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What Was the Most Trivial Part of Your 20s?

The ladies from Sex and the City were on Oprah yesterday and while their visit was mainly all about the movie, they touched upon some other hot topics as well, age being one of them. All the women, including Oprah herself, were in agreement when saying their 20s were overrated, in fact Kristen Davis went so far to say that she was "kind of unhappy" in her 20s and she didn't know who she was. As someone that's about to be 30 myself, (gasp!!) I'm intrigued to see what all the hype's about. I get that your 20s is a confusing time, a time of self-discovery and trial and error, but I've got to be honest, my 20s weren't all that bad! Of course, I had my fair share of ups and downs, but all in all, I can't complain. So to all you 30-plus women out there, what was the most trivial time in your 20s? Are you with the SATC's girls — were your 20s not all that great in comparison to where you are now?


demzdale demzdale 8 years
im 20, and i completely agree with kristen davis. shes not saying that everyone is unhappy and sad when their 20, the quote is out of context, the entire quote is actually really smart and enlighten. people spend, well waste, so much time trying to figure out their life bfore their 30, bc apparently thats a scary age, but what shes saying is she spent too much time trying to figure it out and you dont really live life until your older bc you have an idea what its about. i know that throughout these ten years before im thirty im going to learn and regret a lot and thats the way it is. im not going to stress about trying to "find" myself bc like she said, it'll come later
skatie07 skatie07 9 years
To the people who said high school is not the best time of your life..Thank you! I am in high school and if this is the best life gets, I won't have a very happy life.
Neural Neural 9 years
I will be 32 in 9 days. I would say the most trivial part of my 20s was work. I just put waaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyy to much emphasis on work and stressed myself out waaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyy too much. There's just so much more to life. But perhaps it's all a part of the journey...
darlene darlene 9 years
I'm 25, and right now I can say my earlier years were better
alltherage alltherage 9 years
p.s. winne cooper LOOOVE this quote!! It's all very simple to me: In your 20's, you have to establish your life. In your 30's, you can actually start living it!
alltherage alltherage 9 years
i watched this yesterday on dvr. it really struck me. i am 29 soon to be 30. and am having some anxiety. i think there is some truth to what davis said. no i wasnt sad. but its a tough define me period. and with the whole quarter life crisis high expectation do it all thing for women these days its tough. i think though im a bit nervous to turn 30 i can say i have matrued and things dont bother me as much and i know who i am.
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
Um...I think people (duck duck goose) took my comment the wrong way. I didn't mean that if you don't make mistakes then you don't learn. I just meant that life sometimes throws curveballs and those curveballs are the things that I ended up learning the most from. Everyone is different. geez.
mandy_frost mandy_frost 9 years
I'm 25. It's tumultuous. I think I'm growing and learning. I am in a sort of daze and confusion though.
Jenny86 Jenny86 9 years
Well, I'm 21 and I LOVE IT so far! Ha!
keiren63 keiren63 9 years
When I was in my 20s I couldn't understand why those old, old people in their 40s would regard me with a certain that I'm one of those old, old people I totally get it. Your 20s are for being young and fun...doing, as a grownup, all the things you wanted to do when you're a teenager. It's when buying clothes and shoes and decorating your apartment to impress your friends is the most important thing in the world. It's constantly looking good to find a man. In your 20s, it's all about what's ahead for YOU. In your 30s and 40s, you start to understand that it's what you leave behind for the WORLD: how you raise children and send them out into the world, what impact your work has on the world, what's happening in your community.
Koko42 Koko42 9 years
I agree with most of the 20 somethings on here. I just hit 25 and am loving my life right now. I think the past 5 years was a bit of a blur with college, relationship ups and downs but within the past couple of years I have really grown and found out who I am. I am enjoying every single step of being in my 20s. I am sure that when I look back at this time years from now I will say the same thing. When I turned 25, I came up with this motto for the next 5 years mostly because I work in an industry that turns me into a vampire (I work at night and sleep during the day: "Live life to the fullest. You don't want to look back at your life and say 'What did I do in my 20s? Nothing. Wow!" It's kinda shallow but it keeps me moving!
else411 else411 9 years
I enjoyed my late 20s more than the early 20s. Better job/money & life experiences. 30s are more about solidifying who I am/want to be and not being afaird to take chances.
Twinkle1 Twinkle1 9 years
Winnie said it best.
