said over and over again, it's between you and him.
Janine22 Janine22 8 years
Why are you mad at her when YOUR BOYFRIEND is the one that has made a commitment to be in a relationship with you, not her. Your bf is the one that has done something wrong here, perhaps you should direct your anger at him!!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Oh, this is a bit uncalled for isn't it?
looseseal looseseal 8 years
Oh come on, it's pretty harsh to call her names when she's hasn't even yet done this thing she's only contemplating because she's having such a hard time dealing right now. Doesn't it smack of kicking someone while they're down? Seriously? This is pretty tame as far as revenge goes. Everyone should get checked up regularly, anyway. If I got cheated on the first thing I'd do is get tested for STIs myself. Before you do anything, take a moment to consider whether it can end up hurting you. If it can, it's not worth it. It is true that this is just going to make you look bad, so because of that, I say don't do it, for your own sake. I've been there, I know how you feel. It's really easy to misstep when hurt and anger is clouding your better judgement. You know what they say: "Revenge is a dish best served cold." Wait until you can be cool, calm and collected, THEN come up with some plan for revenge if you still feel like it (but when the anger and hurt die down - and, trust me, it will - you're probably going to be like "Nah, whatever, it's not worth the hassle.") In the meantime, it's no harm no foul to have revenge fantasies.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Immature much? If she didn't know he had a girlfriend, then tell her that. If she did, then they deserve each other anyway and will get what's coming to them in the end, without you making up stories and stirring up drama.
MissJules5x MissJules5x 8 years
he's an asshole and he cheated- she didn't. he was the one in the relationship with you and decided to deceive you. this girl has no obligation to you. you won't feel any better about it. when it comes down to it, he still cheated on you and while thats a shitty thing to do, it wont make it right and you won't feel any better about it in the long run. you'll just look like the psycho ex. leave it alone. move on and find someone that won't treat you that way. if he continues to see this girl he will probably cheat on her as well. she will learn her own lesson when it comes to him, but its not your place to get involved.
CYL CYL 8 years
Jesssie "Women really have got to stop this cattyness. It is so true when they say women hate women." I know eh? Sometimes we are our own worst enemies
chatondeneige chatondeneige 8 years
Are you kidding me? This is completely ridiculous. You have NO RIGHT to be mad at her. She didn't make you a promise of fidelity. He did. She didn't break a promise to you. He did. She didn't cheat on you. He did. So explain to me why you're pissed at her? What you're considering is immature, hateful, and pointless. If I did something that ridiculous, I'd lose respect for myself.
AlexE70 AlexE70 8 years
I agree with Marni7. Betrayal like that can drive you to do crazy things. But playing a serious prank like that on the OTHER woman isn't the way to go. But, nor is "beating down" the b/f. I understand the serious hurt involved, but violence is never a solution, regarless of the pain it's caused you.
Mykie7 Mykie7 8 years
Okay I've got to be honest. The politically correct answer is "No way, do NOT do that, it's wrong. Two wrongs don't make a right" etc etc. BUT This is something when I was in my early 20's and dating I might have done. It's just vindictive enough without causing long term damage. Obviously if she's tested she'll know it's a lie, and he can prove it is by being tested himself. BUT, remember too that Karma is a b***h and if you do something like this then be prepared for it to come back on you ten-fold.
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
Not forgive, even if the woman knew he was taken she didn't owe you anything. It should be your ex bf you channel your anger at. Plus threatening somebody's health just seems tasteless regardless of the cause. Come out of this the classy one, not like some Jerry Springer trailer trash. Women really have got to stop this cattyness. It is so true when they say women hate women.
Marni7 Marni7 8 years
You dont even know if the girl had any idea he even had you in his life. So why dont u take all that built up anger and device an evil plan for your MAN, you know the one that actually directly betrayed you
thelorax thelorax 8 years
Well, if he cheated on you, he might!!! YOU better get tested. Oh, and...forgive.
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