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True Confessional — I Lied to My Boyfriend

Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this True Confession.

"When my boyfriend asked me how many people I've slept with, I lied. The number I gave him actually needs to be multiplied by four. I know he'll never find out, but I feel guilty for lying. Can I be forgiven?"


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tayrose tayrose 7 years
Forgive. This is the type of question nobody wants to answer. I feel awkward whenever I'm ever asked this question, its nobody's business but your own. Its okay to tell a little white lie every now and then.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Ok. Here's your answer. This is how the game works. How many women has he slept with? You'll tell him a number, if he tells you first. But first, what was the color of their hair and what did they do for a living? Did he use safe sex? When did he loose his virginity and how? And how many men did those girlfriends sleep with? I'm sorry? He doesn't know? Why, didn't he ask them and write it down somewhere like he's asking you? This is a loaded conversation that will go nowhere. I mean nowhere. Don't ever, EVER enter that type of conversation. Because you weren't prepared you made up a number. Do you think he even cares to really know? If it really concerned him maybe he should have asked before he slept with you. That added to your number by the way. Anyway if my husband asked me I would give him an answer if he gave me 50,000 in cash, wrapped in red rubber condoms. Would it be the number? Hah! Perhaps some women who are thin, attractive and smart are wanted by men. Also used by men. Nothing we can do about how many times that happens is there?
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
Forgive. I will probably take this answer to my grave.
sprinkibrio sprinkibrio 8 years
The "no one's business" thing is not entirely accurate. I think it's more like this: 1. It is a "Does this dress make me look fat?" type of question. No correct answer. 2. When you know the number you make a lot of false judgments at the beginning of a relationship. 3. There are always going to be things you don't tell your boyfriend... like that you bite your toe nails in private.
sprinkibrio sprinkibrio 8 years
I don't think it's a huge deal. TONS of people lie. I just don't answer. No one should ever answer.
Marci Marci 8 years
Why does that question get asked in relationships? I've never understood it. Whatever you did before you met your boyfriend is your business and not his. Next time, don't even give him a number. Just tell him 'There were a few, and that's the last time we'll have this conversation.'
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
Forgive. My partner asked me, and I answered truthfully. However I don't want to know his number, it's not that important. What is important is that we're both clean and committed to one another.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
bbkf: "When you're sleeping with someone, your sexual past becomes their "business", too." For real, I agree. Why does everyone keep saying it isn't any of their business. Just b/c something doesn't matter physically (STI wise) doesn't mean it isn't any of their business. How many people you have slept with is part of what makes you who you are. So why isn't it the business of a guy that is dating you to know who you really are? And why is everyone saying guys don't really want to know the answer but ask anyway? I would hope that any guy someone is willing to date can figure out what he wants to know without all of our help. Guys are simple right. They wouldn't ask something they wouldn't want to know. And sometimes, even though knowing something bothers you, it's WAY better to know, than to wonder. So guys probably do want to know. Even though it bothers them, it's better than wondering forever.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I said not forgive. Just b/c, yeah the number doesn't really matter and he doesn't really need to know. But you just shouldn't lie about anything, especially in a relationship, just for the principle of the thing. Your number is part of who you are and the choices you made. Wouldn't you want your bf to be accepting of who you really are? Not some lie he thinks you are. If a guy couldn't accept the number of other guys I chose to be with, then I wouldn't want to be with him anyway. I want my bf to accept me for exactly who I am, not lies.
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
I hate that question. I usually just avoid answering it. It's just a number, and if you don't have an STD and are faithful to just him, whats it really matter?
hope2be hope2be 8 years
Eh. I dunno what to say. That's a topic never discussed between me and any lovers I've ever had and including my fiancee. As long as you're STD-free and safe, he shouldn't be concerned about your number. If I were you, I'd probably say that, along the line 'Whatever the number is, I'm sure you've probably been with more women/you're more experienced than I am.' :p
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
I was with a guy who had bedded over 14 women... and he was still rubbish in bed. =) Is 5 a lot? Is it?? :/
Spectra Spectra 8 years
As long as you're STD-free, the actual number doesn't matter too much, but why be ashamed of it? Was his number extremely low or something like that? I once got dumped by a guy who'd slept with 5 women because I told him I was a virgin (which wasn't a lie). He claimed he didn't sleep with virgins because they lacked experience and didn't know what to do in bed. I was actually really glad he broke up with me because the fact that he'd slept with that many girls made me feel a bit intimidated.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Provided your er... BEHAVIOUR... doesn't put him at risk then what is the big deal? I never saw the point of lying about your previous numbers. I have more than my boyfriend but he's never asked me for my number. He's only ever been with me and one other girl so er... it's not a discussed issue. =)
karlotta karlotta 8 years
holy guacamole, this is the ONE question you should ALWAYS lie about!! I once had a boyfriend admit to me that for the first 5 years of his sex life, he only did it with hookers. Trust me, even though I was glad to have the info for medical reasons, I wish I had NEVER KNOWN. We broke up shortly after that, because in return for his honesty, I admitted to him how many men I really slept with, and that jerk felt it was too many and DUMPED ME. He even called me a WHORE. LOL - I'm sorry, WHAT? So, my current boyfriend, who knows better than ask me, probably thinks I slept with about ten times less people than I did. I'm not embarrassed - but I know that not everyone can handle that truth, and especially guys - poor, self-conscious, insecure guys. Unless you've been really good and have only slept with 3 men, please just don't ever give an answer to that question; and if you feel like you must, LIE OUT OF YOUR MIND!
Seka21 Seka21 8 years
Forgive.. its actually none of his business. It just leads to obsessing over who they were and comparing
khadeekiinsz khadeekiinsz 8 years
Okay, If Im in a relationship with someone, and Im sharing my body with someone i love and trust, than hell yeah i would wanna know how many women he's been in. I say not forgive, why lie? You were obviously ashamed.
RunninginBoston RunninginBoston 8 years
I'd forgive. If you'd lied about being a virgin when you'd actually slept with someone--even just ONE, that would be unforgivable since that's claiming you have no STD risk. That's a lie that puts your partner's health at risk. Whether it's only 2 people or 12, you should be taking the same precautions and tests.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 8 years
As long as you don't have any sexual transmitted diseased you should not tell him anything, guys get very insecure when you have a lot of sexual experienced. You shouldn't have give him a number you should of have tell him that you would live it to his imagination. or that it was none of his business
mnp mnp 8 years
I'd forgive. As long as you've been careful and STD-free, this isn't anyone's business but your own. // This question should never come in a conversation...EVER. I wonder if we can add this to The Rule book. lol.
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