BeautiJunki BeautiJunki 9 years
Yes silverlining it slows down, LOL :) but not too bad. I just make meals with ground turkey and eat a lot more seafood. it's not too bad. I also had a melt down right before I turned 30 as a friend o mine said if I wasn't married by 30 that guys would start to wonder if I was damaged goods (we are the same age and he's a he)he was joking but it definitely fed into the oh sh!t I'm gonna be thirty bs. Now in my early 30's I love it. Now married (was engaged at time of rude comment) and enjoying the honeymoon no baby yet period. So have fun and get it all out of your system and don't be too tied down to anything. It's better to live it a little heartbreak rather than years of regret.
julibul julibul 9 years
Let me just say that I'm 20.5 and I hate it so far. I absolutely would love to return to a time when I was, say, 14. I loved high school compared to college. I just would rather be a kid again. I've never been in a real relationship, never really been kissed, don't drink (and so rarely go out to parties because college kids NEED alcohol to survive it seems), don't smoke, don't do anything. I have been spending my college years working working working to get good grades and figure out my life. I don't feel ready to grow up.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I'm with those who say that life keeps getting better. For me, my 20's were a tumultous time -- both personally and professionally. I had a quarter-life crises. I was on a first-class flight heading where I didn't want to go, and with a lot of difficulty and mixed feelings, got off the flight. But you know what? I wouldn't trade that experience for anything in the world. I learned a lot of lessons about myself -- again, personally and professionally. I learned some lessons by observing those around me, and by my own trial-and-error. Right now, I'm experiencing my 30's, and I much more happier and content. I know who I am, and I like who I am. I am comfortable in my own skin. Now I'm thriving. (In my 20's, I was confused and conflicted. However, it was a valuable experience. It got me to where I am now.)
saranightly saranightly 9 years
I'm still in my 20's (will be 25 this year) but I can say that life keeps getting better each year. 3 and 4 years ago I was confused about relationships and life and what I wanted, and now I'm on the right track. I can see how people say that 30s are the best!
Laughing4life Laughing4life 9 years
I'm only 22 and I can definitely say the 20s is a time for learning, enjoying being young, exploring your options, still pursuing education (doing my masters right now) and still having time to goof off before I have to get serious about life haha!
tlsgirl tlsgirl 9 years
The stupid relationship I stayed in for the first couple years of my twenty. 25-30 has been so much better so far.
Bisque Bisque 9 years
Just turned 21 a month ago, I'm waiting to see how it's gonna turn out. :)
Silverlining10 Silverlining10 9 years
I'm not 30, but there is one FABULOUS thing about being 20: GREAT METABOLISM. I know for a fact men and women's metabolisms slow down around 30, so twenties is the time to splurge on food and still feel great days later.
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
I'm still in my 20's. I don't know if any decade is necessarily better or worse. Of course you might look back and think you life is better now, it would be sucky if you thought the happiest times were behind you! About a week or so ago, I found this notebook I had for my last year of school, where I wrote down all the random things that would happen since it was a time I would never get back. 7 years later, that 17 year old seems silly and I feel that I have grown up from being that person, however, when I actually was 17, all those moments seemed fun and dramatic and important. It was being 17, which was fun when I was 17, but now I am 24 and I like my life now and wouldn't want to be 17 again.
Ruthiroo Ruthiroo 9 years
Completely believe that it just keeps geeting better and totally agree with Kimpossible's comments. For me the 20's decade is like being a mother and raising your first child. Everything is a learning curve and stuff just SEEMS to be a much bigger deal. The 30's and 40's are like being the experienced mom raising the 3rd or 4th kid. You just don't worry about things so much and can relax and enjoy more. Okay, kinda a weird analogy, but just trying to say that the older I get the more confidence I have in myself and who I am and the more I can kick back and just really enjoy my life w/o worrying so much.
Marci Marci 9 years
Maybe I was a late bloomer, but I was lost in my 20s; not sure about my career, definitely not sure of myself in relationships. I find this getting older and wiser business very true; becoming more confident with myself with each passing year and loving that feeling. I definitely wouldn't go back to my 20s for all the tea in China.
j2e1n9 j2e1n9 9 years
My 20s have been a freaking blast so far (28)! I have done some pretty hilarious crazy random off the wall shit and quite frankly, I am surprised that I am still here! But I am glad to be, and I am glad I have toned it down quite a bit in the past couple years.
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