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What Can I Send my Boyfriend?

My boyfriend is always complaining he never gets anything in the mail other than bills and junk so I want to do something cute, quirky, and or kinky and send him something. Do you have any ideas as to what I can send? --Postmarked Penny

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Dear Postmarked Penny--

What a cute idea -- gone are the days of receiving handwritten letters, let alone an out of the blue gift or care package, so I think you are so sweet to surprise your boyfriend like this! While it is much easier to send women fun mail, here are some general ideas that you might like.

  • Buy him a weekly or monthly subscription to his favorite magazine. If you want to push the envelope a little, you could opt for FHM, Maxim, or even Playboy!
  • A simple heart felt card is always a lovely gesture. If you want to stretch out the surprise, you could send him a daily note, leaving the grand finale to arrive on a Saturday
  • Sending photos of you two together is another heartfelt idea. If you want to step it up a notch, send some sexy photos of you in your favorite lingerie, although be careful when sending compromising pictures through the mail, you don't want them to get into the wrong hands!
  • I would consider an invitation to be fun mail, so you could formally invite him to dinner out on the town or a surprise weekend away
  • If you're feeling like spoiling your man through his stomach, you could send him a care package of Omaha Steaks or his favorite mustards for his next BBQ. I am sure he would be thrilled to open a box like that!

Whatever you decide to send, I guarantee your boyfriend will be touched by your loving gesture. Have fun!


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meganekko meganekko 10 years
Any kind of small gift, maybe a CD off of his wish list? A homemade anything (card, cookies, etc.) Good luck~!
jewelsugar jewelsugar 10 years
If he's a geeky sort of guy, try a subscription to Make magazine.
kayden kayden 10 years
What does he like? Send him something nice but, you know him and his preferences. I think a small box with a heart felt card, a small tiger, romantic CD, and picture. Have Fun!
Vdogg Vdogg 10 years
i love everyone's ideas but all your bf said was that he wished he got something other than bills & junk in the mail.. which means you don't need to go all out & send him a package right away! I think he would appreciate a card or photos of you two, or even just a hand-written letter telling him how much you care. once you've send him simpler things, you can expand & start sending him the more kinky suggestions, gradually build his excitement & leave him wondering what's coming next! it could turn into a fun game and he'll find himself anticipating the next letter/package every time.
krys786 krys786 10 years
my boyfriend (who is soooo not romantic or cute in the least) really appreciated when i wrote "i love you" in like 50 different languages on small notecards. this would be a fun, easy package to send (and there should be website to help you with the language stuff...just google it)...if my b/f liked this, i think ANY guy will!! let us know what you decide!
andaman andaman 10 years
Everybody loves to be treated well jeannie :) I think a flight somewhere nice for both of you always work!
Jeannie_CK Jeannie_CK 10 years
Just curious. Did each bf's appreciate the gestures? Maybe I should try this sometime as well.
bugness bugness 10 years
I like to make post cards of things that include our inside jokes. We have one-word things that can make us giggle, so I find an image (like from getty images) that fits the joke, slap it on in photoshop, and print it on cardstock.
junebrug junebrug 10 years
I'd send him a thong with a note promising to wear it whenever he likes. Beats an ooey gooey card any day.
Marci Marci 10 years
You could send a box filled with things he likes. His favorite candy, a CD by a band he likes, gift cards to stores he loves; that kind of thing.
emisaurusrex emisaurusrex 10 years
When I was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, I sent him a lot of postcards. When I moved in with him, he got a big hanging wall hanging thing that holds pictures and we put all of the postcards we'd sent each other in the frames. I thought it was really sweet!
pinupsweetheart pinupsweetheart 10 years
Hey girlie. I had a long distance relationship for a year. And to keep the passion alive I would send him little photos of us every week or so. I would also create little puzzles and clues he would have to put together week after week. One time I blew up a picture of myself in a nurse outfit (yeah yeah yeah) and cut it into puzzle pieces. Then I would send one piece out every other day until he finally put it all together. Then I send him a complete picture. Also you can go to and click on samples and have little samples of new products sent to him. I know I love it when I get free new stuff!
Deba Deba 10 years
send him a sex toy over the mail.... thats kinky and funny
KatieMise KatieMise 10 years
I used to do this all the time when I was doing long distance with my boyfriend. One particularly successful care package contained only a pair of my panties, sexy ones that he knew were mine and not just off the rack, spritzed with a little perfume. Simple and sexy. Eight years later and he still talks about that care package!
andaman andaman 10 years
Everything I said cost money, ultimately you can send him a note to get home early on a particular day. When he gets home you can greet him in your best underwear and have a bottle of champagne and a box of strawberries ready. Make love to nice music and scented candles. If you have a lot of energy you can even strip for him, It's cheap to do and it's romantic.
andaman andaman 10 years
A ha just have one really dirty idea. Why don't you send him 'the rabbit' that we have been discussing here? That would make his day I'm sure. He will totally love you for it, lol.
ALSW ALSW 10 years
What a great idea! I used to do this for my then-boyfriend-now husband when we were dating long distance. You can always send little silly things as well - I knew that my husband liked Scooby Doo, so I bought him a picture frame and sent it through the mail. Or perhaps some candy that he likes...
andaman andaman 10 years
A flight somewhere for the weekend if you can afford it. Or a booking of a really good restaurant somewhere. If he likes theatre, tickets to a play and then booking of a room somewhere nice in your city? This question makes me
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
Ooops I totally missed Dears answer! Great ideas!
kendalheart kendalheart 10 years
A fun and sexy package would be great! Or an electronic device he has had his eye. Or (if your guy appreciates them) a simple card could work!
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