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When Married Isn't Married: Rights Denied to Gay Spouses

When Married Isn't Married: Rights Denied to Gay Spouses

Hey there, same-sex married couples in Vermont, Iowa, Connecticut, and Massachusetts. So you think you finally got equal rights now that gay marriage is legalized? Think again! Sadly these giant steps toward equality don't go all the way.

Same-sex couples are denied benefits granted to other legally married couples. While gay couples in most US states still have to fight for marriage, once they succeed, the journey is not over. Among the benefits denied to legally married same-sex couples:

  1. Immigration rights: Legally married same-sex couples do not have a right to sponsor their foreign spouses for green cards.
  2. Tax breaks: When filing tax returns, couples cannot check "married filed jointly." This can cost them thousands of dollars each year.
  3. Social Security, Medicaid, veteran, and other federal benefits: The federal Defense of Marriage Act denies same-sex spouses these rights. For example, heterosexual spouses receive Social Security payments upon the death of a spouse.
  4. Family and medical leave: Same-sex spouses are not granted up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave from work to care for a seriously ill spouse.
  5. Retirement: Same-sex couples cannot inherit 401(k)s and other property without a will.


ECULeah ECULeah 8 years
Oh yeah, and the Bible has been written AND edited my thousands of people - that's Bible 101 at any public university.
ECULeah ECULeah 8 years
To quote the lovely Liz Lemon, "What the what?!"
Great-Sommelier Great-Sommelier 8 years
more gay marriage posts?
greenapplelover greenapplelover 8 years
This whole issue is so hypocritical... there is separation of church from state, and people should be viewed as equal in the eyes of the law! Let people marry whomever they want, and if it offends you or goes against your own view of what marriage is, stay out of it! Making it a political union and not calling it marriage is trying to find a balance and please as many people as possible, and clearly it is pleasing neither side.
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
let them marry! this should be a civil right. those who are against it should see it from a different point of view. how would you like to be denied to marry based on your sexual preference?
RockAndRepublic RockAndRepublic 8 years
This is embarrassing for the US. The country should be shamed for it.
ivygreene ivygreene 8 years
I agree tlsgirl, "Separate but equal" is Never equal!!
bluepuppybites bluepuppybites 8 years
You'd think with our world with all the violence and hate would embrace people loving one another.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I wonder if the feds will ever resolve the issue. I am leaning towards not for a while, since I don't think they want to upset the people who are against gay marriages/gay rights/gay anything. I think it's wrong how you can be married, and yet not be recognized as a married couple in the govt's eyes. I just don't think back in the day, the gov't ever expected that same sex couples could marry and still be entitled to what opposite sex couples have. There isn't really a rule that states they can't recognize gay couples, so they have nothing to hide behind. Even if there was some lame rule, we can over-turn them to fit our society. The people in the US would be much happier if everyone was more open-minded. It's so sad for the people who are affected by this, they don't deserve it at all.
princess_eab princess_eab 8 years
Yes, they are federal issues, and will not be resolved until the federal government gets involved. Unfortunately, most people don't know/ don't care about the lack of these rights unless someone they care about is being denied them.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
its not a Damn thing, its important to alot of people.
Roarman Roarman 8 years
They are all federal issues. I think the point of the article is that although these states acknowledge these unions, the federal government still does not, and gay couples still don't have the same rights as hetero couples. This is seriously ridiculous that in 2009 we are fighting for American citizens to have the right to marry who they want.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
I was saying that there are tons of states who use the bible as an excuse to not allow gay marriage, because apparently they say it hints towards only men and women allowed to marry. I wouldn't know what it says, I haven't read the damn thing. But it does get edited a lot, by a lot of different people. So I mean, how can people in a states gov't use whatever it may say in the bible as a reason to not allow gay marriage?
Cassandra57 Cassandra57 8 years
Um, aren't those all *federal* issues?
wren1 wren1 8 years
:highfive: hypnotic! The fight continues.
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 8 years
All I have to say to this is we didn't stop at the Stonewall Riots in 1969, we didn't stop at getting the right to see our sick partner in the hospital, we didn't stop at domestic parnternship benefits and well I suppose we wont' stope at Gay marriage. Equality is equality and we won't stop till we get it.
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 8 years
Not to distract from the real issue whu=ich I don't agree with, THIS NEW FORMAT SUCKS!
xxkrist24xx xxkrist24xx 8 years
I can't believe that! Might as well just call it "civil union" then if they don't get the material benefits of marriage.
amybdk amybdk 8 years
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CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 8 years
Chrstne, what does the bible have to do with this? and the fact that it was written by "thousands of people" which is wrong btw.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 8 years
I don't get it. If you're going to allow marriage, allow all of the rights of marriage! This is just "separate but equal" all over again, and it sure didn't work the first time.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
Having gay people be married does not affect or have anything to do with other peoples lives but their own. I think we should stop caring about antiquated "rules", "standards" and pieces of writing that is edited by thousands of people -- the bible. This is 2009, we should let people live how they want to live and not even think twice about giving a sh*t.
CarmenP CarmenP 8 years
I'm totally with you, skigurl! Why shouldn't these people have the same rights as the straight couples? What's the difference? gay-straight-gay all the same to me!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
well that doesn't make any sense at all! it's inexplicable! frankly i find not allowing same sex marriages inexplicable too, but that's another issue. but where it is allowed legally, how can they explain these discrepancies and inequalities?
dm8bri dm8bri 8 years
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