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What Are Your Rules of Dating?

Dating can feel like a chore if you're with someone who's not meeting all your expectations. Since no one likes to settle, knowing if your potential mate can meet your needs is important to decipher as soon as possible. I've always had my own check list, so to speak, of what I like in a man but has concocted their own list of common first-date "tests" women use on men to see if they're worthy!

To see what they are,


  • She offers to pay for the check: Offering to pay the check is often a polite way to measure up a man; the way he reacts is a true test of character since so many women expect him to pick up the tab.
  • She expresses dissatisfaction: Knowing how to deal with small complaints is another test. While most men have no tolerance for complaining, if a woman is doing it on a first date, it must have some validity.
  • She sets you off balance: A woman with a cheeky sense of humor isn't necessarily poking fun, she just may not know how to get her hard questions answered. If her comments are off putting, her date should impress her by not squirming.
  • She invites chivalry: Chivalry still lives so if a woman's inviting it, her date should show her that he knows how to be a gentleman.
  • She lets you steer conversation: She wants to get to know her date, but she's also testing him to see if he'll talk too much. It's important to take turns talking and listening so one person doesn't control the entire conversation.
  • She drinks: It's perfectly normal to indulge while on a date, but less is more. Even if the woman is drinking, she's testing to see if her date will drink too much. Remember gentleman, it's your job to make sure she gets home safely!

Do you incorporate any of these tests when you go on a first date? If you have your own way to asses him, tell us what's on your check list!


rabidmoon rabidmoon 9 years
I hate stuff like this, I don't even read it. I prefer to be "in the moment" and make personal decisions based on what I feel and see and hear in the moment. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but I would rather make my own mistakes than someone else's, which is how it would feel to me if I needed other people to tell me how to date. :P
norajeans norajeans 9 years
Good lord that article was full of crap.
MsWalton MsWalton 9 years is one of my favorite websites just because of the articles. But, this one in particular was a lot to deal with. Geeeezz!
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 9 years
I don't know if it's late or what but I didn't even understand that list. We're armed with so many expectations it's no surprise we're all doomed to be disappointed.
jessie jessie 9 years first date was...uhh..13-14 years ago??..i think.. just be yourself, if you're loud and bubbly, then be it, if you're shy and quiet, don't act like the life of the party. don't try to be someone you're not, it'll come back to bite ya in the ass anyways.
xxkrist24xx xxkrist24xx 9 years
This is way too much thinking for me for a first date... I just like to relax and have a good time -- how else I am going to know if I'll have a good time with the guy normally?
Fallen85 Fallen85 9 years
The sad part is that this article was written by a woman. To each their own, I guess.
sourcherry sourcherry 9 years
Lol, men and their big egos... All we do is a test to them? It doesn't cross their minds that we drink because...we feel like drinking? Ha, articles always make me laugh ;)
Clarby Clarby 9 years
Thank you whiplash! So I subjected myself to reading the article just because I thought it would be a laugh and I was right. Seriously if a guy or a girl is worrying about these things then for me the date is going to be a disaster. Be yourself, some of the best first dates are last dates. Why should you be trying to assure yourself of a second date if you don't even get to enjoy the first date. Most of the stuff said is common courtesy, things that a decent human knows. However if you're not into some of them, why pretend like you are?!
WhatTheFrockBlog WhatTheFrockBlog 9 years
It's all game playing. Why not just be yourself and let him be yourself and see if you click?
MeggyPoodles MeggyPoodles 9 years
yikes. How are they going to enjoy the date when they are too busy looking for subliminal messaging in everything we do/say? CHILL. lol.
ilikeatea ilikeatea 9 years
wow they think we are these crazy chicks that makes them jump through hoops. We just want to make sure you aren't a physhotic killer!
javsmav javsmav 9 years
seriously?! I have never put this much thought into a first date. I just want to see if I click with the guy--it's not an examination. And I definitely agree with skigurl--that is NOT why I am drinking on a date.
itsme3683 itsme3683 9 years
I don't do any of those except for the first one! That said, it's so annoying when you offer to pay and then he lets you!!! They missed the whole point!!!
skigurl skigurl 9 years
i'm pretty sure the reason women drink a lot on a date isn't to "see if the man will drink too much!!" it's a) because she loves a good caesar (me!) and b) to loosen up!
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