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When You First Meet Someone, What Attracts You The Most?

Of course we want it all. We want a kind, caring, thoughtful, intelligent, polite, affectionate, generous, responsible, good looking person in our life. Someone who is good with kids, has a good job, can fix things, and has a great relationship with their family. We want someone we can trust and someone who will support us and someone we can count on when we need help.

While all those characteristics sounds amazing, that's what I would call the big picture. We can search for a lifetime. We hope that "the one" will have all these characteristics and more, but we have to kiss many frogs first! So I want to know...


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gossipqueen gossipqueen 9 years
MIND!!! it doesn't matter how pretty the boy is if he can't even add 2+2!
nessabum nessabum 9 years
The first thing would be looks because it will draw my attention, but a good sense of humour will keep me there. My boy is all three and the first thing I noticed about him was that he's dead cute.
missemma10001 missemma10001 9 years
Height and Shoes. I don't date anyone under 6'3". And shoes tell a lot about what a guy is interested in as far as music, etc.
CaterpillarGirl CaterpillarGirl 9 years
I have to say I go for the looks first. humor second. Dont want no ugly babies
<3-Gossip <3-Gossip 9 years
Looks only take you so far...However it is often the first thing I notice (come on..You do too!) You can't tell if a person has a good personality from across the room. But the guy has to have a sense of humor...and a BRAIN!
LadyLibertine LadyLibertine 9 years
As it was once said to me People are shadows till you get to know them. I don't care what people look like. If they are able to connect mentally with me, than I look for maybe more. People may not agree this is possible but than that is why I don't go looking for someone. Because I have to know them inside before I can look at them in anyway more than a passing glance.
City-Love City-Love 9 years
1. Confidence 2. Sense of Humor 3. Good Looks/Attraction
designerel designerel 9 years
I'm going to go along with the general consensus. I think it's pretty obvious that looks attract you first. You would hardly spot a guy at the bar and think, "Wow, he's so smart." MAYBE you might be drawn to him if he had people in tears laughing around him, but really. Looks are what draw you in, humor and intelligence keep you there.
Brians-Girl Brians-Girl 9 years
well i must say.. when i first met the guy im seeing now.. the first thing i thought is WOW.. that guys HOT! haha.. soo yea looks.. n then about 10 mins later.. i was like hahaha and he is a dumb ass.. as in funny! and i also LOVE that too!! :) .. soo i guess sense of humor and looks are the first thing that attracts me to a guy! and then after that its the whole gettin to know them deal to see if its really worth it
yoan190 yoan190 9 years
All of them. It's a package. :-D
keiraz keiraz 9 years
I can't deny that looks play a part, but if people don't like the way my guy looks then to hell with them lol it is me who has to be inlove with his face not them ;-) and sense of humour is a must too..beside being faithful and trusting ofcourse.. all the rest is a plus
creepupmytee creepupmytee 9 years
sense of humor definitely.
julibul julibul 9 years
(to elaborate) I mean seriously, I thought I was asexual for awhile until I went to a jazz concert. So talent is the FIRST thing that attracts me, apparently.
julibul julibul 9 years
Talent. Hands down.
sugajen sugajen 9 years
looks are obviously the 1st think you see and creates the initial chemistry but if after i talk to one and he seems boring, self-centered, stupid, or smells bad then the chemistry dies. A funny, casual, sincere,honest, attractive guy is what you can determine in the first week of dating..yeah it's alot of hoops but hey a girls gotta have standards
glam-sugar glam-sugar 9 years
Looks are the first thing you notice but brains and a sense of humor are a must! I don't like talking to people who have nothing intelligent to say and can't laugh and/or make me laugh.
kh61582 kh61582 9 years
It's all about the eyes for me. Yes that's about looks but it's also a window into who the person really is because, let's face it, when you first meet someone it's hard to get a feel for who they really are. The eyes don't tell you everything but they still can tell a lot.
Misskastar Misskastar 9 years attractive he is. It's the first thing that is noticeable! But secondly, once he opens his mouth, I notice humour and intelligence. Those two things are sooo sexy! Kindness is definitely up there but that take a tiny bit more to a date or a long conversation.
ClassicsDiva ClassicsDiva 9 years
It's kind of shameful, but when I see someone who's attractive, I have to fight the urge to write them off as a jerk. Too many bad experiences with hot jerks in high school who played off my naivete and dorkiness. Because of all my emotional baggage, I actually find attractive people unattractive. Go figure. That being said, I'm attracted to people who look like they are intelligent. Obviously, I can't judge how intelligent a guy is just by looking at him, but if he looks like a big old geek, it catches my attention. So really, even though I voted for intelligence, I suppose it's all about looks, but it's all about non-traditional looks, and I reserve final judgment until I get to know someone better. And my fiance is the perfect combination of all three, and I almost didn't talk to him because I thought he was too attractive and that would make him a jerk, but after being in class with him I saw how smart he was and couldn't resist.
KadBunny KadBunny 9 years
Any jerk can have good looks so I don't really put much value on that. When I see someone cute I'm not necessarily attracted right away, I just think oh he's cute. Sense of humor and intelligence do it for me. :)
Angelica Angelica 9 years
I suppose we all notice looks first - it's only natural - but sense of humor is right up there for me. If someone can't make me laugh what's the point?
tati33 tati33 9 years
yes junebrug...manners!! how could i forget those
tati33 tati33 9 years
yea, i agree..looks make it..i think for me the most that stand out are eyes and lips..but as far as the rest, intelligence but also a good sense of humor & someone that isn't cocky because that's sooooooo annoying :OY:
millarci millarci 9 years
Definetly sense of humor and intelligence. If he plays an instrument like a guitar or the piano, it's icing on the cake.
kendalheart kendalheart 9 years
Well I won't lie, there has to be an initial physical attraction when I meet someone. However, there have been times where after I got to know someone and there wasn't initial physical attraction immediately their other qualities like humor made them extremely attractive to me!
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