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What Kind of Christmas Present Should I Get Him?

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I have a feeling my boyfriend is buying me something expensive for Christmas, or at least he's put a lot of thought into it and keeps mentioning how much I'm going to like it. He's even double checked with my sisters to make sure he's got the perfect details, but I have no idea what to get him besides a cologne that I think he'll love. Other than that I don't know what kind of gift is appropriate for a boyfriend that I've only been dating for a month. Guys are so hard to shop for! Any suggestions?

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kristyy kristyy 7 years
Maybe spend money on doing something fun together, like tickets to a comedy show or an activity you would both enjoy (i.e., rock climbing and then grabbing some beers afterwards). Doesn't need to be expensive, but you guys would spend time together and have fun.
Janine22 Janine22 7 years
Hahhahaaaha a bag of weed! Betty Wayne you are too funny. :):):)
Bettye-Wayne Bettye-Wayne 7 years
Many good ideas above! Maybe you'll hate this idea ... I read this once- in Maxim or Playboy or something that- it's okay to get him flowers as long as you tie some sort or treat to it. Maybe box of condoms if you haven't had sex yet or concert tickets in a little envelope or a little bag of weed (if you're down like that). I haven't done it yet but I've wanted to ever since I read it.
bonbonagogo bonbonagogo 7 years
I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 months and I got him some nice slippers and fleece pants for Hanukkah. His apartment is freezing and I know he's been looking for slippers. I had a lot of ideas, I've just listened a lot since we started dating. He bought me a concert ticket, so I think for first gifts, we did a good job!
runningesq runningesq 7 years
An oil change kit ! HAHAHA. I'm with ^^^ ... one month? Don't spend too much money. I talked one of my friends out of getting his g/f of a few months DIAMOND EARRINGS. when they broke up he was really glad he hadn't dropped that kind of cash. I like FireFly's idea of a gift basket with litte things he likes: gift card to favorite restaurant, DVD, iTunes gift card, boxers, bottle of wine/ favorite liquor, etc.
FireFly44 FireFly44 7 years
When our first Christmas rolled around my bf and I had only been together about 2 months so I didnt want to go all out on an expensive present. I suggested we go out and have a romantic night on the town with dinner and doing some Christmassy things in our area. For a small gift I got him the dvd of the movie we saw on our first date. I suggest maybe cooking him dinner just the two of you with a bottle of wine and maybe doing something reminiscent of your first date whether it be with a gift or recreating the evening. I also really like the idea of a gift basket with lots of little things you know he loves/enjoys.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 7 years
I'd say, since you've only been dating a month to try a little on the less expensive side. Perhaps try getting him a little collection of all the things he loves...Christmas Stockings work perfectly in this department. Especially if you write his name on it and fill it with little things that are meaningful to him. Perhaps an ornament of your first Christmas together, or a favorite cd of his, even a gift card to his favorite store. Consider his personality too, what type of guy is he? What does he enjoy? It's not always the expensive gifts that end up being the most meaningful.
mamasitamalita mamasitamalita 7 years
Try Excitations (dot com).... they're experience gifts and you can shop by your area and by price range. It could be a really nice thing for your budding relationship, too, to share something to do together!
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years
My first christmas with my hubby (then boyfriend of course) I got a puppy from him. We had been dating 9 months though at that point and had just moved in together. Ahh... Benny was the best Christmas gift I ever got ;-)
cotedazur cotedazur 7 years
For my first Christmas with the boyfriend that's now my husband, we'd only been together for a few months. I knew he loved painting, so I got him five private painting lessons with a well-known painter in our area. I like the idea of giving an active gift, where it's not just something that will sit on a shelf but something he can do. As other posters have suggested, tickets to a concert or sporting event area good idea too. Or if there's something you like to do together - mountain biking, for example - you could get him a map of good bike trails in the area and some kind of biking-related accessory, then suggest that you use them together. Gifts like that will encourage that your relationship continue :)
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
I like the idea of tickets as a good, thoughtful but not too expensive gift. Most of the time two tickets to a favorite band or sports event doesn't cost too much, and he'll really enjoy it and have the memories long after Christmas is over.
