We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, YourTango. Faking orgasm is overrated. Today, learn to enjoy the real deal instead.
According to a recent study by the University of Kansas, 70 percent of women fake orgasm. Pressure to enjoy sex and concern for their partners' egos was cited as a popular reason to fake it.
Faking an orgasm while your partner is in the throes of ecstasy can be a loving thing to do, heightening his passion. However, sacrificing your satisfaction for your partner's could be leaving you frustrated, potentially for years. Women take longer to be stimulated than men. In fact, women require 15 to 40 minutes of foreplay to orgasm. Follow these five tips to a heightened orgasm experience:
- Relax. An orgasm is about letting go. Let go of thoughts about anything other than making love.
- Make sure you get stimulated vaginally before oral sex. Once you do, the party is about over. Clean up on aisle nine. Most men think when you're wet you are ready. This is a misconception. Most women need at least 20 minutes of foreplay to have an orgasm.
- Foreplay! Foreplay! Foreplay! Allow your partner to pleasure you first, using the ten minute rule. Have your partner kiss you ten minutes, massage you for ten minutes, stimulate nipples, inner thighs, fingers, toes, stomach with light touch and tongue ten minutes. Before your partner enters you, have him spend ten minutes massaging your G-spot (step four). Foreplay for women is the most important part. If you skip foreplay, orgasm will continue to alude you.
For the rest of the tips, head to YourTango: Stop Faking It! 5 Steps To Truly Orgasmic Sex.
— Jennifer Elizabeth Masters.
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