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When Do You, Um, Let Out Your Unladylike Behavior?

When you first start dating someone, you try to be on your best behavior. You do and say things that make you seem perfectly lovable, so you can win his or her affection.

After that, the relationship starts to change, and you become more relaxed and easygoing with one another. But just how comfortable do you let it get? More specifically, how do you feel about passing gas in front of your new love?

Do you show every aspect of yourself right away, both the good and not-so-good parts? Do you wait until you get to know each other before letting out your true personality (pun intended)? Or do you think that farting in front of your significant other is completely unacceptable and unladylike?


CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
to the comment that "you must not respect eachother" if you do fart, wow another wow to that. On that same note. Please read Wikipedias entry on what Flatulence is: Flatus is expelled under pressure through the anus, whereby, as a result of the voluntary or involuntary tensing of the anal sphincter, the rapid evacuation of gases from the lower intestine occurs. Depending upon the relative state of the sphincter (relaxed/tense) and the positions of the buttocks, this often results in an audible crackling or trumpeting sound, but gas can also be passed quietly. The olfactory components of flatulence include skatole, indole, and sulfurous compounds.[1] The non-odorous gases are mainly nitrogen (ingested), carbon dioxide (produced by aerobic microbes or ingested), and hydrogen (produced by some microbes), as well as lesser amounts of oxygen (ingested) and methane (produced by anaerobic microbes) Tell me that isnt Poetry
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
This has come up before on DearSugar and i have made it no secret that i pooted first, and my husband thinks its funny. We dont close the bathroom door, we do everything in plain sight. How on earth is one supposed to be intimate with another person and not be open about everything? I would hate to see the couple so easily embarassed about normal bodily functions/noises. Sex must be amazing (rolls eyes) when you are comfy, you feel like you are so free to laugh and live it up. I want my hubby to be in delivery room and we ALL know what happens when you have children, and i wouldnt ever want him or I to be embarassed by it. that would suck.
JessBear JessBear 9 years
I accidentlly let one slip about 6 months in, and was MORTIFIED. I don't know why, considering he did it all the time. After we moved in together, I stopped worrying about it so much. There's only so long you can act like the perfect girl in your own home, you know? Although, my toots rarely have any smell (that's a vegetarian diet for you), and when they do, I still tend to turn bright red with embarrassment. For some reason, my boyfriend HATES burping. He will cuddle up to me and let out a huge stinky fart right on me, but heaven forbid I drink a soda too fast and have to burp. Weird...
gocalbear05 gocalbear05 9 years
My boyfriend and I were friends before we started dating. While we were friends, I NEVER passed gas in front of him! I would have been so embarrassed! But as soon as we started going out, we were so comfortable being around each other that passing gas (either from him or me) wasn't that big of a deal. So I think when you've been with someone for a while, they'll love you either way =)
Hootie Hootie 9 years
Together over 8 years. Married 4 years. We fart freely around these parts! :)
nikodarling nikodarling 9 years
It depends what sort of relationship you are looking for. If you want something long term and committed then he's going to have to accept that you are human, and part of that includes bodily functions. Can you spend the rest of your life with someone pretending you aren't human? Personally after over 4 years my hubby still says how happy he was to find someone who isn't totally uptight and doesn't worry about small things like this.
behemoth_the_cat behemoth_the_cat 9 years
Ladies, if you can't pass gas in front of your boyfriend, then you're not in a serious relationship. I'm not saying you should do it on purpose, but if it slips accidentally and you feel "mortified", then he's not the man for you. I mean, what's so bad about it? If he is really going to humiliate you for it, because you may have had a stomach problem and had some gas, then he's the one who should feel horrible for making you feel that way, like you can't relax around him. Think about it, if he farted in front of you, would you laugh at him in a mean way? I would feel horrible if my boyfriend was 'mortified' to pass gas in front of me...
graylen graylen 9 years
I suffer IBS too fluffyhelen... So needless to say, after dealing with that together.. passing gas is no big deal! I do tend to warn him though. He could really care less.
sunshinevaness sunshinevaness 9 years
Too much information has been said about this topic... lol but if you let a fart slip, it's no big deal! Just laugh about it and everything will be just fine.
Jinx Jinx 9 years
