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What's the Worst Backhanded Compliment You've Received?

What's the Worst Backhanded Compliment You've Received?

Why blatantly insult someone, when you can disguise it as a compliment? Intentional or not, some people have the art of backhanded compliments down. Like supermodel Iman for example. She told Parade Magazine this week:

Mrs. Obama is not a great beauty. But she is so interesting looking and so bright. That will always take you farther. When you’re a great beauty, it’s always downhill for you. If you’re someone like Mrs. Obama, you just get better with age.

Who wants to be a great beauty anyway, when you can be, uh, interesting looking? Other backhanded compliments include: "You age so well." Or, "You look great! Did you lose weight?"

Have you received any memorable critical compliments?


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Epicdoodle Epicdoodle 6 years
ok so I'm very late to this discussion but anyways - It seems like Iman likes making theses kinds of comments, I remember in a Harper’s Bazaar interview she mentioned how one of the younger models came up to her and said "I hope I look as good as you when I’m your age,” and Iman said [to the model]“Don’t worry, darling, you won’t.” :o How rude!
tayrose tayrose 7 years
One day during high school, my best friend got a backhanded compliment that said: "Micaela, you are so pretty. It's so weird, whenever I think of the really pretty girls in our class, I NEVER thought of you, but you are really pretty!" Hahahahaha.
Beauty Beauty 8 years
I was once told that I have a "big butt for a white girl" and that threw me (came from a coworker). But I don't think that is anywhere nearly as frustrating as it must be for black women to hear about how "articulate" they are, or that they "don't sound black." One of my oldest, dearest friends gets this frequently, and sometimes, she says, "Actually, this *is* what black sounds like." I also think that calling someone "exotic" is so *not* a compliment. I've gotten it twice in the last month or so, and I never know what to say.
Symphonee Symphonee 8 years
" You are much smarter than other black girls" as told by a white Staff SGT. in the Army. "You should be happy you have the smarts instead of looks" old friend "You are going to be normal sized when you are old because you metabolism keeps you skinny now" "We always knew your kids would be gorgeous, you know what they say about making pretty babies" second cousin (the saying is ugly people make pretty babies and yes she got hers with an accidentally spilled soda)
sloane220 sloane220 8 years
@anonymous 6:26 am- there's systematic racism and white privilege. look it up. and you'll see how all "racial" comments aren't equal, okay? get real. but i'll give you a brief synopsis: in america, one group gets a variety of nuanced and diverse images reflected back to society in the media. every other minority group typically gets a one-dimensional, mostly negative image reflected back society. society forms opinions and sterotypes about certain groups and acts on those terms and THEN tell me all discriminatory comments are equal. ::ROLLING MY EYES HARD::
sloane220 sloane220 8 years
and if they choose to form the stereotype that all "black people will beat my ass when i try to put them down, but in a "nice" way", then that's their fucking fault, too. i'm not responsible for developing another adult's brain, but i can make them think twice about not having any tact.
sloane220 sloane220 8 years
allyta-first of all, it's not my fucking job to prove some idiot's stereotype of black women wrong. i'm an INDIVIDUAL and i DEMAND to be treated as such. it's THEIR job to PICK UP A BOOK OR DO SOMETHING, ANYTHING to educate THEMSELVES and learn not to make UNINFORMED assumptions ABOUT ENTIRE GROUPS OF PEOPLE. if some jackass decides to open their fat mouth and fling some of their stereotypical uneducated bullshit at me, and i feel like punching their ass in the face in reaction to that, then that's,their fault, not mine.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
I dont find MO attractive at all, but thats just my opinion. I dont think she is ugly, just not attractive.
Rebecca14916991 Rebecca14916991 8 years
"Wow, you're pretty when you try to be" That's pretty backhanded, if you ask me.
Allytta Allytta 8 years
dm8bri, i don't see anything wrong with that. i don't have those and all the women in my family have to have caesarian and i'm a bit freaked out. i myself was actually stuck half way through my birth so yeah, that's a compliment. and just because it your DAD god forbid...
LuvLeoDiCaprio LuvLeoDiCaprio 8 years
ONe of my good friends is good w/ backhanded compliments. It really used to annoy me.
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
My dad told me (I was in highschool, mind you) that I had "good birthing hips." ugh.
Allytta Allytta 8 years
"can i ask you a queastion?" "go ahead" "are you pregnant?" that was kind of hurtful, since i wasn't. and the guy who asked my weighted like 280lbs. and to all the "black girls" who say people should be punched in the face for comments like "you're pretty well spoken for a black girl" - you just proved the stereotype.
oni1 oni1 8 years
i've also gotten the 'you speak so proper' compliment from my own race as well as others. that is often followed by 'are you part black?' sigh. at least now they know not to assume that we all speak one way.
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