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What Moments Defined Your Relationship?

November's issue of Women's Health touched upon 15 moments that define a relationship. And as we all know, each first is as important as the next, and they all possess a special memory for every relationship. So check out their 15 defining moments, plus a few of my own, and tell us what the defining moments were for you in your relationship in the comments section below!

  • Your first talk till dawn
  • The first kiss
  • When he introduces you as "my girlfriend"
  • The first morning after
  • Finding the nerve to say "I love you"
  • The first time you write "we" in an email to your friends
  • The first time you fight and make up
  • The first trip together
    • If you want to see the rest of their list and a few of my own defining moments, just


      • The first time you grocery shop together
      • The first time he lets you control his car/remote/iPod
      • The moment you see a future with him
      • When you notice you are no longer primping for him
      • Going to the doctor together for the first time
      • When you care for something together
      • When you commit — we're talking long-term commit — to each other

      And here are a few of my own!

      • The first time he cries in front of you
      • When you call him with news before your parents and your best friend
      • When you have more fun at home with him than out with your friends
      • When he invites your dad to play golf, cards, or watch a football game


Join The Conversation
Autumns_Elegy Autumns_Elegy 8 years
The first time we shared chocolate and kisses by the beach. When we got drunk in a dry zone. First time we discussed contraceptives and children. When he announced that he wanted a girl and a boy and what names he'd like. Everytime we cuddle on public transport. When I say the most horribly inappropriate thing and we laugh ourselves into hysteria. When he bought me a shirt to wear to a job interview. First time I bought him Gelati or coffee. First time we cooked together. Biggest defining moment would be when we spent a night curled up together and I really needed to use the bathroom, every time I moved I was cuddled tighter! He ended up waking up and grumping about having to let go of me for a few moments. :D
mushaboom mushaboom 8 years
My relationship is still young, but we've had several of these. Okay, so I'm not completely incompetent & am actually rather handy, and sure it's fairly sexist, but I'd also add the first time he fixes something around the house. We came home to my apt one day to find one of my roommates had broken my couch frame. Together we figured out a temporary fix, and he's going to bring a drill and some stuff to fix it. So actually he didn't save the day, but he helped with something I couldn't do on my own. Sometimes you need a hand with big stuff.
animatedpunk animatedpunk 8 years
I've experienced a few of these with my boyfriend (the relationship is still rather new) and I'm looking forward to experiencing more :)
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
When he called me his gf the first time. We didn't have a discussion about it or anything, he just threw it in the conversation and waited to see how I reacted. Very cute. :D The first time I realized I could actually see a future with him. I can just imagine us in our house together with our dog, LOL. I've never felt like that with anyone before. The first time I realized I really really respect him and love him. It was like, wow, I've never really loved anyone before. He makes everything right. And that's a big deal b/c I have super high standards and he meets every single one of them. The first time he made me smile when we were fighting. No one can do that, I usually just get more pissed when people joke around when I'm mad. He always makes it better though. He always diffuses fights, so we have discussions rather than fighting. It's a good thing we're opposites in that case, he keeps me under control. :-P The first time I realized I was willing to compromise for him. I wasn't at all willing to compromise in my last relationship, and I never truly worked to fix problems, I think deep down, I didn't really care or want to, I was just unhappy and wanted out. With my bf now though, I compromise and I don't feel any resentment b/c of it, he deserves it b/c he compromises too. :) I love my bf so much!!! He's perfect!! :D Sorry for the long ranting post, I just felt like venting. :-P :)
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
*the first time i didnt bother to close the bathroom door *The first time i cooked for him, and messed it up but he still ate it. *The first long road trip, and getting to enjoy eachothers music choices.
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Oh yeah and when he covered my sorry butt in Halo 3 and lead me to all the hidden skulls and let me have good weapons and such. It pisses me off now but at the time it was like aww he's even looking out for me in Halo world! Ahh he's my favoritest ever..
