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When Is a Good Time to Meet the Parents?

Rantings of a Single Girl: Meet the Parents

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I've always been nervous about bringing guys home to meet the parents. I'd never be able to date and certainly not marry someone that they don't approve of. Okay, never say never, but the odds are pretty good that I wouldn't be able to. I've heard/know of too many people who have in-law horror stories. I wouldn't want any strong animosity between my husband and my parents or me with his parents.

Plus I respect my parents. Their opinion does matter . . . to an extent.

The other reason I'm not always thrilled about taking a guy home is that my dad is freaking scary when it comes to picking out personalities. Any guy I've brought home that he said wasn't good for me, wasn't. And I just don't want to hear that a guy I really like enough to bring home isn't good enough according to my dad. I'm not talking the "no man will ever be good enough for my baby girl" rubbish. I'm talking the my dad gives me a look, pulls me to the side, and says, "He's no good for you."

All the scary meet the parents stuff aside, when is a good time to take a someone home? When you are comfortable with him? Is there a time frame? Obviously a week is a little soon. And I'd think that a year is too long. Six months? Do you count from when you started dating? Or when you became serious? Or when you first kissed? Or maybe even when you first had sex? And last but not least, do you just wait until your significant other starts complaining that you haven't taken them home yet?

When do you take them home to meet the parents?

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bluesarahlou bluesarahlou 7 years
I kinda agree with mrsld....if I had your dad I'd get the meet n greet out of the way as soon as possible! My boyfriend has known my parents since we were 9....we grew up together and my mom was actually our principal. So they were beyond thrilled when we ended up being in a relationship. :)
juicebox07 juicebox07 7 years
1-3 months. I prefer to get it out of the way. My boyfriend met my mom before we started dating (and I met his parents beforehand as well, since I became friends with his sister). My boyfriend met my dad and the rest of my family after we were dating for 2 weeks. I don't think it was too soon at all.
danakscully64 danakscully64 7 years
1-3 months. What's funny is my guy met my parents on the first date. We went back to my parents house after the date (didn't know it was a date) and we watched tv. My Mom knew he was there and came downstairs to say hi. My Dad followed shortly after. It was all cool though :)
mix-tape mix-tape 7 years
I think 3-6 months after becoming exclusive is appropriate. At that point the family has probably already heard his name mentioned and are curious to meet him. My family lives 6 hours away so it is difficult to plan a meeting now. When I was younger and living at home, guys generally met my family right away. I also agree with Girl Jen about the dog test. If a guy can't get past my pup he isn't going very far in my life. Plus, I'm a sucker for a guy who spoils my dog, she IS my baby :)
xgreenfairyx xgreenfairyx 7 years
How about.....when you're comfortable? Geez...
Rjs-baby-girl Rjs-baby-girl 7 years
For me it's 1-3 months because I'm a serious person when it comes to relationships (I've always had long term ones since the age of 18). When I start dating someone I know after one or 2 dates if he's someone I wanna be with officially, and he knows right away how I feel because I'm honest (I even told them I wanted to get married someday, have kids, etc., and that if that's not what they want we will stay friends only). So I never was afraid of introducing them to my parents, there were only a few before my husband lol!
KateLynn2011 KateLynn2011 7 years
Not until I'm engaged or living with him!
skigurl skigurl 7 years
Within 1-3 months for sure, since I'm very close with my family and it's not a big deal for them to meet a guy I really like...they are easy to get along with and fun. Plus, I think it's easier when you live close to your parents...for me, we live in the same city, so it's no big deal. It's not like we have to travel 8 hours and take a weekend trip or anything to get there.
Girl-Jen Girl-Jen 7 years
I used to take guys to meet my mom sooner rather than later, because until just recently, the dog lived with my mom! Both of the dogs we've had, Lakota the Rottweiler and Missy Puppy the Mutt, are excellent judges of character. If the dog likes the guy, we're good for a while and there probably won't be excessive drama. If the dog growls and snaps and sticks her tail between her legs, he's no good. Now that Missy Puppy lives with me, though, I'll wait a few months. I tend to make meeting the parents happen during a celebration that'll bring a lot of people together anyway; a birthday, holiday, or big barbecue.
mrsld mrsld 7 years
I voted 3-6 but it really depends. I went to school 2.5 hrs away from home and have lived 5 hrs away since graduating. My mom only met 1 of my college boyfriends while we were still dating. Another one she met at graduation. That was probably best seeing she freaked out when she saw him (I might have been a bit of a granola in college :oops: )and she wasn't into the little stoner who stood before her but for the record he was a good student and is now a surgeon. After college, I have either lived with my sister or within an hour of her, so she was the test. If I could get them by her, I could bring them home to mom. Wow If I had your dad Star I would bring them home week 1! Think of what a great time/ heartache saver that is.
syako syako 7 years
*** wanna come for a free meal
syako syako 7 years
I rarely dated guys longer than 2 or 3 months, so the ones who lasted at least a month or two usually met my parents pretty soon after that point. Of course, back then, I lived an hour from home, so meeting my parents wasn't a huge ordeal and was usually just like, "my parents are in town taking me to dinner, wanna come from a free meal?" :P
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
This is different for me because I haven't brought anyone to meet my parents since I moved to D.C. When I lived in Ohio, I lived with my parents, so guys I dated usually met them pretty early on. When I was in college, it was more of a convenience thing. My parents met guys they were dating when they were already visiting for parent's weekend or for my birthday or something.
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