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What's Up With Sex Ed?

What's Up With Sex Ed?

I remember my first encounter with sex ed. It was when I was in the 4th grade — they made the girls go into one classroom and the boys in another while they taught us all about periods and how babies are made. I also remember my sex ed classes a few years later, when the boys and girls were in the same room, and we were taught all there was to know about penises and vaginas.

Though we learned that sex education might make teens hold on to their virginity longer, recently reported on a study that shows a decent sized portion of teachers aren't even teaching the main criteria — "defined as covering the four basic topics of abstinence, birth control, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases." That's pretty disappointing news, but it kind of rings true. What about you? Is there any one thing in particular that you remember from sex ed that's come in handy today?


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northofantastic northofantastic 9 years
It wasn't in sex ed class, but around the same time frame when my 7th grade science teacher accidentally said Orgasm instead of organism in class and he got the BEST reaction. Half the class was silent, the other trying not to laugh or laughing our asses off. It was great. Then in freshman sex ed we had a pretty fun week with guest speakers. One of them was a guy with a guitar who sang about STDs. Very memorable. :)
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 9 years
From what i recall, there hasn't been comprehensive sex-ed being taught in schools.I reckon i can thank Bush for that one too.;) Only a fool would think that abstinence only education will get you some where. We were not taught sex-ed. I learned from a book! There i said it! :D And from tv, and the streets... And to be honest, i wasn't trying to have that convo with my mom. Like hell!
Advah Advah 9 years
I don't think sex ed exists where I grew up. All pupils had a session to attend during an 'awareness week' (drugs, STI, sports, arts...) where a doctor showed us how to put a condom on her fingers, and answered question. All the rest sort of happened in biology class from 12 onwards, with specific explanations of how the pill/hormones work in high school when we studied the body in details. And we all (either boys or girls) knew what needed to be known about periods or that kind of stuff before anyway, so if we had specific questions about contraception we could always ask that in class or with the school nurse.
JessNess JessNess 9 years
We had puberty/ sex-ish ed in elementary. I really just remember the stupid videos. I remember that we always had to have a permission slip signed by a parent saying that we were allowed to attend the class. They separated boys and girls and talked to us about puberty. I also remember them saying that you loose 1/4 cup of blood a day on your period. In 8th grade you had to take a class on health and that carried sex ed. I had a really weird teacher so it was "interesting" She told us that she likes to keep things spicy by wearing nothing but an apron sometimes for her husband. She was weird. In 9th grade I switched schools and had to take health again. We got the normal STD pictures and a lovely video of a woman giving birth with the camera right between her legs. In 11th grade I took an anatomy class and in the last weeks we had sex-ed that covered EVERY topic
Asia84 Asia84 9 years
i don't remember sex-ed at school. i think someone tried to come to class when i was maybe in the 11th grade. but by then, i was selling condoms out of the trunk of my green BMW. . . .i wasnt having sex (no prospects at the time), but i would go to the free clinic and get a sh*t load of them, and sell them 2 for a $1. (cheaper than the liquor store) i also sold candy bars out of my trunk during lunch period. i was QUITE the entreprenuer back then. hey, i bought $300 handbags in high school, and my dad said i had to get a job if i wanted something THAT frivolous. thank goodness for honey teens with a sweet-tooth.
jJuliet jJuliet 9 years
I am really glad that I had sex ed in school. My mom never said anything to be about sex, because she is easily embarrassed (e.g. gets grossed out at the thought of oral sex and other sexual practices that she would never try). She also distrusts hormonal birth control, so she only knew about condoms as a birth control method. My mom assumed that I "learned everything in school," which is somewhat true...I learned everything that I knew at the time from school. It wasn't the best program--it was abstinence only (and yes, lots of girls got pregnant), but they also mentioned STDs and various birth control methods. It was definitely more than my mom was willing/able to teach me.
ninjastarlett ninjastarlett 9 years
What I learned from my university level sex ed class (upper-div psych -- human sexuality) was easily ten-fold what was covered in all those years of "sex ed" programs. But in the 7th grade, I did get a "life science" class that covered STI's (still called STDs then) and most of the bio stuff. It ended up with 2-3 days of us carrying around 6-lb plastic babies that cried. It sure did prove a point. Babies are heavy and always crying. O.O
mguy414 mguy414 9 years
I went to a private school for middle school so we had a VERY in-depth sex ed talk every year and 3 times in my 7th grade year. The first time we had it we didn't ask enough questions, so they made us do it again, then we asked TOO many questions, so we had to do it again.
Naidean7 Naidean7 9 years
We had to get parental consent forms to be able to take the class. They did the basic .. maxi pads, tampons, cramps ect ect. I dont ever remember being taught about anything other then HIV/Aids. Which is pretty sad because I'm 21 so my sex ed days weren't THAT long ago. Everything else i learned from my subscription of Cosmo... which is another sad thing. I think teachers should cover all STD's and prevention instead of leaving young people wondering.
pink-elephant pink-elephant 9 years
We had something like it in junior high but they didn't call it sex was more like a general "get-to-know-your-body." thing. Although, they did do the whole abstinence spiel and "how to properly use a condom." I hated that class.
bikinib7 bikinib7 9 years
And I'm only a sophomore in college, so this was just 3 years ago! Not like it was decades ago or anything!!!!!!
bikinib7 bikinib7 9 years