On the flipside of comment #45, I'm sure the women feel the same about their husbands/boyfriends. I don't need or want to know what he's doing in the bathroom, I don't want a production number when he has to fart, I'd rather not have to hear it or smell it, but when you live with someone it happens. Although the bodily functions are being referred to as unladylike behavior, I don't think its necessarily manly either. Its just human.
Soniabonya Soniabonya 9 years
I have GERD so it causes me to burp a lot and continuously. (runs in the family) I try muffling the noise but doesn't really work but my college friends were understanding and made games of my burps like betting how long i would last or see which one hurt me the most (trust me, they hurt). My boyfriend was part of the group of friends (he was more of an acquaintence) but he didn't mind the burps. We actually got into competitions. The one thing he didn't know was that I was gassy in other areas too -.- Eventually we got together and about 2 or 3 months into our relationship, after a day of romping around in bed, I was sitting on his chest, naked, plucking his eyebrow when I accidentally let one out. Needless to say I was mortified. I pretty much froze like a deer in headlights and looked at him to see if he noticed. He had this really shocked expression on his face and it melted into laughter. I dashed off of him and ran into the bathroom, embarassed but could still hear him laughing. He managed to drag me out of the bathroom and he told me he didn't care if I burped farted or whatever. It was just a part of me. The next day he accidentally farted in my face. We have been together for over 3 years now happily burping and farting. :)
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA this is sooooo funny!! So yes I will fart in front of my boyfriend FOR SURE. He thinks its soooo funny/cute that I let out a big fart and then in my little girl voice say, "excuse me". In the house I grew up in it was ok to do that. if you said excuse me and not at the dinner table or with non-family around. I still play by those rules. passing gas is not a big deal to me at all. 'just do it' hahaha
Mokona Mokona 9 years
Ha ha ha, I'm like bellasugar. I don't fart. Well, I really try not to in front of him, and vice versa!
Marci Marci 9 years
I just checked back in to read more comments and this topic is really funny! :D
citizenkane citizenkane 9 years
I don't fart in front of ANYONE. I don't burp in front of ANYONE. I think its rude and un-ladylike. Let the bashing begin.....
fashionhore fashionhore 9 years
I don't think we did anything "gross" in front of each other until we moved in together a year ago. When you live together, there is no way around the smells, noises, and stuff like that. You might as well fess up to it!
sparklestar sparklestar 9 years
As soon as he starts doing it, I generally will. I suffer from IBS and if I keep it inside then it hurts me for hours! I think it was a few weeks with my current boyfriend.. and sometimes I'm ashamed of the noises that emit from me! I always apologise. =)
Kristinh1012 Kristinh1012 9 years
I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years, and he was there when I delivered both of our daughters and witnessed all the gross stuff. AND I have NEVER farted in front of him or announced that I'm going No. 2 either. This has actually been a topic of discussion amongst us and friends on a couple occasions, and many of times he and the other guys have expressed how thankful they are when girls make them feel or think that they never fart or poop even though they know this is not true. From what I've been told they understand if a girl slips or they know you tell them you need to go to the bathroom and they don't think it's a big deal but just would rather not.
barjar1122 barjar1122 9 years
perfect Jess8902, isnt that the truth!
barjar1122 barjar1122 9 years
I dont do it on purpose but when my husband attacks me with tickling or just laying on me holding me down, I warn him that it will happen and he always continues until it does so, he must not hate it. Also, if we are in different rooms of the house when it happens, we warn each other of what just happened. We say "I left something for you in the other room". We are open and laugh at everything.
Jess8902 Jess8902 9 years
My husband was there when I gave birth both times, and there were much more disgusting fluids/noises going on down there those times. Farts are nothin! LOL
ChristinaVal ChristinaVal 9 years
I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, living with him for 1 1/2, and he has NEVER heard me fart or belch...ever. It sucks to hold it in but there are just some things that need to be done.
designerel designerel 9 years
I was comfortable enough with my last bf to fart in front of him. We'd have a good laugh if it was particularly loud. But now I can't imagine farting in front of anyone else. With other boyfriends, I was so mortified when it accidentally happened. So I guess it's nice in a sense when you are that comfortable with each other... being mortified is NOT a good feeling.
kiwitwist kiwitwist 9 years
The only thing I won't do infront of my hubby is goto the bathroom. I do not purposely pass gas near him, but it does happen.
youngest_sister youngest_sister 9 years
However my husband does it! All the time! :)
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