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Unprotected Sex is the New Engagement Ring

Could Sex Without a Condom Be the New Engagement Ring?

Condom-free sex is the new engagement ring. As shocking and lurid as that sounds, the story behind the headline is actually kind of logical. As told in an NPR piece in conjunction with the Youth Radio organization, for young kids in physical relationships now, they've never known a time before the threat of HIV/AIDS. What they have known however, is the impermanence of marriage. A ring, as they say in the piece, is temporary — STDs are not.

That's why the new engagement is sitting down with your partner, having a serious talk about commitment, and taking the plunge to get tested together. One of the teens interviewed said, "to have sex without a condom, it's like saying I love you." What it stands for is trust, a commitment, and a shared future together. Precautions are still taken to prevent pregnancy — it's not about that, it's about the trust that the other person won't stray or put your health in danger.

Does this trend make sense? Is trusting your health to another, the truest form of commitment? Want more? You can listen to the whole three-minute piece.


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loveyoulots loveyoulots 8 years
I checked the I can see where it's coming from box, but I DO NOT AGREE. I checked that box because i understand that there are a lot of teenagers thinking this and young adults too, but come on how many more ppl have to die be4 we say enough I realize I caould get HIV and die too or hello I don't want to get an STD. How about teenagers start a new trend and make it cool to have sex w a condom at all times, please! -lilkimbo u made me lol really I was seriously readin all those post then blam! stonewashed jeans n schruncies : ) I agree Coral Amber that's wha I'm tryin to say.
Michaelrcks Michaelrcks 8 years
Nyrina-Windu Nyrina-Windu 8 years
Too many young people don't serious think long term these days. You cannot take back pregnancy after a certain point, plus the child could catch whatever your 'now cheating' partner may have given to you. As for the testing together, sometimes the test can be wrong or miss something. It's better to be safe than sorry.
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
Next thing you know, sharing an std means i love you. uh huh. Though i think this is also what the article is getting at as well. No condom, no play. There, ha!
kastarte2 kastarte2 8 years
hypno, I totally agree. I''ve always been of the opinion that if you want to cheat, why stay in the relationship? It just doesn't make sense to me.
BeatBoxANNI BeatBoxANNI 8 years
This is just down right stupid.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
Cheating is retarded. If one is so unhappy/dissatisfied that it comes to cheating then leave and be happy with someone else. At least if you say your not happy anymore and want to leave you'll still have your dignaty left and shown the other person some respect.
CoralAmber CoralAmber 8 years
Also, scientific studies estimate that there is a 10% non-paternity rate, meaning that 1 in 10 people have a different father than the one reported on the birth certificate and they don't even know it. A good number of women are cheating on their partners and it's never known unless a DNA test or medical disease comes up.
raciccarone raciccarone 8 years
Women cheat just as much as men.
Clarby Clarby 8 years
Okay first we are talking about teens, not young adults or adults. I think adults doing this might mean a little more. I'm glad that teens are doing this but I think it says I'm scared of what I might get so lets go get tested so we don't have to use protection.
lovelie lovelie 8 years
Good point Jill. No Dave..not all men are cheating dogs. However, I have my own life experience that says other wise. I dated a guy for 4 years..and WOOPS he cheated and got the girl pregnant. I thankfully, was not that girl...which is why this "new commitment" philosophy does not seem foolproof to me, however, to each their own.
UnDave35 UnDave35 8 years
Hey not all men are dogs. Some are much worse.
Jillness Jillness 8 years
I think it is great that they are sitting down talking about commitment and monogomy. However, I think it is something like 30% of women infected with HIV thought they were in a committed relationship when they got it! Men are dogs, and especially when they are young, should not be trusted. After 25 and years spent together, then maybe think about going bareback.
Berlin Berlin 8 years
For the most part it is a huge decision not to use one! I think it's the equivalent to this: No Condom/Marriage versus the No Condom/Vegas Elope! Because there will always be the stupid people that just 'forget' or don't think to put on a condom with a random person, or use the pullout method, which is just as stupid and spontaneous as eloping in Vegas hehe. Which removes the beauty of a commitment of marriage anyways!
janneth janneth 8 years
No way should teens be having unprotected sex. Cheating. Infidelity. They do not have the life experience to understand this. They need to protect their future.
Lady-Boleyn Lady-Boleyn 8 years
From this thread I have learned more about people's sex lives than I ever wanted to know. None of this is good. :rotfl:
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
*some of us....
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
I also think that some of are blurring this issue with the decision to use or not use protection in general. These couples in question are in long term committed relationships and not until the point where they decide they want to marry the other person is unprotected sex even an option and as the article says they mutually agree to get tested together. If they're getting tested together on a regular basis, keeping an open thoughtful foundation of communication about the relationship I really don't see what the problem is. Now if it's just some dude saying I love you let's do it bare after a few weeks of dating then of course that would not be a wise decision. This is where I think the above article and my last example are mixed in shades of grey.
CYL CYL 8 years WTF?! use a friking glove no love has always been my rule. My boyfriend and I still use one and I am also on the pill. And I agree with sw33tlovin :P
kia kia 8 years
I can see why it happens. After my now hubby and I were together for a while and realized the level of our commitment we both had tests done and stopped using the condom. We were at points in our lives to make that decision. I get scared about this stuff happening with the teen and college crowd because young women first experiencing "love" can easily be suckered by a guy trying to only get the punani and ending up with something more than HPV.
sw33tlovin sw33tlovin 8 years
i really don't know what to that commitment is obviously different for everybody, and this may work for some people, but people slip. i can just see it now: someone making a commitment to someone, but they cheated, and now they're left with a broken heart and who knows how many STDs.
Lady-Boleyn Lady-Boleyn 8 years
Unprotected sex sure can lead to an engagement ring if you are looking to trap someone (which is my life plan... I kid, I kid!!)
Lady-Boleyn Lady-Boleyn 8 years
Kim- I saw the jeans and scrunchie and just cringed. That is something Congress should look into: banning scrunchies. I still see them being sold in stores. I think I might call my Congressman over this! :mob:
UnDave35 UnDave35 8 years
Ah. Thanks for the info.:)
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
Oh it's just the technical term there's herpes 1 & 2. Two is when you get cold sores.
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