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True Confession — Is This White Lie OK?

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"I'm really, REALLY good at faking orgasms. I know it's not going to satisfy me, but is this little white lie forgivable?"


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EricaJane EricaJane 9 years
Guys, or my guy at least has a fragile ego, and so, on occasion if I know it's not going to happen, or if I "lose it", then I'll let him know how satisfied I am, orgasm or no, by faking it.. because it makes him so happy. I generally only do it if I know it's me not performing.. if he's being lazy then I'll be lazy :).
Bearwoman Bearwoman 9 years
You will never find the true joy of sex if you cheat yourself like that. Yes. I am preachy but RIGHT.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
You are only hurting yourself. If he thinks he's giving you pleasure than he's going to keep doing the same things. Don't tell him you've been faking unless he asks but work on being more honest and letting him know what you really like.
michelleannette michelleannette 9 years
i think it's evil. why don't you work on what it actually takes for you to orgasm? and what guy can't feel an orgasm anyway?
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
It's forgivable, but the only person you are really hurting is yourself. Well, also the guy I guess, because he will never learn how to please you. Unless you are going for a career in porn, I don't see what the point is in doing this. Especially if it is with the same partner. Why don't you just teach him how to actually please you instead?????????????
Nina_79 Nina_79 9 years
Well if you prefer fake to real it's ok. How is your guy suppose to know what you like if you fake it instead of showing him what you enjoy??
designerel designerel 9 years
never faked an orgasm before, but i have made noises when i wasn't really feeling it. haha
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
Of course its forgivable, its just unproductive.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
Forgive... sometimes you just don't want to damage their ego.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
NOT FORGIVE in the base of---DUDE, YOU JUST DENY yourself the pleasure of an orgasm!!! (OR MULTIPLE) That's a sin :D (for you definitely) :)
allinavhcnerf allinavhcnerf 9 years
i thought it'd be more for not forgiving. why have sex if you're not in the mood in the first place? i've never faked an orgasm and i never will. it's just not cool.
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
I never really fake. I usually don't have to. But there are times when I'm just not really in the mood and I know I'm not going to climax and I do make the noises just to help. But he also knows I'm faking. So yeah you should not be doing that to yourself. You're hurting you more.
Marci Marci 9 years
I'm undecided here. To fake orgasms as a habit isn't fair to your or your partner. It's the same as lying and you'll never address what he needs to do to get you there, which you should be doing. I'm sure he wants to satisfy you. BUT - there are those nights when we just need to get some sleep, sooo.........
ilikeatea ilikeatea 9 years
You won't ever be sastisfied if you partner will assume what he is doing is good....where is the fun in that...SHEESH! Unforgivable to YOURSELF!
aphill4 aphill4 9 years
And guys, if this really is posted by a real person, let's be considerate of her feelings before throwing around blame
aphill4 aphill4 9 years
Well, I'M with Graylen. Without enough background info from the poster, we don't know how often, under what circumstances, and her ability to climax. I'm thinking if it's a habitual thing, the poster may just have a very very difficult time of it or might not at all, and therefore not want to hurt her guy's feelings. I don't think anyone that can easily climax would waste their time faking it habitually.
luxington luxington 9 years
I'm with boxem180 on this for the same reason. I have never faked and I probably never will.
Le-Luxe Le-Luxe 9 years
HAHA forgive! But I think men would think otherwise....haha
graylen graylen 9 years
It could be that the poster just doesn't know how or can't orgasm. Because she might not know, she may be faking it because she doesn't want to disappoint him (rather that's right or wrong). I say forgive.
italianblonde italianblonde 9 years
Forgive. Hopefully the sex is still enjoyable enough though!
Blackwood Blackwood 9 years
as long as like the sex, you are ok with faking and not actually having orgasms, then I don't think they need to know. Forgive.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
hey if ur ok with not orgasming thats ur prerogative, so forgive :)
annebreal annebreal 9 years
Forgive, but you're cheating yourself - also, adding to the problem of guys just not knowing how to get girls off. If they think they're doing a good job, will they ever change? Probably not. His next sexual partner will have to deal with this, too. Ladies, just be honest! They'll never learn where our clitoris is and how to make it happy if y'all don't speak up. :P
Swen Swen 9 years
Depends on the situation. If it's just once in a while, and you normally have a healthy sex life, and you're just having a bad day or something, fine. If it's a one night stand and this guy doesn't matter, whatever. Usually though, I think it's wrong. It doesn't help you at all because you are teaching your partner the wrong way to pleasure you. If he thinks you are orgasming from some technique, he will keep on doing it that way. Also, it's just mean to him. How would you feel if you found out that your boyfriend was faking orgasms/basically lying to your face?
zawackirz zawackirz 9 years
I don't see the point...I voted not forgive, its not fair to him.
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