Yogaforlife Yogaforlife 7 years friend just told me that last year her boyfriend was all excited to give her the gift he got her and it turned out to be an oil change kit for her to learn to change her own oil! Needless to say, she was really upset with that gift - yeah, she needed her oil changed but that was not a good christmas gift. Men definitely have different definitions of what is a good/expensive gift. I was thinking if he has a favorite team, maybe buy him some memorabilia of that team. That's my favorite fallback for my husband, if I need a gift and can't think of something, I get him something related to the Red Sox and he's happy as can be.
Muirnea Muirnea 7 years
I agree with notinthemood and jocupcake. I agree that you shouldn't get anything expensive. A month is not very long at all as far as gifts like that go. My ex got all excited about Christmas one year and talked up his present. He got me a flashlight (b/c it's useful O.o), a t-shirt with a saying on it that HE thought was awesome, and a hat (the best part, b/c I actually thought it was cute and had pointed it out to him). So yeah, a lot of guys don't think the way girls do. My ex thought I would love the shirt b/c he did, LOL. I hate the shirt and never want to wear it in public...we have extremely different tastes as far as stuff like that goes, hahaha. And the flashlight is actually kind of cool...but it's not exactly the romantic gift I would like and expect from a bf. So yeah, my point is that boys are silly. And in my experience at least (multiple guys ha), what they get excited about and think you will like, is def. not always what you actually like, lol. For bf's I've only been seeing about a month, honestly, I don't get anything serious at that point. I get something fun and silly that I think they would actually like or appreciate, but not anything expensive at all. The longer I know someone the cooler, more expensive and meaningful their gifts get. Do y'all have any inside jokes? Some really good present ideas that aren't to serious/expensive but are still really meaningful and show you care are presents that can play off an inside joke you guys have. For ex. another guy and I had an inside joke about orangutans, so I bought him a little stuffed orangutan once. And then you just buy a couple little things he likes to go with it, like his favorite candy. Or you could just add the inside joke gift as an extra to a nicer present, like the cologne you think he will like. :)
jocupcake jocupcake 7 years
Well since you've only been dating a month, I don't think a really expensive gift is necessary (I think Notinthemood is right on with the $50 limit). I would try to come up with something thoughful. What does your boyfriend like doing? What are his hobbies or favorite things? For instance, my boyfriend loves a band called Brand New, so for his first b-day while we were together, I bought him tickets to a show (cost about $30). Try to think of things that your boyfriend likes and then brainstorm gifts accordingly.
notinthemood notinthemood 7 years
NEVER spend over $50 on a gift for someone you've only been dating for a month! Eek... nix the expensive ideas and give him something thoughtful. Cologne is good... pair it with a nice card and some holiday cookies/chocolate and you've got yourself an acceptable gift. Now is not the time to establish yourself as a desperate sugar momma! And I agree with Snookyx that you should ask your sister for a price range. Keep in mind that for all you know, he could be giving you a hilarious gag gift and the boasting is intended to build your excitement. My grandpa gave my grandma "3 carats" for Christmas a few years ago... he stuck 3 baby carrots on a necklace and a couple of earring posts and put it in a jewelry box. He spent 2 months building up the excitement for that one, and no, there wasn't any real jewelry in it for her in the end. There's no reason for a man to spend a lot of money on a girlfriend of 1 month.
Gdeeaz Gdeeaz 7 years
I would ask your sister. She doesn't have to tell you what the gift is, just a general idea of how much it cost and how much effort he put into it. After you have an idea of how much he spent you can make him a gift basket. Buy him a subscription to his favorite magazine, buy his favorite candy, drinks, CD, movie tickets, gift card, video game, cologne or other little things he loves and put them in the basket or bag. I have done this for a boyfriend in the past and he loved it.
darlduran darlduran 7 years
Well, my question is how much are you willing to spend? I can give you some suggestions... 1. Ipod or Mp3 player 2. Sneakers or Shoes 3. Jewelry (only is he likes wearing it) 4. Maybe a gift card from his favorite clothing store.
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