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What Age (If Any) Is Too Early to Lose Your Virginity?

While perusing through Us Weekly at the gym this morning, I saw an interesting quote from Megan Fox that got me thinking. She said, "If a guy loses his virginity at 15, that's great, but if a girl does, it's shocking and awful. . . I think that's wrong."

I find it surprising that she even has to say this. I mean I thought these social stigmas about sex have changed . . . but maybe I'm wrong. Do you agree with her statement? Are young girls who have sex considered sluts, and young men considered studs? Is there a certain age a person should wait before they become sexually active? Is it different for guys and girls? Or do you think it's a personal decision for the individual to make?

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whitxface whitxface 8 years
I think you should not lose it until you can support the possible result and anyone under 16 is way too young i was 18 and still thought it was too early
TJE TJE 8 years
It always seems like women are losing there virginity before men. I know loads of girls that have already gone the distance at 16 but very few men and lets be honest us blokes wouldn't be as quiet about it!
ambersmith ambersmith 9 years
i think that love has no age limmit if your in love and you loose your virginity no matter what age theres nothing wrong with that
acyl acyl 9 years
I agree people mature at different rates, but I would think under 17 is too young. You have your whole adult life to have sex, why bother with all that when you should enjoy being a kid. I waited until 20, and by then I had no doubts. I wasn't in love with the guy either, but I was confident enough to know what I wanted. I was on birth control & we used a condom and it was fine. I think if you have any second thoughts at all, it's too early.
AngelOfBetrayal AngelOfBetrayal 9 years
I feel that sex is based on a lot of things, maturity and sexual and relationship understanding being a big part of that. I was raped at the age of 14 and became pregnant, i lost the child before 2 months was up. But ever since then whenever me and whoever i'm with at the time have an intimate sex it means a lot to me, it shows me I've nothing to fear from them and that I'm loved, I've been with the same person for 2 and a half years, i'm 16 years old and have been having sex from about a year now, and the first time i had sex willingly i was a little over nine years old. Though i really believe that was too young, it was with another female, the same age as me: Her grandfather molested her often, and she reconciled with me, i was the closest thing to her that showed her love and affection and when she tried to take it to the next level(sex) I didn't refuse. That was loving and beautiful, but it was waaay too early. Now i feel ready for it, it's not something i'm doing to make someone else feel better or because i'm being forced to. It's my choice, it's my love, and it's beautiful Anyone who puts a age on loving sex is a fool, for at any age it can pop up and it all depends on the individual.
meaganma7x meaganma7x 9 years
i lost my virginity at 15. i was with that guy for 3 years. and i know him since second grade. i think that so wrong and judgmental.
the-intruder the-intruder 9 years
Havin' sex at fifteen is unappropriate. Everyone should wait for the right moment and the right person especially if it's the first time then it should be special. Sadly the world has changed, hasn't it? But do remember to always use a condom.
krobi krobi 9 years
This coming from someone of 15...that statement is sad but true.
spicyaroma spicyaroma 9 years
It depends really oon the person, I'm nearly 16 and still a virgin, and I'm proud of that! I think the right age is probs 17, 18 or 19, but it depends on how mature the person is! What's sad that some girls in the grade below are not virgins, they're like 13, 14 and sexually active like crazy and not ashamed of it! I wish we had teachers treaching us about the right age to be sexually active and how to use condoms etc...
ummyeaitsmarcie ummyeaitsmarcie 9 years
I know that the double standard defiantly is still going strong, one of my best friends had sex with her long term boyfriend and was immediately called a slut and many other terrible names, but the guy didn't have anything bad said about him. I personally think that most of the teenagers and below having sex are not responsible enough to be having it, while its not true for everyone its true for a large majority.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
I don't believe that double standard -- I think it's shocking for both sides. But I think 16-18 is a really gray area and it'd have to really depends on the maturity. Any younger is too young in my eyes. I was 21 but I still sometimes think I should have waited longer. But that's about the guy, not the age.
Frank-y-Ava Frank-y-Ava 9 years
This is going to sound weird but I had sex at an early age cause i kept having weird dreams and i thought i was gonna get raped. strange i know. But I'm ok with who i lost it too but i def. could have waited a couple years.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I definitely agree with her. I hate that we have this in our society still. I think 16 is a good age but I'd prefer that they wait until they are ready no matter what age that makes them. It's not really about age but about maturity level.
