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What Is The Best Birth Control For Me?

Dear Sugar
About six months ago I went on the birth control patch but am having a hard time keeping it attached to my body. I change it once a week but the ends keep peeling and eventually the whole patch falls off. I have tried taking the pill before but I am so bad about remembering to take it everyday.

I am seriously considering the Depo Shot but I've heard that approximately 70% of its users gain weight. I am comfortable at my current weight and I really don't want any unwanted weight. Can you help me figure out my options?

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Dear Protect Me Priscilla
Choosing the right contraception method for you may take a little bit of trial and error. If you like the effect the patch has on your body then maybe you can try to attach it to another part of your body and see if it sticks better. If that still doesn't work, make an appointment with your Gynecologist about trying out some other options.

All women are different when it comes to the side effects of birth control; including gaining weight. To lower your chances of weight gain, chose a birth control that has a low amount of estrogen in it, such as Yasmin. Keeping your pill right next to your toothbrush in the morning seems to help a lot of women. You certainly won't forget to brush your teeth, right? Soon this just becomes second nature.

However, if you just don't even want to deal with remembering to take a pill, there is always option of the Depo Shot or the Birth Control Ring. The Depo shot (Depo Provera) is an injection given to you by your health care provider every three weeks. You should be informed that this method of birth control is not recommended for long term use and has been associated with bone loss. Please remember to take in lots of calcium if you choose "the shot."

The birth control ring (NUVA RING) is similar to the patch. It gets changed every three weeks and is as reliable as the Pill at preventing pregnancy (98%-99 effective). It is easier to apply than a diaphragm and can be done in the comfort of your own home. The Ring has very similar side effects to The Pill, most of which are not serious but include breast tenderness, nausea, cramping, and bloating.

There are many options out there for you to try. Please remember, not all contraceptive methods protect against sexually transmitted diseases, so please keep in mind the importance of condoms as well. Good luck.

