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Victorian Courtship and Flirting

Victorian Courtship: Flirting With a Fan — Only!

If you were a young woman following Victorian dating rules by the book (and there was a book!) then you did not flirt. “It is only the contemptible flirt" — wrote John H. Young in 1882's Our Deportment, or the Manners, Conduct, and Dress of the Most Refined Society — "that keeps an honorable man in suspense for the purpose of glorifying herself by his attentions in the eyes of friends." So I guess it was OK to flirt with a dishonorable man!

Of course, where there are pointless dating rules, there are women with fans. And Victorian women used fans to convey their intentions because courtship was serious business, and there was no time to waste on Sir Right Now. As we wait for the premiere of The Young Victoria, see if you can decode the fanned messages that all the honorable men were expected to read.

Victorian Courtship: Flirting With a Fan — Only!

Fanning quickly meant:

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zeze zeze 7 years
1/5, I only got the Hate on right...not surprising at all...its the flirting not the victorian part that got me!
nicklover nicklover 7 years
I got 2/5. Open and shut fan... I think I'll stick to modern "rules" still though.
elizabethsosewn elizabethsosewn 7 years
same soniabonya I got 0/5!
Soniabonya Soniabonya 7 years
Wow. I would have been miscommunicating quite a bit then. 1/5. I got the last question right, LOL.
kelkooshoe kelkooshoe 7 years
but like the dress!
kelkooshoe kelkooshoe 7 years
it was in Victorian age! so many rules for ppl , I love to live in the modern world!
Venus1 Venus1 7 years
I think I'll stick to flashing a bit of leg or cleavage!
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
Haha. I learn something new everyday.
Love-and-Sex Love-and-Sex 7 years
lol spacekatgal - I do wonder what they would think.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
I fail. Oh, well. I'm a pretty direct flirt anyway :P
gorri gorri 7 years
I thought it was a little bit more complicated...:D Oh well.
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