I'm planning a wedding which is coming up very soon. In the mad rush to send out invitations, we allowed all our friends and family to be able to bring a guest/significant other etc. to the wedding. Now that we are receiving RSVPs, and I realized my mistake on one invitation in particular. A girlfriend of mine has a boyfriend, whom I have never met, has a shady past and has been listed as a sexual predator under Megan's law. She has not told me, or our other friends, what he did, nor does she say if she herself knows. As far as I know, he has refrained from telling her what he did. (I could not find his name on the webpage. I looked.) Needless to say, I do not approve of this man and the negative influence he has on her.
This issue already came up at a party I threw where I asked her not to bring her boyfriend to my home for I did not feel comfortable with him coming. She ended up calling me a racist, stopped talking with me for a little while before going back to her usual self as if nothing happened. She has been dramatic before and does hold grudges, but I've known this since high school. Now, I'm afraid that the guest she will bring to my wedding will be the same man I didn't want in my home.
Should I call or email her, and say I would like her to attend my wedding, but without the shady boyfriend (she could bring another friend instead). Or should I let it be, and ignore him if she brings him?