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What Does Your Mr. Right Look Like?

I caught up on Monday's Oprah last night and her guest, Steve Harvey, gave us all a glimpse into the male psyche as he answered a bunch of burning questions about love from an audience full of women. One in particular came to the show with a list of 43 requirements that her dream guy must posses, which included his height, his religious beliefs, his bank account, her need for him to be independent, to be family-oriented, honest, trustworthy, romantic, and clean — just to name a few. Steve sure did get a kick out of it, but this woman was serious — she wants to find Mr. Perfect! I think we all know that there is no such thing as perfection, but there is someone out there that's perfect for you and me. So ladies, if you were to come up with a list of your own, what would your Mr. Right look like?


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simplegrl simplegrl 8 years
god if you would have asked me this question a two years ago i would have said dark hair, brooding, tall, granola vegetarian birkenstock lover never have thought of the man im with now who is blonde, blue eyes, outdoorsy and very athletic my complete opposite. He was not my idea of perfect, but now I couldnt imagine myself without him. im complelty and utterly in love and blissfully happy!
fashionplate525 fashionplate525 8 years
While I am typically drawn towards tall blonde fellas, as long as I find him attractive, that is what matters. I want someone who is sensitive, passionate, has a relationship with God, and shares similar values. I also have a soft spot for a great sense of humor!
wedinlaguna wedinlaguna 8 years
I suggest you make a list of what you want in a life partner. It might take you awhile to make your list. As you date different people, put on your list what you liked and what you didn't like. Eventually, you will have a list that perfectly reflects what you want. Then, do not go out TWICE with anyone who does not have every single thing on your list! This will save you having to kiss a lot of frogs. And eventually, you will find Mr. Right.
ladolcealana ladolcealana 8 years
Definitely me too, sparklestar! After my ex and I broke up, I promised myself that I wasn't going to date anyone that was far from the things I need in a guy. A passion for music is the most important, intelligence, someone that can hold up an argument against me, romantic, honest, spontaneous, a great sense of humour and an interest in most of the things I am. I always wanted to date a guy that was taller than me, with dark hair and light eyes. I met my boyfriend in a Musical I was in the cast of and he was in the band. We are disgustingly alike, and he is everything that I've ever wanted in a guy. Absoloutly beautiful and an amazing musician. He sings to Les Miserables (my favourite musical, which i'm currently playing Eponine and he's in the band) in his car, surprises me with wine and dinner and watches Family Guy with me at midnight, when we gorge ourselves on snacks.
sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
My boyfriend IS my mr right! Honestly. I wanted a guy who had kind of brownish blonde hair, a good body, good abs, healthy interest in a sport, gym-goer, sensitive and caring. This is a list I came up with BEFORE I met him and then forgot about. I used to run it through my mind occasionally. Then I ran it through my mind a few weeks ago and realised he matched all of my criteria! It was actually pretty spooky considering I didn't even consider the list of criteria when we got together. =)
Spectra Spectra 8 years
My husband's pretty close to my ideal man: smart, funny, tall, broad shoulders, nice square jawline. He's also very loving, caring, and a very hard worker. I didn't have any sort of "list" when I was dating; I guess I thought that was pretty shallow.
princessya princessya 8 years
Well, I guess I have two categories. The physical and then the non-physical. Physically: Taller than me by 5 inches (I'm 5'0"), nice butt, proportionate from head to toe, and not too hairy. Non-physically: Has to care about his family's history/heritage (know at least his great-grandfather's side), willing to make things work, wants a family and to potentially be a stay-at-home-father, has some sort of skill musically, be geeky with me. My husband fits all of these qualities, and then some. :)
OhMyDragonflys OhMyDragonflys 8 years
Funny, sincere, trustworthy, ambitious. That's all.
mguy414 mguy414 8 years
We just did an exercise like this in my Marriage and Family class! He let us pick 10 characteristics out of a list of at least 50 and then MADE us narrow it down to 10, to see which ones we could "give up" if we had to. My 10 were- ambition/goal directedness, companionable/good company, demonstrative of affection, emotional stability, family values, kindess/compassion, love-making skill, reliability/responsibility, sensitivity/understanding, and truthfulness/honesty. Then the 5 I ended up with, in most important to least important order were- emotional stability, trustworthiness, responsibility, kindess, and sensitivity. I figured out that the reason I had those 5 was because my ex-fiancee was um...crazy, to put it nicely, and put me through hell. So emotional stability was definitely my number 1! Plus, he cheated on me and got the girl pregnant (while we were engaged!), and now they're getting married and all that, so trustworthiness and truthfulness are a must!
whatthew00t whatthew00t 8 years
When I was fifteen, I started to write out a series of characters for a story set in high school. One of the characters was loosely inspired by my fifteen year old self. I thought to myself, "Hm, wouldn't it be interesting if I sketched out the perfect guy for me as one of the characters and a love interest to the character inspired by me?". So I did: he is tall, is not the mass media standard of handsome and cute but attractive in his own ways, has brown hair and green eyes, wears a black hoodie, and sleeps in class and lacks interest in school but loves computer graphics/science. I even planned out that he lived in a cramped apartment with his mother. When I started to get to know my boyfriend, I remembered what I wrote. I later freaked out in my mind that mostly everything I wrote about this character, including his living situation, came true lol.
