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Were You Ever in a Sorority?

Sorority Row, starring Audrina Patridge and Rumer Willis, opened yesterday and the premise is as silly as you can imagine it would be: a sorority house prank gone wrong unleashes a serial killer who begins to stalk the the sorority sisters.

I hear more about sorority hazing rituals in the news than I do about serial killers on the loose in sorority houses. Other impressions are probably stereotypes: lots of female bonding, lots of backstabbing, wild parties and the occasional charity fundraiser. I was never in a sorority, so I'm curious: if you were in a sorority, did you enjoy it? And if you weren't in one, what do you think about them?

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lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
Wow, that comment was not supposed to be so long.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
The "paying for friends" comments always annoy me, too, sassy. Everyone pays for social events (when they throw parties, go to bars, etc.). In my sorority, our formals, socials, etc. were all paid for through our dues. It worked out quite well, actually. I think in the end I wound up spending a lot less money on social activities than I would have had a gone out to the bars all of the times I just went to socials instead. And I also find the idea that sororities try to dictate how you are involved in activities and who you hang out with well, ridiculous. I had a ton of friends outside of my sorority as well as in my sorority. Like snarky, I made a lot of friends right when I moved in at college. But, I have always been the kind of person who likes to have multiple groups of friends/likes to know everyone, so I joined a sorority to expand my circle of friends. I also joined a co-ed fraternity and that was fun, as well. Lastly, sororities are not "purely social" groups. We did a TON of philanthropy in my sorority. We also had a tutoring program for the sisters, etc. Of course, the social aspect is a huge part, but it's not the only part. All of that being said, I went to a school that was very welcoming with a very strong sense of community. Almost all of the parties were open to everyone and free for everyone, so Greek life wasn't huge. I still really enjoyed it, though.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
Also, the dues we paid to live in our sorority house were much cheape than A) the money I paid to the university to live in my dorm freshman year and B) the rent I paid in off-campus apartments in grad school.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I was in one, and it was great. Most of the stereotypical things associated with Greek life (parties on campus, hazing) no longer exist due to liability issues and strict policing by universities as well as sororities' national headquarters. I think it's silly when people say sorority members are "paying for friends." My boyfriend has said that before (I went to a big state school, he went to a small private college with no Greek organizations) because his closest friends are from his "exclusive" private high school, so I don't see how that's any different. If you go to a private school and make friends, then it's the exact same thing!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
No, I'm not the type.
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
nope, i made a lot of friends right when i moved in, so i already had a busy social calendar :)
roseate roseate 7 years
I purposefully applied to colleges that didn't have a Greek system. I didn't want a social scene that was dominated by exclusive groups. I didn't realize there were membership dues, but knowing that would have strengthened my decision.
staple-salad staple-salad 7 years
No. While I know not ALL sonorities are horrible places of woman degenerates, but that's what the ones on my campus's school feel like. Granted, they are better than the frats (I've heard horror stories of finding used condoms lining the street in front of the quad some of my friends have lived in that's across the street from frat row, plus two have gotten closed down due to too much partying [and destroying some hotel rooms], and most of the others are on probation). I lived in a hall FULL of sororiety and pre-Greek girls last year, and it was one of the worst social environments I've ever experienced. First, they excluded everyone that wasn't a Freshman, leaving me, my roommate, and our fellow-sophomore friend down the hall friendless (well, awesome dorm friendless anyways, we all had other friends). I was never able to study because they'd play loud music, get drunk, smoke so much pot one could get a contact high just going to the bathroom or leaving for class and wouldn't listen if you asked if they could "please be quiet, I'm studying for my final". Yeah, on my campus, sonorities are evil evil places of vile women. I wish we had some of the good ones, I know the one my cousin's in at her school does a lot of charity work, and knowing her, I doubt they are into drunken debauchery and are probably respectful of others (why can't my school's be like that!?).
starofsorrow starofsorrow 7 years
I was never in a sorority, but I was in a fraternity, a co-ed one, and it was well worth it. I made some great friends, and I really enjoyed my time with the people in it, and we did a lot of volunteer work.
kjjbfiles kjjbfiles 7 years
They're not for everyone but I loved mine. In fact I'm off to meet up with some dear friends I met there right now!
sassy_chick sassy_chick 7 years
I was and I really enjoyed it. I was really involved in it and was in charge of our foundation (philanthropy) for two years. Definitely something worthwhile. And Incubus--- it is definitely not about paying to have friends. It's paying to be a member of an organization. I find that remark highly offensive, honestly, as I'm sure any other Greek women would.
alillee alillee 7 years
I'm in one @ the moment and I really enjoy it. There's not much to do in my town so Greek life really helps.. I don't feel like its fair to say we pay for our friends. If that's true then I didn't pay enough! I love my sisters!
fleurfairy fleurfairy 7 years
I was and I loved every minute of it. My sorority sisters really did become my family and that was wonderful since I went to a college so far away from home. I met so many of my best friends (female and male) in the Greek system at college. It's a great way to make friends you'll have forever. That said, it's not for everyone. If you don't like joining in on activities and rah rah and going to alot of parties, it's not for you.
Incubuslvr14 Incubuslvr14 7 years
I know that this is not the idea but I still can't help but think it.... I just can't see myself paying to have friends.
sontaikle sontaikle 7 years
I never had a desire to join a sorority and many of the girls who belong to sororities at my school are incredibly annoying. Plus, I doubt I could afford the dues.
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 7 years
I was in a sorority and I miss it. I just graduated a couple months ago and I miss all the girls and the house. If I wasn't in my sorority I would have transfered from my university after the first year. I hated freshman year and joining as a sophmore made my college experience. I learned so many things. I'm naturally very shy and reserved but going through rush and going to events helped me learn how to talk to people and engage in conversations (no matter how shallow). So thats been helpful and all the parties and hot frat guys were good too. I want to get started in an alumni chapter but I don't think there is one where I live.
janneth janneth 7 years
I was, for four years. But the funny thing is, I would have been friends with the same girls even if I was not in it. Sororities by definition are EXCLUSIVE, and I think that is awful. I would not want my children to go Greek. There are too many other worthy activities on campus, and I can't see wasting money on membership dues.
psychobabble psychobabble 7 years
I joined one for the last two years of college and I ended up mostly enjoying it. It really helped me be more comfortable around large groups of people, which has been a useful skill. Now that I'm 3 years post-graduation I have a few very good friends from it that I wouldn't have known otherwise, but I don't keep in touch with most of my sisters or participate with the national organization.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
Nope - I couldn't afford the dues when I was at USC (southern Cal, not South Carolina), but probably would've found a way had I stayed there because it was such a huge part of the social scene. However, I transferred to a school in Pennsylvania where they not only weren't a big deal on campus, but couldn't even have the houses because of a weird old law still on the PA books.
Happsmjc Happsmjc 7 years
I was, and loved it. Besides the usual fun events and friendships it prepared me for so many real life scenarios. Not only how to get along with a large group of people (similar to a workplace when I was on my executive board), but also how to plan, delegate, become involved in the community, etc. I am still active as an alumna, and never take for granted the huge national network of alums my sorority has. Also, because we were a rather new national chapter when I was an active there was NO hazing of any sort--we had advisors at everything.
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