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What Are Your Wedding Pet Peeves?

Whether you're the one getting married, you belong in the wedding party, or you're attending the nuptials of a friend or family member, there are always parts of the process that rub you the wrong way.

If you're the bride, you may be irritated that no one RSVPs before the deadline, your mom is too involved in your dress shopping, or you have a difficult bridesmaid. As a bridal party member, you may have a bridezilla on your hands, too many expensive showers and bachelorette parties to attend, or sleazy groomsmen to deal with. Attendees may be annoyed by pricey cash bars, ceremony locations not prepared for extreme temps (or rain), or lack of a plus-one invite.

We heard which traditions you'd ditch or keep and which elements you thought were tacky, so now I'm curious, what are your wedding pet peeves?

If you are planning a wedding, already happily wed, or still looking for Mr. Right, start sharing your big day with our community. Don’t forget to check the wedding content box on your post.

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weniamrdy weniamrdy 7 years
I really don't think little children belong at a wedding ceremony nor at the reception The last thing I'd want to deal with are a bunch of screaming madcap, mischievous children at such a memorable affair. Also, Either go along with the celebration of the bride and groom nuptials....or hush up! All the best Liz
Isista Isista 7 years
The only issue I have with weddings is overly judgemental guests -- especially women who have already gone through a wedding. "Oh, I hate those flowers" or "oh, I never would have worn that dress"'s not *your* wedding! Why else should anyone have the right to criticize someone else's wedding? Obviously the bride and groom picked what they did because theoretically they liked it, so what does it matter what you think? I agree with Anon (25). I just want to be happy for the couple and flattered that they thought to invite me to share this even with them.
lucyinthesky1130 lucyinthesky1130 7 years
Duplicate post!?! Oh well, gives me a chance to leave a comment! My biggest pet peeve about weddings is when they get into a 'prom-esque' style....tacky decorations (balloons and streamers), bridesmaids and groomsmen wearing matching dresses and tuxes (i.e. pink dress and a white tux with pink vest and tie!), the whole introductions of the wedding party at the reception (it reminds me of the prom royalty), it just all seems very generic. I love going to weddings where the bride and groom have their own style incorporated into wedding, it just makes it more romantic and less about 'trying too hard.' I know I am being very judgmental here and it is their day, but hey, thats what the booze is for!
snarkypants snarkypants 7 years
yay for duplicate posts!
PontNeuf PontNeuf 7 years
I loathe speeches. Nobody actually wants to hear people who don't normally do public speaking as part of their job blather on awkwardly or try to make ridiculously unfunny jokes that only half of the guests will understand anyway. We simply eliminated speeches from our wedding and everybody said that it was one of the best decisions ever.
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I agree with your last paragraph, lilkimbo. I almost posted the same thing. A few dislikes are fine (like waiting 2 hours for the couple to show up to the reception or not being able to sit down at the reception because there aren't enough chairs), but some people are just nitpicky. There was a Yahoo article a few weeks ago about this very topic, got about 1,000 comments on it too. Some of the pet peeves are just ridiculous coming from the guests: the type of food being served (whether it be fried, meat free, BBQ, whatever), the fact that the couple smashed cake into each others faces (really?), lack of free booze, the bride wearing white when she's obviously not a virgin, buffet instead of sit down, the type of cake, the venue, how the bridesmaids dresses match, lack of +1 for a friend/stranger, and so on. Some people are just critical and mean.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
^^Yes, I totally agree lilkimbo!! I had an awful roommate in law school who was obsessed with critiquing everyone else's engagement rings. Every time someone got engaged, she would compliment their ring to their face and then turn around and say something to me about how "their diamond wasn't that sparkly" or "you could tell her fiance picked out a low quality diamond just to get a bigger carat size." I drove me insane to the point where I finally told her that making fun of other people's rings is TACKY. So yes, I can't stand wedding-related judgmental-ness.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
