There are many ways to buck tradition when it comes to your wedding [1], swapping in alternatives that are a better fit for you and your betrothed. I've rounded up 20 of these wedding traditions, including many of the commonly nixed clichés — like the garter and bouquet tosses, matching bridesmaid dresses, and the gender-specific roles. Check them out and vote: "I do" if you'd keep it in your wedding, or "I don't" if you would ditch it.

The Man Proposes

Ring Must Be Diamond

Only One Maid of Honor

Registering

Bridal Shower

Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties

Bride (or Bride's Family) Foots the Bill

Gender-Specific Attendants

A Veil

Matching Bridesmaids Dresses

Flower Girls/Ring Bearers

Dad "Gives You Away"

Traditional Vows

Rice or Confetti Shower

First Dance

Receiving Line

Bouquet Toss

Funny Speeches

Garter Toss

Feed Each Other Cake