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Where Do You Stand? Flirting When You’re Committed

Although I would never go so far as to say that flirting is a form of cheating, I don’t believe that flirting is harmless either. When you’re single, flirting is often how a romantic relationship starts; it implies there's a sexual chemistry there. Then again, flirting is fun and a completely natural way for people to interact. So is flirting just inocent fun? Where do you stand when it comes to flirting once you’ve committed to someone else?


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ffemt1201 ffemt1201 8 years
I agree with vmruby 100%
melizzle melizzle 8 years
Flirting is like breathing to me. So yeah.
talanted08 talanted08 8 years
Flirting can be categorized in some many ways that it really can become a problem. I don't flirt unless I have a reason to! If I was to see my man doing this with another women then yes, payback would be a mother f*cker! I don't like to do that but if he's feeling her more than me I don't want him to think momma can't still get her groove on! When I flirt I don't take it no more than conversation b/c I respect those that are committed! It is disrespectful to mess with a married couple but if there willing to play the field why not!
vmruby vmruby 8 years
Being friendly is one thing but flirting when a person is committed IMO is disrespectful to your partner. I don't get the point of it unless you're looking for something more or looking for trouble. I know my husband wouldn't see it as harmless and I know I wouldn't go for it either.
bbkf bbkf 8 years
Eh, my husband and I are both flirty. We both know nothing more will come of it, so it's no big deal. Plus it makes bar tabs a lot cheaper, hehe. ;-)
lilwildone1202 lilwildone1202 8 years
i dont like it or really want my hubby to do it but sometimes it just comes out. i was always known as the natural flirt to all my friends and it just happens but i dont intentionally go out and do it. the same with my husband--he just naturally a talky person and there was this one time the clerk in a store was flirting wit him right in front of me and he was flirting back but didnt realize it was flirting until we argued about it in the mall. he was quite apologetic afterwards but... i couldnt hold it against him too much cause i know that im sure ive done it too by accident
Blackwidowchick Blackwidowchick 8 years
Yes there is a very thin line between being charming and friendly, and being flirty. I think if you intend on something to happen then you are flirting, otherwise you are just being friendly. My husband and I are very friendly people who can strike up conversations with anybody and we love to joke and laugh, but we never intend to take it further.
bigestivediscuit bigestivediscuit 8 years
Would not and do not do this.
designerel designerel 8 years
Well there are different levels of flirting. I think dropping compliments here and there are harmless. My boyfriend is a natural flirt-- he is just very charming with women. As for me, I'm a bit of a closet flirt myself haha. Nothing will ever come of it because we're completely devoted to each other.
richandfamous10 richandfamous10 8 years
It's not a big deal, I think it is fine to flirt as long as you don't have intentions to do anything beyond flirt. I've been in a relationship for a very long time and I don't care if my boyfriend gets dared by his guy friends to see if he can still get a number or if I see if I can still be charming if I run into a guy. Many studies have even shown that flirting is healthy for a relationship, it takes out that "wonder" factor - "I wonder if I am still considered hot outside of my boyfriend who always thinks I am amazing looking no matter what, etc." and it makes each individual feel that their significant other is desirable, making them feel even more special to have them. It is just harmless fun, as long as that is your intention. It is all about intention. I think it really sucks for the person on the other end, if they are lead on.
ladychaos ladychaos 8 years
*correction* ...flirting being overly nice and grinning at someone of the preferred gender of attraction? Sorry, I wanted to be PC to help curb discrimination.
ladychaos ladychaos 8 years
Flirt and don't touch. I mean, as long as you keep it as harmless, it shouldn't be an issue. After all, isn't flirting technically being overly nice and grinning at someone of the opposite sex?
rossinaross rossinaross 8 years
oh im guilty. very guilty. i do flirt alot. i have a problem flirting with one of my coworkers... ahh i hate being 'that woman' but i am.. i have a boyfriend and he's married, still we do flirt.. we don't cross the line tho. never i would never ever do that, not just because of my boyfriend but because he's married.
jessie jessie 8 years
both hubby and i flirt with others...its just how we are as people..our harm, no foul comes of it. at least with us...
simplyfab87 simplyfab87 8 years
I do it, but if you know not to cross the line. There is nothing wrong with a little flirting
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
*that was wacky...sleepy... I try not to be overly friendly but also, I try not to be mean...
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
Not at all. I try not to be overly friendly because I don't like to be mean to anyone and men can get aggressive if you act shrewd. It's a thin line but I try to walk that line when I'm committed. Not committed, I'm very flirty...but only if they are single too.
itsme3683 itsme3683 8 years
I totally agree with Lizrocks. I'm really outgoing and friendly so I tend to have very flirtatious conversations in the sense that I am being actively charming or witty or whatever. But I wouldn't let the conversation get innuendo-y or give off any kinds of "I'm single" vibes--I almost always mention my boyfriend casually just to make sure I'm not sending out the wrong signals, because I know a lot of times I come off as very flirtatious.
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 8 years
I only flirt with my husband. He's the only man that deserves that kind of attention from me. I enjoy flirting, and I'm really good at it, if I do say so myself (and per other men). I only give that kind of attention to the number one man in my life who gives me such a lovely married life. Don't get me wrong, I'm friendly and polite, but I'm like that to everybody -- men, women, children, even to pets. But flirting is different. I reserve that special, chemical interaction only for hubbie. :)
Shopaholichunny Shopaholichunny 8 years
Guilty. ;) But, I don't think there's anything wrong with flirting just as long as you don't take it any further than that. I'm known to be very charming especially if I want something. LOL and sometimes people can take that as flirting. My boyfriend does the same thing.
psterling psterling 8 years
I agree liz. Being a little extra charming and funny is one thing but if it goes a step beyond that then you're crossing a line.
lizrocks lizrocks 8 years
Erm, that should read "being generally charming OR making sexual innuendo?
lizrocks lizrocks 8 years
I guess I have a lighter definition of the word 'flirt'. Are we talking about just being generally charming and making sexual innuendo. If so, the first is acceptable for me as a married woman (and my husband who is a ridiculous flirt) and the second most definitely not.
CoMMember13630786602261 CoMMember13630786602261 8 years
Im not really a big flirty in the first place, so its not really an issue for me. Though I did have a boyfriend once who would flirt with girls right infront of me. It pissed me off to no end and I thought it was highly inappropriate. Turns out he was doing more than just flirting with them.
omilawd omilawd 8 years
I'll admit, I do flirt a bit, and so does my boyfriend. I don't really find it to be a big deal unless the person who's being flirted with thinks there's something *more*.
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