ohbaby7 ohbaby7 9 years
it really depends. I lost it pretty young to a guy who i loved and trusted, and i never regret it. I would rather lose it young to a long time boyfriend than at 25 to a random guy after too many cocktails. I think the situation matters more than age.
bellydancinmary bellydancinmary 9 years
I remember that when I was in high school, there was a lot of pressure for girls to have sex. A lot of girls I knew were having sex at 13, 14, 15, etc. I never dated anyone from my school because I didn't want that pressure, I didn't want to be known as "that girl that did this or that", and most boys I went to school with were jerks. Eventually I got curious and gave in, losing my virginity at 17, but I can say that I waited longer than most girls who live in my city. I do regret losing it to the guy I gave it to, he ended up not deserving it, but it's in the past and there is nothing that can be done to change that. Anything below the age that you can drive and take care of the responsibility of taking birth control is too early.
KerryG KerryG 9 years
There still is a double standard and I hate that there is, but I agree with most of the other commenters that regardless of how annoying it is that boys who have sex young are "studs" and girls who do are "sluts," very few people of either gender are mature enough at 15 to be having sex, even if they think they are. Perhaps *especially* if they think they are. 18 is better, and even older for some people.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 9 years
I lost mine when I was 14 and honestly I don't regreat it. I did it with someone I was actally with for awhile and someone who didn't even go to my school! So not a lot of people knew about it and no one labelled me a "slut". I think you should just do it when you are ready. There isn't a set age. Everyone is different. Everyone matures differtly.
Janine22 Janine22 9 years
I agree that it is a personal choice, no one should judge someone else for that choice. I think people should do it when they meet someone they really care about and it is a monogamous relationship (because otherwise you are much more likely to get hurt or regret it). Also, when they feel physically and emotionally ready.
jennjennnbubba jennjennnbubba 9 years
I lost the power of V at 15 I don't regret it but looking back, I had no business being that involved at that age.
MisterPinkNoTip MisterPinkNoTip 9 years
16 and no regrets. But I think this situation has a lot to do with maturity level and not a specific age.
divinedebris divinedebris 9 years
I want to comment on the condoms failing thing.... Yeah, they aren't 100% effective, but no birth control really is, but they only have a 2% failure rate when used properly. That's the kicker there, the usage. People mix condoms with the wrong kind of lubricant, don't leave the space at the tip of the penis/condom for the sperm (where else is it supposed to go?) or the guy is using the wrong size. In all the years I've been with my husband, which is going on six now, we only had one condom break and it was a polyurethane, plastic, condom that was too tight for him and broke- and we noticed it early. All methods of birth control have a bad rap but if used effectively they will work. And that's what parents or teachers or friends need to teach kids, make them prepared. If the kid is going to have sex, they will, make sure they're ready. If I ever have children they will know and they will be sure to keep themselves safe and they will be able to come to me with their questions. I grew up in a house where if you had questions that's fine, but my mom wasn't very knowledgeable so I got some bad information and also she was against me ever having sex. Knowledge is power. :D
cyrizzle cyrizzle 9 years
cotedazur, it could have very well been a combination of both. perhaps that's what happened to my friend. i don't know how else one would explain at least 9 guys over the course of 9 months...
cotedazur cotedazur 9 years
I don't agree that there is a double standard for the right age for women and men to have sex for the first time. If I hear about a guy that lost his virginity at a very young age, that is going to set off the same warning bells as for a girl that started very young. While there exist discrepancies in common attitudes towards men's and women's sexual habits, such as labeling men 'studs' but women 'sluts' if they have had multiple partners, I don't see a parallel when it comes to age. I lost my virginity at 17 and I think it was the right time for me. However, I also think that it's a strictly personal choice. I have a friend that waited till she was 20 to have sex for the first time, and it was like opening a floodgate... she had at least 6 partners in the 6 months following when she lost her virginity. I can't decide if she had waited too long and all her frustration came tumbling out, or if she was still too young and immature to be having sexual relationships.
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