It's odd that so many people are so against weddings on long weekends; I actually prefer them. It's easier to travel to the wedding and the slightly more expensive travel is offset by the fact that I don't have to take an additional day off work. What I make in a day is much more than the small difference I have to pay for holiday weekend travel. Also, as long as save-the-dates are sent out sufficiently ahead of time, the issue of guests already having other plans shouldn't be an issue. I'm not a huge fan of the dollar dance, but I wouldn't say it's that bad. I would never have it, but I think, within reason, people should do what they want at their own weddings. Which brings me to what is really my only pet peeve: People who are overly judgmental about others' weddings. OK, so it's not what you would do. Unless it's downright rude (i.e. asking bridesmaids to pay upwards of $1,000 to be in a wedding) or just extremely bizarre or tacky (I can't think of any thing off hand), just let the bride and groom be! They planned their day how they want it. Sure, the reception is for the guests, but a lot of the things mentioned when wedding pet peeves are brought up aren't necessarily selfish, they're just a matter of personal preference.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
The bouquet toss when it's forced. I participated in it at my best friend's wedding because I wanted to and it was fun, but generally it's the most embarrassing thing at the wedding, and I don't usually consider myself "single," just unmarried. A ton of drawn-out dances that guests are just supposed to sit and watch also annoy me.
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
Brides who get pushy and try to force non-married women to participate in the bouquet toss. SO stupid and annoying! Also, brides who talk non-stop about their wedding for the entire year leading up to it - um, I don't care about your color scheme or your post-ceremony transportation. Being stuck next to people you don't know at receptions with seated dinners, where the dinner itself takes 2+ hours and your date is seated separately from you at the wedding party table.
MuppetsForDinner MuppetsForDinner 7 years
tacky: cash bar, dollar dance, pushing single women into doing bouquet toss
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I agree with most of your list :)
vertes vertes 7 years
Lack of + guest invite / female guests who wear white / MOBs who display all the cleavage they can find / bridesmaids who disappear for months & show up a week before the wedding. Maudlin toasts / embarassing toasts by BFFs / brides who don't circulate during the reception. A single bottle of wine on a table for 8 with no replenishment - if providing more is burdensome, don't offer any. If the wedding couple doesn't drink, they shouldn't serve alcohol. If wine (& beer) are served, a cash bar for mixed drinks & hard alcohol is fine. Big no-no is guests who overdrink because it's free. They often behave badly after that. Hoggy-pushy bouquet catchers aren't appreciated either.
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I used to be weird about the dollar dance until I did research on it and learned it's history and tradition. I don't think it's rude or tacky because you don't have to pay to dance with the bride or groom, it's just a time setup where you can give a few bucks if you want to. Some couples even do it with chewing gum or fake money :)
sarasonne sarasonne 7 years
I despise the "dollar dance" where you can dance with the bride/groom only if you throw a dollar in. It seems rude & very tacky to me. Everyone already bought you at least one wedding/engagement present, now you want a couple bucks more?
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
I dislike it when people plan their weddings on holiday weekends, especially if there are people coming from out of town. Gas and airfare prices are higher at these times and people plan family events on 3 day weekends. 2 years back, my bf's cousin planned her wedding for memorial day weekend when we had Vegas plans for my birthday. Had to cancel, never got to go. Guests also shouldn't have to wait an hour or more for the bridal party to show up to the reception and the B&G should plan for extreme weather (sun/heat/rain). As a guest, I have no problem paying for my own alcoholic drink (as long as water and other non-alcohol drinks are free). From the brides side, others projecting their bad relationships/marriage onto your upcoming marriage (whether it be in the form of rude comments or flat out jealousy and lack of enthusiasm). Why can't people be happy for others? Lots of people have gotten engaged before me and I'm still very happy for them. The worst is when it's your own sibling.
idanceinmycar idanceinmycar 7 years
@inlove - yes, it drives me up a wall that there is no organization, and I'm not even a super organized person in general. But it's common courtesy that if there are other people involved, you should keep them in the loop. Apparently it's too much to ask! Can't wait til that wedding is over!
Ac2366 Ac2366 7 years
I'm just tired of hearing about weddings in general.
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