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True Confession — I Want Oral Sex!

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"Is it wrong to let another man go down on me since my husband refuses to do it? We've been married almost four years and he only tried it once — he said it just wasn't his thing. My best O was when my ex-boyfriend went down on me when I was 18 . . . and I miss it."


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Girl101 Girl101 7 years
Do not cheat on your husband.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
You should of known before marriage that he doesnt like oral. so thats partly your fault. I think its apart of a husbands/lovers duty to perform oral. it must be frusterating. i would shoot that ex oral on you idea to your hubby to show that if hes not gonna give it you will go somewhere else for that pleasure.
calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
ofcourse its not okay. it cheating. if u knew he didnt like it and u need it, why got married in the first place? talk to him. communication is very important. talk to him and see whats up. maybe its u... its embarassing to say this but, maybe ure unclean down there? and if u are clean and if its just that ure hubbie is just too freggin selfish, dont give him any oral either. and dont give him the pleasure u dont get. if it never gets solved even after talking, leave him
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 8 years
You totally cheated on him! Thats not cool, and very unforgivable. Completely wrong. What if you didn't want to give him oral, and he found some broad that would do it for him. Idk...but its something that you need to talk to the hubby about. If he only tried it once then, wax and get all cleaned up, then ask him to do it. But cheating is never okay.
Kat-E Kat-E 8 years
Jesus. I'm not a fan of ultamatums but it sounds like this guy needs an iron fist. My boyfriend and I like to do it right after a shower. See if that doesn't entice him more, or add flavored lubes to the equation. Another option is to see if he's up for 69. Sometimes I'm not in the mood to give unless I'm receiving too. It's fun and if it's really in the moment, you may even come at the same time :)
Janine22 Janine22 8 years
I'm just confused about why you would even want to marry a man who doesn't like oral. How is sex even that fun or satisfying for you? I don't get it. Tell him that you want it more. If he is just too damn lazy or sexually selfish to bother, than perhaps you should consider this a symptom of a bigger problem in your relationship. If this is the case, then obviously he does not prioritize your pleasure. That does not look like a good prognosis for a long or satisfying sex life to me. The two main things couples divorce and fight over: sex and money. Think about it.
yestheyarereal yestheyarereal 8 years
Um did you not have sex with him before you got married? It was your mistake to marry a man who won't go down on you. That said, I couldn't live without it, divorce him or cheat or both. Any man who really loves you would love eating you, would be all about it and couldn't get enough of you.
TidalWave TidalWave 8 years
OP: if your husband wanted to try Anal with you, but you just weren't into it, would you be okay with him going to another woman for his craving?
designerel designerel 8 years
It's not ok to cheat. You will have to sit him down and talk this out. It's not ok for him to so selfish either, so find out what he didn't like about oral. Maybe he got tired too easily? See if he is willing to use his fingers instead. If it didn't taste good? Try using whipped cream, chocolate syrup, flavored lube, whatever will make it taste better to him. Sorry to be so graphic but just trying to help out. P.S. He might feel better (and you too) if you wash yourself down there first before doing anything. Think about it-- it's a warm, damp place, who knows what is down there!
ThePerfectScore ThePerfectScore 8 years
don't cheat!!! Gah oral sex is so intimate...bad idea!!
melizzle melizzle 8 years
Sit him down and say, "Husband, if you don't get over this oral thing, don't be surprised if I look for it somewhere else."
hautepink hautepink 8 years
I didn't read everyone's posts, so forgive me if someone already said this.. But.. Seriously, didn't you know about this before you got married?? That's ridiculous that you didn't know... Dating is the time to learn all these things and not bring any legal titles into it, children and so on and so on.
k8-rckstr k8-rckstr 8 years
Suggest having a shower together and maybe him trying it in there? Maybe he'd feel more comfortable and your problem would be solved
sundaygreen sundaygreen 8 years
Why would you want to get it from some other dude? I'd be more upset about the fact that my husband doesn't want to do it than the fact that I'm not getting it... know what I mean? Your relationship with your husband is more important than the relationship between some stranger's tongue and your vagina.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
innozenze innozenze 8 years
I voted undecided because it is cheating (unless you have an understanding or something) but if he won't do that for you it's a BIG deal in my book -- oral sex is, like, one total half of the sex equation! (or maybe one third, I don't know) -- practice makes perfect or at least more comfortable with it & he can figure out what makes it better for him & for you....if he won't do that or doesn't think to do that then he's not really looking out for you sexually, which probably means he's not looking out for you in other ways as well, such as emotionally, which can be tough. which is probably why you're even in this situation to ask this question in the first place! i bet you'll find you need a lot more than oral sex...but that is an excellent place to start !
lina1205 lina1205 8 years
Well I voted undecided because like so many others have pointed out its a form of cheating, but I understand the wanting oral sex part. If you weren't married then it might be a little different.
Phunkometry Phunkometry 8 years
Definitely forgive you for wanting oral sex. No problem. But to consider cheating on your husband to get it? Uh, NO!
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
You could always have a threesome...that way you get oral sex, he can watch, he gets action too and everyone is happy, male or female whichever one you prefer
Jessiebanana Jessiebanana 8 years
I guess he's an ass for being selfish and not meeting your needs, but you married him. If it is that big of a deal get divorced. Whether people want to admit it or not sex is important.
LadyLiLa83 LadyLiLa83 8 years
Oral sex is still a form of sex. How the hell is that forgivable??? Some guys don't like giving just the same way some women don't like giving. I don't think that the only problem in this relationship is the lake of oral sex. I think there's way more that this chick isn't letting on.
StephE-Hoe StephE-Hoe 8 years
Ok so... Let me get this straight. You're thinking about cheating. On Your HUSBAND. For not licking something that most guys joke about and call a clam. Right that makes sense. So... If you've gone 4 years without him doing it why would it matter now? Obviously your ex boyfriend didn't do something right or you wouldn't be married and complaining about the fact that he doesn't enjoy the mystery meat in your taco. Sweets let me break it down. Grow up. Maybe he had a bad experience? Maybe he doesn't like your trim? Maybe I don't know he just doesn't want to? If you're thinking about cheating over something so stupid you don't deserve to be married in the first place.
reeeeka reeeeka 8 years
You're considering CHEATING on your husband because he won't perform oral sex on you?...*shakes head* It's kind of baffling. I'm assuming you knew he didn't enjoy this act of love before you married it's your own fault for marrying him knowing it would be hard for you to live without it. I think a better way of going about getting what you want is asking him why he doesn't enjoy it. Don't get mad if he says you have an odor, your too hairy, or doesn't like the way you taste. It's how he feels. Does burying your face in a vagina appeal to you? Not me lol. If he doesn't get over it then you'll need to decide if it's really that important to you. If it is and you can't live without it then you need to move on. DUMB reason to divorce but true. If you can live without it then great.
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