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Turn On or Turn Off? Stay-at-Home Dads

There's something incredibly sexy about a man that's good with kids. Perhaps that quality just pulls on my maternal heart strings, but I have a feeling I'm not alone on this one. Though they're not set in stone, many of the roles we play are dictated by society, and women being the ones who stay at home is one of them. But what about when the roles are reversed and Dad is the one who wants to stay at home with the kids while Mom focuses on her career? Of course every family dynamic is different, so tell me, are stay-at-home dads a turn on or a turn off?


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puddlesworth puddlesworth 9 years
I'd be fine with it either way
itsme3683 itsme3683 9 years
I said turn on but I was thinking of it in terms of my own future relationship if/when I have kids. I didn't think of a stay-at-home dad as someone who I would date because I don't think there are very many stay-at-home dads on the market (if they were single, they'd probably be working, right?) If my bf and I ever got married/had kids and one of us had to stay at home, it'd probably be him because I'm way more career-oriented and his line of work would hake it easier for him to stay at home and still work.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
TURN OFF. I'm not a fan of being a stay-at-home mom or having my husband be a stay-at-home dad because I don't want children. I'm not also not very attracted to men that would be more comfortable staying at home with children than being the primary breadwinner. I love being taken "care of," and a man with no income can't do that.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
Im a bit confused by this. Im going to say turn off because if hes a stay at home dad, then hes probably married and I try not to go for married men. ;) But, my last 2 relationships were with single dads. I do seem to be attracted to guys who have and take good care of their children. My current boyfriend has sole custody of his 2 year old son and its so great watching them together.
ayuninur ayuninur 9 years
turn on
Pallas-Athena Pallas-Athena 9 years
I love clarby's answer.
brookrene brookrene 9 years
I dont want kids of my own. My bf has one and that is fine with me. :) If he stayed home with him (or even if i had a kid of ours) it would be a HUGE turn-off. I couldn't be with someone who wanted to stay with the kids. Not a team-player in my book.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Single Dads are sexier than SAHDs because they don't have a wife but I'd still never be with one because I really don't want kids. There is just something about a man with a baby and especially little girls, it is so adorable.
Clarby Clarby 9 years
For as long as I can remember I've wanted to be a stay at home dad. Yes finances have to be right, but the ability to play that large of a role in my children's every day life would be amazing. If I could work from home, cook a few nights a week, clean things my way, life would be awesome! I applaud all men and women who are able to enjoy this life.
a-nonny-mouse a-nonny-mouse 9 years
Neutral. Good parenting skills are a turn-on, regardless of career status! (For both sexes.) I am encouraged by parents who enjoy their children and are (cheerfully, in a healthy manner) engaged in their development. Whether they work outside the home, or work (unpaid) within the home to raise their children is irrelevant to me. I guess I'm turned on by sincere, humorous, good-natured people just doing their best for their family and themselves as much as they can.
cubadog cubadog 9 years
Since I am not having kids I find it to be a huge turn off. It is probably one of the reasons I am still single.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
I wouldn't mind if he worked from home, but he has to be working. Cost of living is expensive.
neonbee neonbee 9 years
I salute stay-at-home dads. My mum got promoted when I was younger and had to move to another place for awhile. My dad had to leave his job because our nanny quit. For a few months, my dad wasn't working and was just taking care of my brother and I. But as for the question, it's neither a turn off nor a turn on.
Sun_Sun Sun_Sun 9 years
its neither a turn off nor a turn on. when and if my husband and i have kids, i would like to be the stay at home mom. i think i'd be wayyyy too jealous of him being the main caretaker. i think i would feel like less of a woman. i think i'd start feeling like the man. and im pretty sure my husband is with me on this one.
zeze zeze 9 years
Okay, this is tricky. I have no problem with stay at home dads, I think it is great that a parent would take on that responsibility and devote their time to their child. I admire it even...but... terms of what is a turn on and turn off - I have to admit men with more traditional jobs are more attractive to me, even though my 2008 brain says I'm being sexist to some degree, I can't help it.
Swen Swen 9 years
I'm a fan of both stay-at-home moms and dads. If you can afford to stay at home with your children, I think it is so great, and I hope I'll be able to do so, even if just part time. I think both men and women are capable of being great primary care givers, and I'm happy to see more men adopting that role.
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
I go giddy when I see my boyfriend with children. He works periodically for an entertainment company and it's so cute to see him talking to all the kids. Not to mention they all think he's fantastic. ;p Especially the owners children! They love him! Ahhhhhhh~ We've discussed what would happen in the event of children and it's already basically been decided he'd be a stay at home dad whilst I go out and earn the big money as a social worker. ;p
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
oh, and also with javsmav :-P
RustyAngel73 RustyAngel73 9 years
I'm with marttina and sonya.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 9 years
sonya ina pretty much said what I was thinking.
sonya-ina sonya-ina 9 years
I admire stay-at-home Dads. In a society that deems woman the main child caretakers, it's always nice to see a man taking on that role. I don't find it a turn-on or a turn-off.
sundaygreen sundaygreen 9 years
Why should you feel bad, plenty of people don't want kids.
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 9 years
I agree MissyD. I don't want kids at all either and when and IF I decide to I want it to be special too! :D
missyd missyd 9 years
missyd missyd 9 years
bbkf I admire your honesty. Most people would be too afraid to admit that. I agree. For many reasons: 1) Kids can get in the way of plans I want to make with my honey. May be selfish, but it is true. I am fairly young and not ready for tie downs, especially ones that I didnt ask for. 2) He will always have less money because of the kids. It would be different if it were OUR kids TOGETHER, but when it's kids from a previous relationship that's impacting our finances together (this depends on how far into the relationship you are, and if you are sharing the $$$ side of things), that can be hard. 3) When I have my first child, I want it to be special and be his first too so we can share that experience FOR THE FIRST TIME together. If he already has kids, it's almost as if I'm thinking, "Oh yeah, you've already been through all this, so none of it is such a surprise and one of a kind" Again I feel bad admitting I feel this way, but bbfk inspired me with her honesty
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