sprinkibrio sprinkibrio 8 years
oh, and it's hard to find a trustworthy guy, so you girls who have other expectations might have to compromise on that one.
sprinkibrio sprinkibrio 8 years
wow. list-making seems a bit green. i want someone who is trustworthy and intelligent. done.
austerity austerity 8 years
II want somebody that I'm really drawn to; this can happen because of all kinds of qualities that shine through. It's hard to explain. However, I'm not going to pretend I don't have that little list in my head too :) we all do, some of us just keep it more flexible :) My 'requirements': - at least 6 feet (my height) - a handsome face/a face that I find attractive enough - preferably with glasses (don't ask, I just think the geeky thing is cute :) ) - very very educated and smart and intellectually curious - an aura of culture - a healthy dose of manliness, forcefulness/roughness ;) - a big heart, a sweet and loving character, a good sense of right and wrong - Most likely, five to seven years older than me. - Madly in love with me! Aaah...I will find him one day :) Oh and I have no preferences regarding hair/eye color etc.
Miss-Senorita Miss-Senorita 8 years
Honestly you can dream up the perfect guy but something has got to give when you do that. I just want someone who I connect with and treats me like I deserved to be treated. My bf is by no means what I envisioned to be the one for me. He is shorter and a lil more meater but none the less he treats me like nothing less than wonderful.
LeChatonNoir LeChatonNoir 8 years
Aie yaie yaie! I remember writing a Mr. Perfect list, but when the guy who filled ALL those qualities appeared, I totally didn't notice. In fact, I believed initially that it was impossible that this person would ever be romantically appealing to me. The reality was, that finding someone so perfect scared me, and I soon discovered that I'd actually concocted a whole other superficial list in the back of my head, that I didn't want to 'fess up to. When I realized that this "secret version" of my Mr. Perfect was the only the image of what I wanted, that had no importance or relevance to the first list of all the true qualities I so longed for in a partner, I could own up to my self-deception. And now, the real Mr. Perfect and I have a wonderful relationship, with a passion and an honesty that would have never happened had I not admitted (ironically) that he was not at all what I'd expected. :)
Bearwoman Bearwoman 8 years
A "bear"! And my boyfriend is one of those. Mmm... He's also kind, dependable and funny. Very important. He's my Dreamboat.
cptnruthless cptnruthless 8 years
I dated Mr.Perfect-on-paper... and I was so bored! My boyfriend may not look like the perfect guy - but he is loving and treats me so well -and the best part is that we always have so much fun together!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
btw, I didn't mean that my man doesn't have great physical characteristics. I just wouldn't list his bank account or possessions as "assets". Seems awfully shallow.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
It's strange to me that some of these lists make their men sound like objects. If I were to make a list of my man's great qualities, I wouldn't start with his physical characteristics and/or how others perceive him. Anyway, I don't operate based on lists. You have to go with your heart. Someone great on paper isn't necessarily the right person for you.
sourcherry sourcherry 8 years
I don't have many requirements. He has to be funny - I just find myself attracted to the ones that make me laugh! Also, intelligent and a good person - kind, honest... He should also like to try new things, just because after a while we would never agree on doing anything together... That is all, I guess!
pink-elephant pink-elephant 8 years
I've let go of most of my "musts" because I realized that most of them were too limiting but I still hang on to a few that I just think are essential, I have always fancied guys who are fun, intelligent and stable...I don't like too much drama. as far as physical appearance goes, I like taller guys, because I'm tall myself, and toned arms are always a major turn-on!
defygrav12 defygrav12 8 years
My eye is automatically drawn to blonde-haired/blue-eyed men (Aryan race, all the way :P)...I think it's an effect of being part of the Pocahontas-watching generation. Some John Smith complex. ;) But truly, what I find myself most attracted to is sparkly eyes. I find the sparkliest eyes come from guys who are comfortable with themselves. He must be friendly and open (not neccessarily outgoing, though...if he's a little shy, it makes up for my obnoxiously out-there self), Catholic/willing-to-be-Catholic, clever, and someone who will laugh at me. :) Also, math is a big turn on. Maybe because I'm so inept at it. A man who knows his numbers is hot.
oohsexypenguin oohsexypenguin 8 years
Before I started dating my husband, I had a list of qualities that I was looking for, too. Generally, that list led me to date a-holes. My husband was, initially, nothing that I was usually drawn to: he was a bit on the quiet side, wasn't always cracking jokes or the center of attention, etc. But he grew on me, and four years later we're married and very happy. Just goes to show that you might think you know who your Mr. Perfect is, but you really have no idea.
heatherhas heatherhas 8 years
Wow al lot of these girls like tall guys, I usually like the short, stocky irish guys. :) I am engaged to a tall asian guy though, and he is perfect!
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
I don't have a "list". My "Mr. Right" would, I guess, be an intellectual person, kind, family-oriented, stable, funny, with a broad, questioning mind and a love of travel. I have zero physical requirements other than that he be healthy, which my ex was not. Luckily, I have all that and so much more in my boyfriend, who really is my perfect match. I'm a lucky girl.
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