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What Chivalrous Things Do You Expect a Guy to Do?

As I told you last week, Maxim magazine has asked me to help get you to take their sex and relationship survey in an effort to help their male readers understand us women a little better. You had quite a lot to say about how long you wait before sleeping with a guy you just met, so weigh in on another question here before taking their survey!

Men aren't mind readers, so now's your chance to let them in on what you really expect when it comes to chivalry. If you're like me, and appreciate a little graciousness from your man, tell me this — what old-fashioned chivalrous things do you still expect a guy to do?


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calli-gurl calli-gurl 8 years
agreed with skigurl. except for paying, everything else. ;)
Melo-D Melo-D 8 years
I need "Other" as an option. I only "expect" him to open the door and walk on the outside of the street. I say "expect" b/c if he doesn't do it, then whatever. As long as he does it when it's appropriate (special events/outings, things of a formal nature), I'm fine with that. If we're just going shopping or something, I'll open the door if I get there first. No big deal. As far as paying for everything, that's just ridiculous. You will not be going broke b/c of me. Making the first move????? I don't think that has anything to do with being chivalrous. Personally, if he's a gentleman, he'll do these things regardless. So when he comes home and wants dinner, don't be upset. If you expect him to do things, expect to feed him dinner.
lyndsi2006 lyndsi2006 8 years
I mean he doens't have to walk on the side of the never even heard of that one b4.I don't have a boyfriend right now but I am dating this one guy...And so far he has been a complete gentlemen.He opens the doors for me,pays for everything,is so polite and respectful to everyone especially women,funny,deep,laid back,smart,wow!I guess he sounds kinda great huh?You know I hadn't noticed how good he is until now.Maybe I should hold on to him..
Sarana Sarana 8 years
I would say none of the above walk on the outside of the street? what is that!? Holding the door open depends on who reaches it first, sometimes i hold the door open, sometimes he does. I also wouldn't feel comfortable if he paid for everything, I like to have my own money.
Neural Neural 8 years
I voted all of the above even though I don't think I've ever had a guy do all of that!
candace87 candace87 8 years
It's not that there is anything wrong with him washing your back occasionally as a romantic gesture, one that is not demanded or expected. That makes it much less romantic and much more of a chore. Anyway, the point was that we shouldn't EXPECT these behaviours from anyone, and if you expect someone to be 100% perfect then perhaps a reality check is in order...
said8me said8me 8 years
I guess I don't really expect anything, aside from him opening doors. My beau barely makes bills, so he rarely pays. I never noticed which side he walks on. We've been together for 4 years, and I can't remember who made the first move (and now we just kinda switch it up). All in all, I'd have to say I'm the chivalrous one in our relationship.
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
I rarely notice**
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 8 years
Eh...My boyfriend does none of those things, so...Screw expectations. After we buy groceries, I'm usually the one that carries them outside to the car, and if anything, I've opened doors and pulled out chairs for him (He has NEVER.). Whatever...I don't rarely notice, unless we're at a restaurant and a waiter pulls out a chair for me to sit, and my boyfriend just plops down in it. Even then, I'm just WTF? and move on. He's great otherwise.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
Lovely, when your boyfriend washes your back in the shower it's because you're having an intimate moment and he's doing it to show affection to you. Other women here have mentioned "wash(ing) my back when I bathe" as something they EXPECT from their men rather then a romantic gesture.
Lovely_1 Lovely_1 8 years
my bf washes my back for me in the shower when I ask :S I don't see anything wrong about that!
candace87 candace87 8 years
This debate is crazy. Men are not slaves. As it has been said over and over after reading most of these comments.. EXPECTING these things from a man is different from him doing them on his own. I would never expect a man to assume all responsibility for everything in my life, right down to things as silly as "wash my back when I bathe" thats just wrong. Unless you are disabled, you can go right ahead and wash your own back.
seraphimm seraphimm 8 years
I REALLY hope my comment was reported, not deleted by a moderator. I think I lost my appetite.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
Mesayme... that comment came completely out of nowhere. You need to grow up and move on.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Yeah...I got #77 ... :kool:
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Good news're in the time where women work and assume all household responsibilities while their husbands get their college degrees! :ROTFL:
skigurl skigurl 8 years
wow. Mesayme and CaterpillarGirl are living in a different time than the rest of us
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Who knew people on this site were so insightful and incapable of reading comprehension at the same time... :D And psychic too. But mostly just indignant and needing to dominant a conversation they perceive can be won as if it were winning to attack another's point of view. Now that I've been 'educated'..I'd like him to chew off my toenails and wash my hair also. :EVIL:
Leene Leene 8 years
I try to explain it better... English is not my first language. Men put women first on corridors, because there could be enemies lurking in the corners. was better if woman was attacked. :ROTFL: But of course some things really are chivalrous. I would have prefered to be a woman-passenger in Titanic. heh.
itsme3683 itsme3683 8 years
My boyfriend would open the car door for me for the first few months we were dating, it's one of the things that made me have such a crush on him in the first place! Now we're living together so the relationship is more "casual", I guess.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Yep, exactly. Although... "As long as its not "I like a guy who slams the door in my face and makes me washs dishes and clean his dirty shoes with a toothbrush" I think we can all legimately agree that people just have different views of what they want in a boyfriend and what they expect or want." You know, if someone really likes that... :p (Takes care of those guys so the rest of us can have the nice ones!)
CYL CYL 8 years
Jude C... I feel the same way...everyone is bought up differently, everyone has different life experinces. As long as its not "I like a guy who slams the door in my face and makes me washs dishes and clean his dirty shoes with a toothbrush" I think we can all legimately agree that people just have different views of what they want in a boyfriend and what they expect or want. That's what make huamnity beautiful, our ability to be individuals.
Jude-C Jude-C 8 years
Damn, who knew this was such a touchy subject? It really seems like a case of "to each her own." :shrug:
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
Alyssa, that is super adorable. I've ran into very few guys who opened car doors and if they did I just felt all weird about it haha makes sense though if you grew up with that.
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