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What Do You Think About Guys Who Stare at Your Chest?

Many years ago, I had a first date with a guy I knew from college. While we talked over coffee, he kept glancing down at my chest. I wasn't wearing a tight or low-cut shirt, but he seemed pretty interested in my breasts. I really didn't know what to do since I didn't think there were actual guys who did this. I made up some excuse about having to leave because of a paper I totally forgot about and booked it out of there, pronto.

Later that week I ignored his emails asking whether we could see each other again. Finally, I emailed him back and said flat out, "Why, so you can stare at my chest some more? I don't think so!"

Has this ever happened to you? If so, what did you do? Were you mad, or was part of you a little flattered?


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ambz323 ambz323 9 years
man oh man what is it with men and boobs? mine get stared at ALL THE TIME.i'm 5'6",thin,and have 34DD.i am sick and tired of guys staring at my,if it's my boyfriend i encourage it,but random men? i don't think so.
lindaloo lindaloo 9 years
I work on a trading floor and just today as I was talking to a co-worker, I saw him completely stare some girl up and down as she walked by. It's terrible but comical at the same time.
bugness bugness 9 years
I used to wear more revealing tops in my early college days. Now I'm just lazy and throw on t-shirts and hate to accentuate them at all. I do miss the days of catching guys in the act, though. There was a guy who used to sit next to me and "discuss serious topics" with me while he looked down my shirt. Another time I wore a LBD to a percussion convention (more 90% male attendance), and I had a few guys actually tell my breasts hello.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
lol pinktulips! It doesn't bother me too much if it's a guy I like and he's trying to do subtle glances. A creepy guy who can't stop staring if a different thing entirely!
pinktulips pinktulips 9 years
guys in school always use to stare at my chest...I finally decided that i was going to play at there own game so everytime I caught them staring id stare at there croch...i have excersised alot and my boobs have gone from a d cup to a c..thank god
ticamorena ticamorena 9 years
ticamorena ticamorena 9 years
i can see why a lot of girls would fint it irritating to have their chests stared at, but i have to say that some women out there have picture-perfect boobs. I occasionally stare at other women's boobs simply wondering how they differ to mine, and from time to time, just to appreciate. One of my best friends actually allows me to openly stare at hers, and as girls we all discuss different aspects of our boobs. So i can sympathise when men find it hard not to stare, the creepy part is that they do it sexually.
gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
It all depends how they look at them.... you can totally tell when I guy is a perv, a jerk...or yes, even a good some can be totally disgusting...I once had to work with this guy (1 day only) that made me feel like I needed a shower! It was his first day at work and also his last.
Ashleighe Ashleighe 9 years
I've got fairly big boobs, especially for my age (17) and they've always been a topic of conversation...i think because i'm so short and small they're more prominent (I'm only a 10D). I don't mind the odd glance, and I've noticed quite a few of my male friends still check them out, but its weird for me when older me look at them. For instance, my landlord this morning when he didn't think i noticed!
Marci Marci 9 years
Good for you for calling him out on his crass behavior, Dear. If a guy is staring at my chest while we're talking, I'll crouch down so that my eyes end up where my boobs were and then say 'Up Here' gesturing with my hand to my eyes. I think guys who ogle like that are lowlives.
demeter demeter 9 years
I don't mind.
cjmara805 cjmara805 9 years
I'm a double D and I've just become used to it! I don't flaunt them whatsoever, but it's generally pretty obvious. I generally don't speak with guys who blatantly stare at them though, I always go for nice boys (friendship and relationship wise). They are a handy tool sometimes though. The other day I desperately needed new tires (after I blew one out) and the shop told me that they didn't have the size that fit my rims, and one mechanic was more than happy to check again, to find that they actually did have my tires!
elizabethgracef elizabethgracef 9 years
I don't really mind, I'm used to it--especially with my boyfriend, he's obsessed. If I'm trying to have a discussion with someone and they're staring I get annoyed, but otherwise I don't care.
mlen mlen 9 years
haha i agree with 3 and 33!
bellanatella bellanatella 9 years
If it's laughable, I just laugh. But if it's a hard, creepy stare, I'll back away slowly. I have a lot of guy friends who do it as a joke, so I'm pretty lax about it.
kurniakasih kurniakasih 9 years
If they STARED at the boobs, it can get insulting and creepy. But if it's only a few glances, I'd probably ignore it. Mine are small-ish, so when someone actually stared I don't get flattered, instead, I'm confused.
blondewithbangs blondewithbangs 9 years
my friends boyfriend constantly stares at my chest. I dont think i have ever looked in in the eye. It creeps me out but i dont know how to bring it up to my friend. They have been dating much longer then i have known her. Its really akward an i try to avoid him at all costs.
aistea311 aistea311 9 years
maybe its the kid in me, but you said "flat out" and "flattered" I giggled. I personally love my breasts and dont care that guys look. I dont flaunt them like Pamela Anderson, but once in a while its nice to have the attention. Why else would there be bikinis and low cut shirts?
xlove33 xlove33 9 years
well, i am rather flat chested so i don't get much staring there. BUT i am really tall and have really long legs and i work out a lot so i get a lot of stares at my legs. I think it's kind of funny because people will stare and not realize i am looking right at them looking at my legs. Unlike the chest people will sort know when they get caught and quickly look away. It only creeps me out if the person doing it seems creepy.
lily8206 lily8206 9 years
As many other people were saying, I think a quick glance is ok and kind of flattering. But if their eyes dart back again and again or linger for more then a second it can get Very uncomfortable. I have encountered a couple of men who will not even try to hide it and that is the worst! I actually think it's rude. However, if a girl is wearing a shirt where she is showing them off - then you're asking people to look, I think. Even being a girl myself; if someone is wearing a shirt that shows off lots of cleavage/boobs (more so with large boobs), it's almost a distraction and difficult Not to look at... They are RIGHT there! Lol
rubialala rubialala 9 years
I don't have a problem with this because I have no chest!
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 9 years
having large breasts since i was thirteen (im 24 now) i've kind of gotten used to it. i just usually look at them and go "they don't talk back you know". that usually shuts them up and they stare elsewhere because they know i'm onto them
LolaDub LolaDub 9 years
I THINK THEY ARE NAUGHTY PERVS!!...LOL..BUT LIKE FASHIONHORE SAID...I have something..but not something to stare at..LOL. but i get there..eventually.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
my eyes are on my head. the only person who can stare at my chest and get away with it is my boyfriend.
KerryG KerryG 9 years
A few glances are amusing and kind of flattering, but if the guy is totally unable to make eye contact, it gets a little annoying. I imagine if I had a bigger chest and it happened more often, it would get a lot annoying. As others have said, it also depends on who's doing the staring. I've been known to flash my husband when I catch him doing it; a creepy looking stranger would be another matter entirely!
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