KadBunny KadBunny 8 years
Lmao when I farted and he totally laughed his ass off and so did I. :)
nancita nancita 8 years
Hosting our first party together and realizing that we were a party-rific team.
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
the first time he cooked dinner for me Definitely our first roadtrip and vacation I don't get the one about going to the doctor though??
Marci Marci 8 years
There were several, but I think the moment things turned most significantly was when we were talking on the phone and he said "I miss you. How can you miss a person you're talking to?"
DDL DDL 8 years
It is weird that I once when out with someone for 4 years and we only did about 5 or 6 of those things?
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
for me, the key thing with my man now is the first time he was there for me when i was sick/hurt. not even 2 months into our relationship igot seriously hurt and was in the hospital for 10 days in an entirely different state. he flew up to see me and stayed with me and took care of me sooo much since there was a lot that i couldn't do anymore. it was really eye opening because i didn't get that from any other guy that i had dated.
bikinib7 bikinib7 8 years
When my man taught me how to drive his standard truck. I was stalling, left and right, and he was patient with me the whole time, laughing and clenching his teeth. It paid off, I'm a good driver now.. he's a good teacher! The first time he opened my car door for me, I got little flutters. I know lots of guys do that, but I never had a guy be that chivalrous.. haha - and three years together, he still does it. The day I broke down on the side of the highway and called him freaking out and he left work right away, drove to get me, took care of everything, and took me home. I knew he'd be there for me no matter what.
aeschere aeschere 8 years
"the first time we raided together in an mmo" lol!! i agree. i also think some defining moments were when he.. - introduced me to his 7 year old son (that was a first for him) - emptied out a drawer in his room to call my own - added a gaming profile for me on his beloved 360 XD ahhhh i love him....
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Besides some of the other moments listed above another one would definitely be when I gave birth to our child and his face was right there watching it all happen.......
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
good tips...I'll keep them in mind. :) of course I have nothing to add. My relationships have all been disasters. I'll let cha' know when it changes... as if it matters :D
ilikeatea ilikeatea 8 years
First time he gives you *THE* look. You know what that look is...if you have receieved it.. The first time you meet the parents The first time the power goes off and he gets out of bed to check to make sure everything is ok with the pets, doors, and etc
melizzle melizzle 8 years
When you wake him up in the middle of the night because the heat's broken and he's not mad- he just fixes it. Yep. That was last night...
queenegg queenegg 8 years
We fell in love at first sight, however what I thought about when I read this was when he said that we were going to TCBY. Yes, it seems really small, but there was just something about it. We'd spent the day on the river and on the way home, he said that we were going to TCBY. I'd wanted to go all summer and he finally took me. We were going to go when he finished his motorcycle as our first ride together. It was honestly the most romantic thing ever, more romantic than any time a guy has tried to be romantic. Now whenever we're at work and we want to say that we love each other, we say TCBY. It's sickeningly adorable and we should be too old for that or something, but we're not. I wish he wasn't in a meeting right now because I'd go see him.
graylen graylen 8 years
The sparks when our eyes first met. I didn't even know that really happened to people! We just knew (even though there were so many hurdles).
ohkate ohkate 8 years
at midnight on my 21 birthday, he was driving me home from a champagne tasting party that was held at the french embassy, since we were in the car he lit his lighter and told me to make a wish. I knew right then he was the one even though we weren't even dating yet!
RosaDilia RosaDilia 8 years
When "the day you become my wife" comes up in a frank conversation. :)
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
"When you have more fun at home with him than out with your friends " Aw, last night we were talking about what we are gonna to for halloween. We both agreed that it would be way more fun to order a pizza, get a bottle of rum and some scary movies and lay it bed all night, than go out to some costume party. :)
RubberDogTurds RubberDogTurds 8 years
the first time we raided together in an mmo *sniffle* geeklove is the best
bluesteyes bluesteyes 8 years
yep we have done all of that except having babies, which i am thinking of trying.
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