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Where Do You Stand: Faking an Orgasm

Sometimes sex can be hard work and sometimes you're just too tired to put forth the effort. If you're more interested in having a short love-making session so you can get to dreaming, one option is to fake it. Some women have no qualms about pulling a Meg Ryan, especially if they're in a new relationship, but other women wouldn't dare fake a good time, namely because they wouldn't be able to make it seem believable.

So how do you feel about faking an orgasm? Is it something you do often or every once in a while? Would you do it to build your partner's confidence or do you think it's wrong to pretend like you're having mind-blowing sex when you aren't?


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Girl101 Girl101 7 years
I used to fake it with boyfriends, before marriage. But one time my husband told me (after I faked it), that he wanted to enjoy our intimacy but I did not have to fake an orgasm. Seems he could tell. Since that time I have not really had to fake it because I was a lot less worried about it. I was just a little uptight that I was not always there mentally or physically.
dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
Why would anyone fake it? My opinion is let keep trying until he does it right. Otherwise he won't improve his technique. Let him know you enjoy it anyway. Be merciful to the poor guy.
spanishgirl spanishgirl 9 years
From my own experience, for me it's been easier to get an orgasm on my own than with a sexual partner. I know exactly what turns me on, how to do it, and you just focus on what u want. I think this society has pushed us to the extreme (above all women) of having to look perfect for sex and we don't enjoy it sometimes because of this fact. I read once that hairy legs have more weight sometimes than a moral reason. How many times you've been thinking: i have to do my hair, my epilation, would he like brazilian wax, i have to go to the gym to look good and feel good,will he see this spot here, the cellulite there etc.. it seems that is so much expected from us that i think this is the main reason why some women cannot "get there". And i am sure that most of the women have faked an orgasm in their lifes, being absolutely honest. I am a sexually active person and i have been with different men and I HAVE FAKED orgasms. And i know is not ethical and that ur sexual partner has the right to know but, more than learning some good techniques and clitoris stimulation systems, what women should do is LIBERATE themselves from the social and masculine pressure and start to learn how to enjoy themselves, first on their own and then with their bf/sex partner.
Colleeninator Colleeninator 9 years
TFS, maybe the reason no one can please you is because you're letting them believe they're doing it right? Which leads me to why I never EVER fake. If you fake it, he thinks he's doing a good job when he's not. Beyond that, he should be able to take criticism without getting all whiny and crushed. Beyond THAT, I'm a proponent of COMPLETE honesty in relationships. I don't lie to him about anything, and I tell him everything. Annnd, like a few other people said, just because you don't orgasm doesn't mean you're not having fun.
TFS TFS 9 years
snowbunny11 snowbunny11 9 years
No, I haven't, but I've made it really clear that I don't orgasm often and I still love sex anyway. I don't know if my boyfriend believes me, but it's the truth! I guess like 1 out of 5 women just don't regularly orgasm, I just don't think it's a huge deal.
luvofashion luvofashion 9 years
i have faked it in the past, i felt sorry for him. lol..had to let him go.. i got an UPGRADE, so i don't have to fake it anymore, thx goodness!
warau warau 9 years
I'd rather my guy know what works for me then just fake it and be done with it. So no, I work it for the real thing! :P
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 9 years
Just don't do it. It's pointless.
jedimasterarmi jedimasterarmi 9 years
i've never faked an orgasm-use to, when i couldn't, i'd be like, "ok, i dont think it's going to happen" but now that i'm with the right guy he seems to hit the right spot everytime...maybe it's because he's willing to take the time to find it...whatever the reason in, i love it! :)
nohesitation nohesitation 9 years
Sometimes. Guys can be so sensitive -- probably to their credit -- about getting you to orgasm, but sometimes you just know it isn't going to happen.
karlotta karlotta 9 years
I would NEVER fake an orgasm - the guy needs to know he's not doing it right! That, and I'd feel sooooo tacky! I don't need to anyway, because in more than 2 years, my BF must have had 3 mishaps. And he heard about them! HEY BOY, YOU DIDN'T DO RIGHT BY ME - YOU FINISH THAT THING OFF RIGHT NOW!
MissMeow MissMeow 9 years
I used to fake it all the time with the guys I used to be with. They just couldn't get me all the way. The guy I'm with now, though, I've never faked it with. He knows EXACTLY what to do to make me scream...
tglynn tglynn 9 years
heh, nope. 1) because I'm a bad actor, and 2) my bf said he wouldn't want me to cause he wants to know what's really working for me :P
lily8206 lily8206 9 years
?: was supposed to be :?
lily8206 lily8206 9 years
There was a card on 'post secret' a couple weeks ago that read something along the lines of: I know she fakes it, but if she can't be bothered to tell me then I can't be bothered to do anything about it. I thought that was a great remark. If I'm ready to... stop ?: I would just tell him rather then pretending...
nourche nourche 9 years
Haha LaLa0428! I agree!
LaLa0428 LaLa0428 9 years
I never thought of this as such a huge issue. Who is it hurting? He gets the sex,(and a healthy ego boost) you get the sleep, not a problem.
dragonfly79 dragonfly79 9 years
Yes, I have and do on a regular basis. I see nothing nothing wrong with it. My man can give me an orgam 9 out of 10 times, but that one time, I have no problem letting him think that he satisfied me. Just because I didn't orgasm, it doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it. I do have a very healthy sex life and I don't fake it just for it to be over with.
TrnSmleShiftRpt TrnSmleShiftRpt 9 years
I am lucky enough to have a guy that 1) 9 times out of 10 gives me an orgasm and, 2) would rather I be honest and not fake one. He is not self-conscious if he doesn't please me all the way, so I feel open to be honest with him. I am lucky to have that.
kikidawn kikidawn 9 years
Nope never have. And don't ever plan to... I happen to think it is dishonest and I really try to never lie to my guy. Besides its rare that I don't orgasm ;)
pinkprincess1101 pinkprincess1101 9 years
nope my man can plaese
AujahAcorn AujahAcorn 9 years
used to. never do now. no reason to.
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 9 years
Oh and to the main question: No, Ive never faked it.
Alisha_Stiletto Alisha_Stiletto 9 years
I dont understand why it would feel like a "chore" for some people - I never have. I also dont understand doing something if you dont want to. How about a little bit of honesty and letting the person know that you dont want to at that particular time instead of doing it just to please them and ultimately lying (faking it?) I think thats pretty lame.
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