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We're Both Virgins

We're Both Virgins

Dear Sugar
My partner and I both feel that we are ready to take the next step in our relationship and have sex ... but we are both virgins. I need to know what to expect. Please Help. Intact Inita

Dear Intact Inita
Oh man, I barely remember. Just kidding.

If you want me to be honest, you should expect that it's going to hurt a little bit, it's going to be quick and you're probably not going to orgasm. The entire first experience is pretty underwhelming. But if you keep practicing, I guarantee that it will get better.

Have you seen Fast Times At Ridgemont High? Rent it if you haven't. It's directed by Amy Heckerling (the same girl who wrote and directed Clueless, Johnny Dangerfield and The Look Who's Talking movies).

When you see it, think about your first time sorta going the same way as the cabana scene went between Stacy and Damone...

. . . and not so much like the fanstasy scene between Brad and Linda at the pool.

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