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True Confession — I Love Casual Sex!

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

I hate being alone, so I settle for meaningless sex. I love the attention and the closeness I feel, even if it's just pretend, but my number of sexual partners is rising by the weekend! I know casual sex has a bad rap, so can I be forgiven for loving it?

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tayrose tayrose 7 years
Bella14Stella and Khadee, REALLYYYY??? You two are sitting here judging a girl and calling her a "slut" and having "no self respect" because she enjoys casual sex. It is her own god damn body and she will do whatever she pleases with it. There is nothing wrong with casual sex, its her own choice. Yes, it is very important she gets tested often and protects herself every time, but there is no need for you two to slam this girl. Anyways, I obviously chose forgive. Sometimes it takes a few guys to get in under her skin and show her that casual sex is not the only way not to be alone. I really think the whole casual sex thing is a phase.
horny-me horny-me 8 years
there's nothing wrong in it. u r free to do whatever makes u happy until it harms u or anybody else. it's ur life and u have to live it the way u want. it doesen't make u a hooker for sure. and don't care about what the people think ! it hardly matters. but still, to be on a safer side , try not to make things too public as some people(esp who dislike u, if any) might take wrong advantage of it in future, maybe! so use condoms, be safe and satisfied..chao !
Felicidade Felicidade 8 years
If you are safe and happy there's nothing to worry about
tsocolate tsocolate 8 years
Everybody deserves second chances. But think about it, girl.. it is too risky on your health. Maybe there's some king of loneliness wrapping you up, go out and discover interesting things to do out there. Do workouts, find a hobby, play or get membership in whatever interests you.. so you won't resort to your 'escape' (i would call it 'escape'). And this way, I am sure that some Romeo's will find you interesting and you'll never know that you will already be in the arms of someone who would care for you than anybody else. And when you get into the sheets with this person, surely, the intimacy & closeness that you will feel is like no other. Goodluck!
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Did daddy not love you...? I think it reaches a point where some intervention should happen. Just BECAUSE you can do this, doesn't mean it is right or emotionally healthy to do so. There is so much risk involved.
margokhal margokhal 8 years
I agree with jazzytummy and khadee. Why oh why does it always come down to this faux-feminist "well guys do it and people don't look down on it, so we can do it too"?Just because a guy sleeps around and doesn't get called names and a girl does when she does the same doesn't make the behavior right. Condoms don't protect from every disease, and by increasing the number of sexual partners every weekend, you're just increasing your chances of getting one 4- and 5-fold. All the people you're sleeping with, think of all the people they've slept with, that you know nothing about. It isn't healthy to expose yourself to things like that so frequently. This OP is obviously having casual sex for the wrong reasons, to not be alone. Isn't there another way to not be alone that DOESN'T involve sex? I think the vast majority of people would say YES. That's all I was getting at.
Bella14Stella Bella14Stella 8 years
I guess it's okay if you are fine with having no self respect.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
Just as long as you know the rules, dont get attached to FWB and be discreet. casual sex is your business. who needs people telling you thier options if its gonna bring you down?
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 8 years
I totally agree jazzy tummy. It does have its emotional consequences, so I don't care how many of you ladies so "you go girl" and "as long as you're safe". Just because some guys are dogs doesn't mean we have to be. Woman who have sex with any guy who wants it, is probally the reason why guys are "dogs".
Janine22 Janine22 8 years
Personally I don't have any moral reason for thinking that what you are doing is wrong. But several people I know have contracted genital herpes and/or HPV while using condoms. Are you aware that both of these things are easily transmitable even while using a condom and without symptoms or signs? The reason is because you still have skin to skin contact even with a condom. The more partners you have, the more you increase your chances of contracting them, even if you use a condom. If the condom breaks or slips off, you also have a chance at getting HIV and any other STI's. I have a feeling that you are the type of person that thinks 'it will never happen to me.' Well, you are wrong, because 1 in 4 people have genital herpes. and many do not even know that they have it. Also, I think that basically you are seeking something other than sex, which you describe as 'attention and closeness'. Well, there are many other ways to get this aside from spreading your legs for random dudes every weekend. I am not judging you, but I agree with the others girls that I think you have some issues and could really benefit from counselling. Good luck to you.
