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Uncomfortable Staying at Boyfriend's House

"I'm Very Uncomfortable Staying at Boyfriend's House"

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OK, so let me start off by saying this has NOTHING to do with my boyfriend. He is a wonderful man and I am extremely happy.

The problem is where and who he is living with. He lived with his friend of many years, and the friend's wife. There are numerous problems with this living arrangement:

  1. They are married. They have asked him to move out but "no pressure" for a few months now.
  2. They have cats that meow ALL FREAKING NIGHT and I sleep very lightly.
  3. The AC is broken. We live in Miami. Enough said.
  4. They uninvited me to their wedding. It's not because of anything that happened, but apparently they only invited their friends, not their friends' husbands/wives/BFs or GFs. I thought that I was their friend, too. Apparently not.

This stuff has been getting worse for the past few months. He cannot stay over at my place because I live with my mom, and she's old fashioned. He has said he's going to move into a new place, he is "just lazy." My problem is that as much as I love sleeping with him and being with him and obviously having sex with him, I am really really uncomfortable being there. It's uncomfortable to sleep there, and just hanging out there is physically uncomfortable for me. I just go there because I don't want to be at my mom's house all the time (I can't move out and leave her alone, my dad passed away a short time ago and she would be devastated being alone) so my BF is basically my escape.

I usually sleep there Wednesday nights (he is right next to my grad school and I don't get out till late) and Saturday nights . . . but it's getting really bad and I just don't want to stay there anymore. I've tried talking to him and he just keeps saying, "I know you're right, I should move," but I still keep staying there because I love him. Even though it's torture for me. Should I just stop staying there so maybe he will get the hint at how bad it is? I can't even sleep through the night because of the meowing, and the heat, and the evil eyes I am getting from the married couple.


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