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True or False: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

Everyone has heard the saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater", but every situation is different and unique. Of course cheating is never ideal, but do you think people have the ability to learn from their mistakes if they do in fact stray? Do you think your relationship can be saved if one person is unfaithful?

So what I want to know is, do you think the saying is true or false?


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Mike1990 Mike1990 5 years
This statement is false. I have cheated before because I was not completely happy with the person I was with. I have found someone that I am completely in love with and have been with them for a very long time and I have never nor have ever even thought about cheating on this person. I would never want to risk losing the person I am so in love with by cheating. I think that is what it is more about.........,the value you put on the relationship. If you truly love someone then you don't ever want t to lose them and therefore you stay faithful.
melda melda 9 years
no its false though i am a cheater lol i still think about it but i am sure i wont cheat on my hubby the people i cheated on were my boyfriends and i wast serious with none of them
Marci Marci 9 years
There are exceptions to every rule, but I found that most cheaters are repeat offenders.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Maybe that's why i'm so hard on men, I've been hurt so bad before b/c of cheating. I have no tolerance towards cheating.
A_Kat A_Kat 10 years
I never know if I can truly trust them or not. So... I decide to be friends instead until I know them well enough.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 10 years
I'd like to direct this toward "Once bitten, twice shy..." Just because it happened once doesn't mean it'll happen again... but be wary.
nessabum nessabum 10 years
once, always. this is not just an act, a mistake. it's an outward sign of your character.
cravinsugar cravinsugar 10 years
Partysugar: I had the same thing happen, only he did it twice more on me before we mutually decided enough was enough. It was difficult to work through with the new boyf, but I know he would never do it, well, unless his freebi and him meet haha (I think his freebie is Kirten Dunst or someone...i can't remeber but it is a blonde with a killer body) My freebie is wither MM or Daniel craig. It used to be ben affleck, but out of respect to my fav actress, it is no longer.
raptinrainbows raptinrainbows 10 years
i don't know the answer and i don't think that i would stick around to find out. not saying you shouldn't give it another try, but doubt that i would.
calibabi calibabi 10 years
totally depends on the person. i like the idea that "twice a cheater, always a cheater"...that makes more sense to me than once.
Stuffy Stuffy 10 years
This isn't true. I'm a woman, and I have cheated. Once. Never again. I've also been cheated on, and I can honestly say the guilt, and regret you feel when you cheat is probably the same amount (althought different) of pain as being cheated on. It would be different for everybody, it all really depends on if you have a functioning consceince I suppose. I just know that I will never cheat again. So "once a cheater, always a cheater" does "always" hold true.
lilflowa lilflowa 10 years
ive never been cheated on but i would probabaly find it really hadrd to forgive and trust again........if they've done it once.........nothin to stop them again
onesong onesong 10 years
i like popgoestheworld here--twice a cheater, always a cheater. also, i don't necessarily think that past history is an indication of current status. i used to cheat on my boyfriends in college, and i would never, ever dream of cheating on my boyfriend now--i am always conscious even of the situations i'm in to make sure that it's not even a remote possibility. that said, though, once a cheater with me, you're out the door. i'd never be able to trust again.
vanyvrgs vanyvrgs 10 years
Once a cheater always a cheater. I've learned from experience and now no more cheaters. You cheat once -- you got your walking papers.
fab4 fab4 10 years
A person CAN change....I cheated on two ex-boyfriends (sadly) and now I can't imagine doing something like that. I would never do it again, but I think forgiveness speaks volumes. Just don't let it happen over and over....
andaman andaman 10 years
I don't believe in being so pessimistic all the time about mistakes. I have seen men who have cheated and felt terrible about it. I have also seen men who have cheated all their lives (serial cheaters if you like). It depends on how their mums have raised them.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 10 years
Danni99 You are SOOOO right!!!
hills hills 10 years
it reali does depend on the situation i think
kikichantelle kikichantelle 10 years
i'm struggling with this... i recently found out that my incredible boyfriend of 2+ years has cheated on every single girlfriend in his past, has juggled multiple girlfriends at once, slept around, etc. the shocking thing for me is that i never would have guessed any of these things, given the way he has treated me since we've been together. i almost wish i didn't know about his past. he says that he's different now, and i believe him. he's always treated me amazingly. patterns are patterns though, and i worry that someday he will be in a situation where cheating could be possible and he just won't use his head. i don't know...
rkdub rkdub 10 years
I think that it depends on the context. When you are young and dumb and make mistakes, ok whatever... once is once, if you keep going, then you have problems. Not to say that I would stay with anyone no matter what their age, but if you break up, find someone new it doesn't necessarily mean you will cheat on them also. Sometimes people grow up, but if the person takes them back, the results will typically be BAD. Move on and take a page from Carrie Underwood!
junebrug junebrug 10 years
Shop is right. The only man I can think of who turned his life around for the right woman is Warren Beatty. 99% of the time, cheaters cheat.
Shop_Oholic Shop_Oholic 10 years
I think for the most part, people only regret cheating when they get caught. Ignorance is bliss.
Midnightkiss4u09 Midnightkiss4u09 10 years
Hard to say, because everybody makes mistakes in life.
Danni99 Danni99 10 years
I have been cheated on in the past, and I knew when I made my selection for a husband that I would not ever tolerate being with a man who even allowed himself to be in positions which would lead to reasonable questions of fidelity. Not only would I not tolerate cheating, but I would not allow myself to fall for someone known to have cheated on partners in the past. If you cannot be sexually/emotionally responsible I have no use for you. Not as a spouse, not (for the most part) as a friend. It's demonstrative of immaturity in any form.
mabess mabess 10 years
i've never cheated nor been cheated on (not that i know of at least) but i think that everyone can make mistakes. and it doesn't mean they should have to live the rest of their lives in the shadow of their past mistakes.
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