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Where Do You Stand? Getting Back Into the Game

The dating game is a funny thing; some people love it and some people despise it. In my experience, the more I date the easier it becomes. However, if I've been single for a long time, getting back out there again seems like a major obstacle to overcome. Part of me thinks it's just laziness, but the other part thinks it's more about getting comfortable in a new routine. So where do you stand when it comes to dating again after a dry spell? Is it easier or harder to get back in the game after you've been sitting on the sidelines?


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dikke-kus dikke-kus 8 years
I think theres some truth to what ilanac says. You can become a homebody. Put some earrings in and get some new shoes and a new shirt. Get your nails done. Where a little lipstick. Brush up a bit. But I also say just be true to yourself. If you're in the mood to go out then do it. If you're not then don't bother. It's OK to be comfortable with yourself first. Anyway just when you are, that's when someone right will appear into the picture.
JaimeLeah526 JaimeLeah526 8 years
I think it would be really hard for me to get back in the game considering I've never been in the game before. My husband and I only dated each other and then we ended up getting married. I would be miserable if I had to get back out there and date again not only because I love my husband to death but because I couldn't imagine having to deal with all the crap we have heard about on DearSugar. UGH.
Mesayme Mesayme 8 years
I really just quit. It's not for me. I attract what I don't want, never see what I do...would never settle, or compromise my I just quit. You'd be surprised how fast you can not care when you concentrate of yourself.
cubadog cubadog 8 years
I am also having hard time getting back out there. I am good on a date but I have been single for so long that it is hard for me to let someone in my life. I need to find some social things to do that I enjoy.
Muirnea Muirnea 8 years
I think it's harder to start dating again if you have been single for a long time because you have to get used to the lifestyle again. You have to get comfortable again. And I agree with Catherinette, that it depends on what happened with your last relationship, if your self confidence went down from the last one, you probably won't be super great at being confident about dating again.
moonwater moonwater 8 years
I guess it depends on what a person expects from dating. If you treat dating as a hunt for your next relationship, then it could be too much pressure. You put it off until you become the perfect version of yourself that you want to put out there. Me? I date when I'm not in the market for a relationship. It is so easy and so much fun to go out there just being the way I am. Oddly enough none of my long term relationships started off as a date.
partysugar partysugar 8 years
I find it has nothing to do with the breakup, but more to do with living a single lifestyle. I've been single for 3 years and I date, but for me to let someone into my life is really hard. I like my life the way it is and the thought of always having to call the boyfriend before I do anything totally scares me.
ilanac13 ilanac13 8 years
for myself - i'm lucky to not have to get back out there but i do remember when i was single and it def was a challenge at times. when you haven't been 'on the market' for a while, you have a different air about yourself and you become a home body and it's just not a good thing when you want to try to date again. once you're out there and you're dating more people, you start to become more comfortable with it and it's not so bad. i've coined myself to be the queen of the first dates since i'll give anyone a try - but there are a lot of times that i'm not willing to go on a second date. you learn a lot about what you want in a guy and what you're not willing to deal with.
Fallen85 Fallen85 8 years
The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else. I love dating though I truly truly truly hope that I never need to be in the dating game ever again, I do sometimes miss going on dates. Meeting new people, discussing new topics, being totally turned on or off in brand new ways, hearing the dumb stuff guys say when they're nervous... and the firsts. I miss the firsts the most. First kiss, first date, time in bed... so exciting and new. For me, I always loved dating so it would never be hard to go back to something so fun.
mondaymoos mondaymoos 8 years
I've never been very good at dating, anyway... I'm currently struggling to get back on the scene though.
Catherinette Catherinette 8 years
I think it depends on the reason for the break up. If I'm the one that chose to end the relationship, I usually have an easier time jumping back into the game. If, on the other hand, he was the one to end it, it tends to scare me off from getting back in.
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