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Where Do You Stand? Going to Bed at Different Times

Nighttime is a popular snuggling time for most couples — it's a great way to unwind together and de-stress from your long day at work, but what happens when one of you wants to hit the hay before the other? Is staggering your bedtimes no big deal to you, or do you have a hard time falling asleep unless you go to bed at the same time? Tell me where you stand in the comments below.


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sparklestar sparklestar 8 years
Same time!
LoveSarah LoveSarah 8 years
We used to always go to sleep at the same time. Now we have different schedules and he doesn't have to be up as early as me, and it keeps me up if he watches TV or sits on his lap top (the click of his mouse drives me nuts!) So, if he isn't ready for bed I just go with out him.
redstar204 redstar204 8 years
This always happens, I have to get up earlier than him so I always end up falling asleep and he stays up to watch tv/play video games. At first it bothered me (looking back I'm not sure why) but now its good b/c it gives us both quiet time to ourselves. Also he snores, its better if I can fall asleep first.
DaniD9183 DaniD9183 8 years
This is really a problem as of late in our house. I started a new fitness camp that starts at 5:30am every day during the week. When we do not go to bed at the same time we end up not getting any sex in during the week. My friend and her man have come to the conclusion that to keep their love life hot and spicy its best to do it right when you both get home. Waiting until you are both in bed will usually end in sleep only.
SeaAre86 SeaAre86 8 years
We go to bed at the same time usually. Even if I am sick or something he will at least lay down with me for a bit. That's the beauty of having a similar schedule!
lindssaurussss lindssaurussss 8 years
I have a problem with this. my boyfriend works third shift, i only sleep over with him on on his day off. because i cant go to sleep at 3pm when he does
aimeeb aimeeb 8 years
I don't think it's a big deal if you do.
bluebellknoll bluebellknoll 8 years
The hubby and I rarely go to bed at the same time during the week. He's the night owl and I like to be in bed by 10pm. But I'll stay up later on the weekend so we can go to bed together.
bchicgrl bchicgrl 8 years
we usually go to bed at different times because our work schedules are different. The weekends and if he's off we will usually head to bed around the same time.
Chica8a Chica8a 8 years
OMG this is sooo me and my boyfriend ... at least once a week its a problem because he wants to go to sleep early and I want to watch a show usually!! LOL he usually toss and turn's until I come to bed and he hugs me and falls fast asleep :)
clareberrys clareberrys 8 years
We usually go to sleep at the same time each night. We are usually just tired at the same time and like our going to bed routine. But that doesn't mean I never go to bed without him, just depends on the night I guess.
Chrstne Chrstne 8 years
We're always in bed at the same time. Someone will make a comment like "wanna go lay down with me?" and the other never refuses. It would be weird to sleep without him, but I'm not totally against the idea of going to bed without him either.
LaLaLaurie06 LaLaLaurie06 8 years
It's very rare that we go to bed at the same time especially during the week. I need to get 8 hours of sleep or more otherwise I get migraines so 10 pm is my bedtime during the week whether he's ready for bed or not!
skigurl skigurl 8 years
i prefer going to bed together. i agree with dear, right before bed is a good time to snuggle and chat and recap the day
Frenched Frenched 8 years
Sometimes I'd like it if we went to bed together and dozed off, but nine times out of ten, I'll sleep on my own first and he'll stay up watching TV/playing videogames. I've come to realize that this is a good thing, though. Since he's a "snorer" if he does happen to fall asleep before me, it's REALLY hard for me to fall asleep due to his snoring, so the key is that I always fall asleep first :O
jerassati jerassati 8 years
It used to bother me when we didn't got to bed together, and I could never sleep with out him. But now I work night shift as you can see by the time of my entry, so were lucky to ever go to bed at the same time, I really miss the snuggle time.
karlotta karlotta 8 years
He comes to bed about an hour before I get up. But he tucks me in every night, and I go back to bed for an hour in the middle of my day when he wakes up, so we get to spend some time together in bed. It does screw up our sex life quite a bit, because I'm a morning person and usually am in the mood when he's sound asleep; and he wants it in the evening, when I'm already comatose. The funny thing is that he showers and gets dressed pretty much right when I change into my pajamas. We're rarely dressed at the same time! It used to bother me every now and then, but now I don't care. If I'm going to spend my life with this guy, it's okay that we're not glued to each other 24/7. And since we both work from home, if we were awake at the same time... we probably would have killed each other already. And we always figure out a way to get on the same schedule on vacation - which is all that matters!
Ac2366 Ac2366 8 years
We go to bed together but don't always fall asleep at the same time. Sometimes one of us will stay up a little later watching tv. When I do go to bed first I have a hard time falling asleep. I fall asleep much faster when he's laying next to me.
care0531 care0531 8 years
My husband and I always go to bed at different times but we will watch tv together in bed for a bit for our unwinding together time.
popgoestheworld popgoestheworld 8 years
We go to bed at different times usually. It doesn't really bother either of us.
mrbig mrbig 8 years
We have similar schedules during the day and we sleep at the same time at midnight.
Anne26 Anne26 8 years
Ive been sleeping allot do to a situation in my life I could not handle. I slept allot for the past 4 months. I think that was too much rest for me.
kmckay kmckay 8 years
we go to sleep at different times... i have a hard time falling asleep with him next to me (but like some of you.. i need the cuddle time so he always 'tucks me in' ) :)
watereatsrock watereatsrock 8 years
we fall asleep around about the same time, he usually falls asleep first though..
pharm_chick pharm_chick 8 years
ugh this happens all the time with me and my hubby. im very schedule-ish, and i like to eat/sleep etc at a similar time, and hubby can stay up till we rarely sleep at the same time
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