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Where Do You Stand: Dishing About Your Sex Problems With Friends

For women, when it comes to our close friends, we talk about everything, especially when things are upsetting, annoying, or worrying us. We complain about work, grumble about our stress, and bitch about our relationships. All these things are pretty normal to chat about since we're like each other's personal therapists, but what about problems with your sex life? Does that cross the line into the too much information zone? Do you think it's inappropriate to complain to your friends about your problems in bed or is that what friends for? Is it unfair to your partner to share that kind of information? Should you be talking to him about it instead, or do you think that sometimes, you just have to dish to your friends in order to get advice?


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Svend-la-Rose Svend-la-Rose 7 years
It's called an intimate life for a reason. If my partner gossiped about our sex life, I would dump her forthwith and bring an action against her for breach of confidence.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
I wouldn't trust telling any of my friends about my sex life. There is no one I feel I can talk to who isn't going to tell someone else.
rpenner rpenner 9 years
Nope, don't really discuss things with the girlfriends too much anymore. When we were younger, absolutely. We do share fun stuff but nothing super personal. Besides, there isn't really any problems for me to discuss anyways! :)
pink_magnetism pink_magnetism 9 years
As much as I might want advice, I don't think it's very fair to talk about problems in the bedroom with friends. I wouldn't want to hurt a partner by telling people about things he wasn't great at, or any problems he might have.
animatedpunk animatedpunk 9 years
my best friend and my twin sister are the only 2 people I discuss this stuff with. I don't think it's bad at all. We're very open about discussing our sex lives.
annbaby annbaby 9 years
I personally think it's ok to touch on the general issue, but I wouldn't get too detailed. Think about how much you'd be okay with your guy telling his friends about you - and treat him accordingly.
indielove indielove 9 years
Should stay between you and your SO. If you talk about an ex with your friends, that's probably fine. I'm pretty private so I wouldn't divulge much, if anything about even that.
workin9to5 workin9to5 9 years
I don't talk to them about it, which is okay, but sometimes I think it's a little unfair. All my friends are single and they tell me about their hookups with guys they date but aren't serious with--including things that go wrong, but also, things that are good. Not all the gory details, but we discuss. For me, I know that my friends will be seeing my guy again, and will always remember whatever I say about our sex life when they see him. So it's a no-no and leaves me without anyone to talk to about it...I really don't have anything bad to say, it's more that I wish I could talk about the good stuff I guess. But hey, there are plenty worse things in life than this. No biggie, just an interesting divide between me and my friends.
lickety-split lickety-split 9 years
i think anything detailing intimacy to someone not a party to it is kind of gross.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 9 years
I'm with DCRoamer. I don't dish about our personal matters. That's a boundary of intimacy I do not cross.
gummybears123 gummybears123 9 years
i don't go into like super detail about it because i wouldn't want my boyfriend to go into detail with his friends since i think sex is such an intimate thing and you put yourself in such a vulnerable position that you wouldn't really want other people knowing about it and discussing it.
missyd missyd 9 years
ditto....I dont think I'd share that with anyone. Too personal
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 9 years
If I had any problems with him, Id discuss them with him. Afterall, he's the one that Im in the relationship with Dishing about it with the girls is too Jr. High School for me - I think its just inappropriate no matter how close you are...
lattegoodness lattegoodness 9 years
I'm with sunshowers... none of my friends are that comfortable talking about it. I don't see what the big deal is... *shrugs* Sunshowers, you can talk about your sex life with me lol :)
MisterPinkNoTip MisterPinkNoTip 9 years
Usually just with a couple close friends. I don't go talking about that to everybody.
KathleenxCouture KathleenxCouture 9 years
I very rarely talk about sex with my friends and when we do its about their sex lives... I don't like the idea of other people knowing the stuff my boyfriend and I do in bed its just weird whether your my best friend or sister..i just can't do it
DCRoamer DCRoamer 9 years
I wouldn't dish about any problems or issues. If the situation was reversed, I wouldn't want my BF confiding in his guy friends if we were having some kind of problem. I think it violates the trust and intimacy that partners have.
Random2 Random2 9 years
I discuss some stuff with my close friends, but I don't go into much detail.
Sydney-C Sydney-C 9 years
I think I learned everything that there is to know about sex from my BFF and our sex conversations. We aren't as close in that respect now that she is getting married, but after a few drinks the topic always seems to still shift that way lol
bbkf bbkf 9 years
I don't discuss my sex life with anyone but my husband.
linb linb 9 years
Hmm, don't really have any problems in the bedroom to discuss. I gloat, mostly :) Kidding aside, it's not a subject that we discuss much, but yes I would talk to my friends about my sex life.
sunshowers83 sunshowers83 9 years
I wish, but even my closest friends don't seem to be all that comfortable bringing sex up in conversation. :(
melizzle melizzle 9 years
Dishing about sex was something I did a lot in college. Always made for fun conversation. But now I keep things between me and the husband. This is the man I'm spending the rest of my life with, after all.
Greentea1203 Greentea1203 9 years
I have one older guy friend who I can talk about ANYTHING with. I love it.
aimeeb aimeeb 9 years
I have a few close friends I might say SOMETHING to but I don't go into major detail about it.
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