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What's The Rush?

What's The Rush?

Dear Sugar
My friend's boyfriend is a year older than her - she's 14 and he's 15. A few days ago, she told me that they make out all of the time and have even gone as far as oral sex on each other. She said it was only a matter of time before they go all the way. I don't want to intrude on her personal life, but I'm worried that it's too soon. They've only been dating for a little over a month. I'm also afraid that she will regret it later on and feel guilty for not waiting longer. Should I talk to her about holding off, or should I let her make her own decision? Third Wheel Theresa

Dear Third Wheel Theresa
As her friend, you can talk to her about her feelings about this guy and about the repercussions of having sex. It's only been a month, what's the rush? Are you afraid that once he sleeps with her he might dump her? What's his reputation like? Empower her to make her own decision, but also make sure that if she does decide to go ahead with it, that she is informed about protection. She's only been with this guy for a month so she shouldn't be taking sex so lightly. Once you talk to her, there's really nothing else you can do about it. Ultimately it is her choice.

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