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laylabelle laylabelle 10 years
If you have trouble with one type of bc, just keep experimenting. When I first started the Pill my dr. put me on Yasmin, which lasted about 3 months . . . then when I wouldn't quit bleeding she switched me to Triphasil . . . ugh. Six months later, I switched again to Ortho Tricyclin, and that took care of the problems. I've been on it now for about four years and I really like it.
KrissyThePirate KrissyThePirate 10 years
I'm just like BKNY. The patch gave me a square rash for weeks. It was the worst itch I have ever felt in my life. The pill really screwed my emotions. no matter which one I took, I thought I was going insane. I lashed out at people The Depo shot made me gain 30 pounds. And when I went off it, I had discharge for a month. It was awful. I'm just going to stick with condoms, because honestly, I'm to damn sensative for anything else, and it sucks :P
BKNYGal BKNYGal 10 years
The only form of birth control that agrees with me is CONDOMS. I've tried everything from the patch to the ortho and Depo. While on Depo..i got pregnant. Yeah, big shocker! Everytime I start the pill, i'm good for 3 months then my hands start going numb and I get these excruciating headaches and slight memory loss. On the patch, my skin broke out in a rash where the patch was located and it itched like HELL! So um, yeah, I'm very afraid of the chemicals they put in those contraceptives.
azucar_maddy azucar_maddy 10 years
I was on birth control (orthotricyclen) for about 5 years but finally got off of it right after our honeymoon for good bc it made me so nauseous, blurred my vision, gave me chest pains, and sometimes weird body aches. I have heart disease and stroke in my family so I decided I'd rather not be on anything anymore.
medicgirl medicgirl 10 years
What works for one person may not work for the next. I tried the patch and I cried for a week, couldn't figure out why I was so crazy all of a sudden! Went off the patch and life was good again.Depo scares the bejeesus out of me, if you react badly it is in your body for 3 months, at least with a pill or patch you can take it off or quit taking it. According to my OB/GYN an IUD is useless, many many many women get pregnant with an IUD...Like everyone else here says it just may take a few trys for you to find the right pill or method. Happy Hunting
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Ive had problems with BC forever! When I was 15 for some reason my mom thought I needed to go on birth control. We tried Orthro Tri Cylen and I ended up with breast milk and extremely high prolactin (sp) levels (hormone secreted by your pituitary gland) and what looked like a tumor on my gland. That after a lot of prayer (only answer we can come up with) disappeared an I was told to stay off bc that the hormone was to much. So I ended up off it didn’t need it anyways I didn’t have sex till I was 17 when I realized I couldn’t use latex condoms bc they hurt like a biotch! Thankfully I met my hubby soon after so I got lucky and didn’t need to use them (VERY DUMB THING TO DO! WE ALWAYS NEED PROTECTION) 6 months into our sex life the pull out method failed (go figure) we had our son and I tried the Depo Provera shot. I bled the entire 3 months I was on the shot and I even got pregnant (possibly I never asked for the lab results didn’t want to deal with that emotionally stupid again I know) and all that come out gross! I gained weight and was unable to loose finally the 3 months were up and I did very very well for a year on the Patch but I was unable to loose any weight the hole time I was on it after coming off it I immediately dropped 5 lbs but I was also able to get pregnant AS SOON AS I came off it. No Idea what I want to try next. Pills are hard to remember an you need them to be remembered to be effective and the patch well the weight issue Im looking into the IUD ive heard good and bad about it. Point being.. it takes a few times sometimes to find something that works for you. long one huh -------------------- Aww man, your breath deflated my pumpkin!
rkdub rkdub 10 years
It helps to take it after eating... full stomach makes it way easier. Yes, Estrostep is low dose, as well as OvCon.. they are basically the same thing. I didn't have symptoms that were too bad, but wanted a lower dose, also Estrostep helps clear up your skin if you have acne problems.
JennaV JennaV 10 years
Oh, okay....actually the pill makes my friend nauseous too. I see your point now.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 10 years
just because i had sooo many side effects most made me sooo nautious and i felt like i was hit by a bus my whole body ached and after like 4 diff ones she was like ur body just wont take to it and i fouht her and said lets keep trying . and we did and found alesse .. that was 5 years ago so well see..
JennaV JennaV 10 years could you not be a candidate for the pill? You are under 35 and don't smoke (right?).....maybe things have changed in the last few years. I used to want to be a pharmacist because they make some serious $$$$$ and it is EASY to get a job but I couldn't hack all the chemistry and such and copped out with my psych degree.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 10 years
thank you dr. jimmy.. lol i will let u know what they say.. cause im sure you are DYING to know.. im glad i have some names bc of my side effects my doc tried to fite me saying i wasnt a candidate for the pill and i finally was ok with alesse so well see
JennaV JennaV 10 years
The doctor will call in something comparable for sure. Loestrin is another one.
flutterpie flutterpie 10 years
cant take it, wont take it. seriously im holding out until they have a male version of birth control. let them remember to take a pill once a day, let them feel bloated, let them feel like a psycho.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 10 years
ugg i cant stand this.. ill ask my doc tmrw .. i had no idea it was getting pulled i called to refill my rx adn they told me .. damn them thanks tho
JennaV JennaV 10 years
I **think**.... I used to know ALL of this stuff because I was a pharmacy technician all through college.....but since I haven't worked there in 6 years, I am rusty.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 10 years
i was on ortho tricyclin back in the day adn i had to gooo off wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to whacky.. very emotional .estrostep then huh
JennaV JennaV 10 years
JennaV JennaV 10 years
Yikes rk! :jawdrop: Sweet C...ask your doc about Ortho Cept....I **think** it is low does. I am pretty sure Estrostep is low dose too. I remember when Alesse first came out ( I loved the turquoise cover) and cannot believe it is off the shelf.
SWEET-C9363 SWEET-C9363 10 years
"i need help too they just took my pill off the market.. alesse. and i am very sensitive so i need a very lo dose pill .. any suggestions
rkdub rkdub 10 years
I took Seasonale for about a year, and for some people (me included) your body does not adjust to the third pill pack very well. So, while I only got 4 periods a year, those periods lasted for a MONTH... no thanks, I switched back to Estrostep after that... The Depo shot is kind of along the same line. Up to 50% of people that take it have spotting for the first three months that they take it until your body adjusts. I had a nonstop HEAVY period for six months, and there is nothing that can be done to stop it, you just have to wait for the hormones to leave your body. It sucked, but luckily I had just moved to a new city and wasn't dating anyone.... then I would have been really embarrassed to explain that I had a non-stop cycle! You really need to talk to an OBGYN, even more so than a regular dr.... some people are just really really sensitive to hormones. I haven't gained any weight though...
JennaV JennaV 10 years gyno told me it was perfectly healthy. As a matter of fact, SHE takes Seasonale. I know, it seems weird to only get a period 4 times a year but it is perfectly fine. There is some breakthrough bleeding with some people....but the 4 times a year periods is so nice.
SaRaH-22 SaRaH-22 10 years
i had the patch for about 6 months and it really irritated my skin, so i switched to the shot and gained like 10 pounds..i had to work like crazy to get it off but i like the shot the best! ~*~Life was Simpler back then~*~
nicachica nicachica 10 years
for those that take the pill and get 4 periods a year: how do you like it? i'm thinking of switching my birth control and i'm so hesitant to ask about Seasonale because it doesn't seem natural to only have your period 4 times a year (although the pill isn't natural either!). can you shed some more light on your experiences taking it? were you freaked out about any long term health effects? thanks!
JennaV JennaV 10 years
I was going to do Seasonale but I was afraid insurance would not cover it. So my dr prescribed Ortho-Cept and I just take it continuously and only get the 4 periods a year too. It has to be a monophasic pill. I was on Ortho Tri for years and years but changed to Ortho Cept when I also got lured into the minimal periods.
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