I went to Catholic school my entire life. I never got sex ed. The year we would have received it (in 6th grade), they were changing the program around, so they "skipped" us. haha In high school, we had a presentation on sexually transmitted diseases to scare us, but no information on birth control or safe practices. We were always preached abstinence, which was stupid. I was actually very well informed on the whole topic because I used the handy dandy internet. My parents never talked to me about it either. Oh, and get this, in 12th grade, one of my freak teachers (who had 7 kids) came to our Religion class preaching NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING. NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING TO 17 AND 18 YEAR OLDS!!!!!! I am still outraged about it to this day and surprised that within that year, girls didn't get pregnant trying to take their temperature and determine when they could have sex and not make the guy pull out. Of course, I was up there arguing everything she said. haha
Jude-C Jude-C 9 years
All I remember is that weird gift bag that higgydt4 mentioned--ours had the super-old-school maxi pads that had belts on them for holding them up!
higgydt4 higgydt4 9 years
We had Sex Ed. in 5th grade. I remember at the end of the week, all the girls were give a gift bag that included pads and other things for your period. I was embarrassed to have it, so I gave it to my mom for her birthday and told her "You will need these. I don't need them." But she saved them for me for when I did start. haha
Pistil Pistil 9 years
I must have learned something from someone -no pregnancies, no diseases. I just remember kids in the class (boys) being really immature about everything, and the 'anonymous question box'. I think the thing for me was that it was hard to know how all this information applied to me, when I hadn't had any experience with sex yet. In theory I'd know how to avoid all these STDs, etc, but so what? And no matter how hard anyone tries to clear up myths about sex, they still persist even among adults (like bogus birth control methods).
Random2 Random2 9 years
I didn't have Sex Ed., I had Family Life. I learned how to put a condom on a wooden penis (apparently I was the first girl to do so, everyone else was scared), watched a presentation where a classmate held up a bottle of mustard, squeezed it and said, "This is what gonorrhea looks like" and how to scare the teacher (in grade 12 the girls in my class looked at him and said seriously, "Mountain Dew makes you sterile.") But, pretty much everything useful I learned, I got from my doctor when I went on the Pill. I think Sex Ed. in schools is important, but it needs to be taught correctly.
punjabibyotch punjabibyotch 9 years
well i come from a really rich and privileged school system, and after hearing how many girls got abortions they started getting more in depth on birth control and STD's. i would definetly say that it helped me, because coming from a conservative indian family, we weren't even allowed to see kissing in movies. I would have been beaten for becoming too "American" if i said anything about sex to my parents, and i'm thankful that the school taught me a LOT about protection and pregnancy. I feel bad for the kids who have parents that are just too embarrassed/conservative to talk to their kids about sex and protection. Some parents just don't care, and i think it's great that schools teach children about protection, cause you know teens are going to have sex no matter what. At least teach them how to be safe and the consequences of teenage pregnancy/STDs.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
I didn't have sex ed in 4th or 5th grade. From 6th-8th I was home schooled and then in high school 9th-12th they never said one thing to us. Well, actually we did have a one-day 'program' in 10th grade where we learned about HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases but we also learned about drugs and smoking and what that will do to your body at the same time. They didn't say one thing about sex other than the HIV/AIDS thing and even then it wasn't a lot. I learned about sex from my mom ....and my cousin *eyeroll* not the best to learn from.. she got pregnant at 14. (she told me when I was about 8 and got it all wrong and my parents were pissed).
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I think our classes (one about puberty, one about sex & STDs etc.) were pretty informative, but way too late. We didn't have the puberty one until 6th grade, when 1/2 the girls already had already menstruated, and the sex/STD one was in 8th grade and a lot of us had already had sex.
ms_dior_cherie ms_dior_cherie 9 years
I don't really remember anything from my sex ed class. But whatever I learned must have paid off, no diseases and no pregnancies
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 9 years
I agree with ashley...I dont remember them teaching us about sex, so much as just how your body works. And yes it did come in handy because I dont think my mom would have had the time to explain all these things to me...even if she had I probably wouldnt have listened ( I mean really...when you are a kid do you want your parent telling you these But since we learned about it in school, we felt cool. Cause you know...only the big kids get to go to sex ed class. I remember my friends and I taking all our little phamplets and stuff out to the playground, hiding from the boys and giggling in amazement at the stuff we found in them. We didnt know enough to be embarrassed by it...we just felt so cool and priveldged to have this imformation infront of us...and I think that made us want to pay attention. That and it was the perfect tool to taunt the boys with. (they wanted to know what the big secret was, and we certainly werent going to tell them.... ;) )
CoconutPie CoconutPie 9 years
I went to a catholic, all-girl school. Sex ed didn't exist. But I do remember a nun telling us that back in her wild years, before devoting herself to God, she did kiss a guy in the back of a car after bowling. So extreme!
BeachBarbie BeachBarbie 9 years
I remember one thing...a picture (slide) of a person's tongue with a giant herpe sore in the middle of it. :sick: I still can't get that image out of my head after all these years. :oy:
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 9 years
I learned how to use a pad when you get your period which came in handy for me b/c I was home alone when mine came and I just knew to go to my parents' bathroom and grab a pad from my mom's stash. I also remember in 8th grade watching a live birth on video. Yuck.
terryt18 terryt18 9 years
I learned adults get easily embarrassed talking about sex with young people. At my school, in jr. high, we had a program where high schoolers would come talk to us about sex, abstinence, etc. They were called "peer counselors." It was kind of pointless; I'm sure I learned nothing. Also it seemed all the peer counselors didn't practice what they preached. One girl got pregnant the following year. Parents need to start parenting and stop relying on society to teach their children everything.
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