herjoiedevivre herjoiedevivre 8 years
okay, I chose not forgive, but not because I think casual sex is bad, but because I think there are deeper issues here. I'm not really willing to just toss you off in the 'samantha' pile- you don't have sex to have sex, because you love the feeling and you love penis. you have sex not to be alone. you're having more sex every weekend. this is dangerous promiscuity and can lead to stds, among other things. I really think you should speak to a psychiatrist. someone who doesn't want to be alone would hang out with friends all of the time, or go to bars- it doesn't have to be all about sex. let me stress something: I am not trying to get you to get therapy because you like sex and like to have casual sex. that's cool, as long as you're protected, but I'm suggesting it because of the reason you stated: you don't want to feel alone.
jazzytummy jazzytummy 8 years
I think when you get herpes or HPV because you banged so many random guys whose sexual history you have no clue of, you will probably regret your behavior. This is NOT a value judgment, it is a health issue. Condoms are NOT 100% foolproof, don't kid yourself. Your reasons for having all of this random sex are disturbing...what void are you trying to fill in your psyche? You sound immature to me because of this, and I wonder given your immaturity how safe you really are with your sexual practices. I also wonder how responsible you will be with getting regular testing. I am leaning towards not very. I get that most young women here are all "you go, girl, fuck as many random guys as you can, guys do it, why can't we, just be safe, get tested, blah, blah, blah......I disagree wholeheartedly. With the tone of your post, you seem irresponsible...I think you are a time bomb. Hopefully you reevaluate your behavior before something bad happens...seriously. And by the way, I don't give a crap about your number...I am concerned about your health, mental and physical. Good Luck.
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
As long as your safe who cares and if you start a relationship why lie about your number that's not a way to start/ be in a relationship you have to take into account with casual sex that your number is rising and some people may not be comfortable with it but I don't think you should lie, lie would imply your ashamed of what you're doing.
7showgirl7 7showgirl7 8 years
I agree with Margo. Have you ever heard of STD's condoms aren't foolproof.
macchiatolove macchiatolove 8 years
I think as long as you're safe, then it's a very personal choice and there's nothing wrong with enjoying yourself if you're honest with your partners... I do think though, that you seem to realize that it's not always going to be enough to satisfy you. Maybe you need to re evaluate your relationships and your attitude towards yourself, since you don't seem to really be enjoying it, only the emotional closeness it gives you in the short-term. That being said, if you're happy with how things are, then go for it. No one should judge you but yourself :)
brookrene brookrene 8 years
wow khadeek, pretty harsh huh? As for the confessor...I don't consider you a slut. Guys do this stuff all the time. Forgive for sure. However, maybe it's time to reevaluate the reasons you are doing it. I know I had a tendency to be a little scandalous in my younger years and looking back now I realize it was because of some underlying emotions. Just treat your body good.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
dm8bri pretty much said what I wanted to say. If you're safe, then who cares what other people think as long as YOU are enjoying YOUR life!! But it doesn't sound like you actually enjoy what you are try to make new friends and find new activities to keep you from being lonely.
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 8 years
Sounds like she needs a hug, not d**k. But hey...its okay to be a slut as long as you are safe and getting tested regularly. Your body your rules. (just like that commercial)
SeaAre86 SeaAre86 8 years
Err.. not saying don't use protection. Just be careful and selective even with your casual hook ups!
SeaAre86 SeaAre86 8 years
Even if you use protection, you can still catch things. :(
sourcherry sourcherry 8 years
Of course it's forgivable. The thing is, you don't seem to love it as much as you say. You're "settling" for casual sex, and want "atention and closeness", and you're afraid of being alone. What you want is a relationship...
emalove emalove 8 years
There's absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying casual sex, as long as you are safe about it :)
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 8 years
Live your life and be safe about it. Nothing wrong with loving casual sex.
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