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When You're in a Relationship, Do You Say "We"?

When You're in a Relationship, Do You Say "We"?

It might be sort of pretentious, but apparently using the pronoun "we" when referring to you and your partner is good for your relationship. Those smug people over at UC Berkeley say so anyway — researchers there found that couples who use we/us/our are better at solving conflicts and experience less psychological stress. Do you use the royal relationship "we"?

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PrincessLtrain PrincessLtrain 7 years
Totally off topic, but I just want to praise Trés for "Those smug people over at UC Berkeley..." LOVE IT!!!
boredgourdless boredgourdless 7 years
I used to make fun of my friends for using "we" until I got married and guess what...."I" became "we".... Guess it's just the realization that when you're committed to someone, you come together and become a unit and singular thinking for the most part falls out the window. Though I have to agree, the "we're pregnant" thing is weird.
skigurl skigurl 7 years
since we do lots of stuff together and live together etc. i do say it alot but only when appropriate obviously
xxstardust xxstardust 7 years
KadBunny - I HATE the "we're pregnant" thing. No, honey, "we" aren't pregnant. We may be having a baby, but I'm the only one stuck lugging it around for 9 months! On topic .. yes, I do use "we" when the situation warrants it.
KadBunny KadBunny 7 years
I second tls; only if it's appropriate. It's one thing to say "we play video games" and another to say "we're pregnant".
lauraxtc lauraxtc 7 years
Si
hypnoticmix hypnoticmix 7 years
Yes, and at least in my experience they're absolutely right. Obviously you can't use it for every reference to what goes on in your relationships but I find that it especially comes in handy when I have an issue with something said or done so that my partner doesn't feel like I'm suggesting it's all his fault. One it keeps him from getting defensive and two there's a conversation rather than an argument. I'm all for that.
gigill gigill 7 years
Yeah, I tend to use it without thinking. It seems easier to say than "XX and I" over and over again.
leslievanhouten leslievanhouten 7 years
Only if it refers to us specifically as a couple.
PiNkY-PiNk PiNkY-PiNk 7 years
yup, almost always.
genesisrocks genesisrocks 7 years
When I'm referring to both of us
Victory2 Victory2 7 years
I started doing it without realising it, actually. but it's nicer for the other one and sounds less selfish than always saying I
runningesq runningesq 7 years
Ditto tls.
tlsgirl tlsgirl 7 years
If it's appropriate.
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